I Need Some Pregnancy Advice???

Question

Ok so most of you women know i am 25 weeks pregnant and i love it but i have 1 small problem at the moment. Every now and again i keep getting this feeling like i made a mistake, even though my hubby and i are financially stable, have a good home and are happy(most of the time)lol. I just sometimes keep asking myself, maybe i shouldn't have gotten pregnant or maybe i don't really want another baby, you know those sorts of things. Its like i am second guessing our decision to have another baby and it scares me to death about giving birth.
I know my hormones are WAY out there, but is it really normal to have these sorts of feelings?

Answer 1

I did the exact same thing. Trust me you will be fine. It is totally worth it and there is no way you made a mistake. Life is a miracle and you created one. Thats really something. I know everyone does it but its still amazing. Plus this is something that is truly yours. Nobody else but the father can clam this baby. Dont feel bad the feeling will pass and once you have that baby you will be so happy and wonder why you ever felt that way. :)

Answer 2

oh dear its so normal! I am 2 months with my third and it has come as a complete surprise as we have a pigeon pair already and didn't want anymore kids for financial and personal reasons. So this pregnancy has thrown us for six!

My husband thought it best not to continue the pregnancy at first but after careful consideration we decided it just wasn't an option and each baby, no matter how they arrive here, is a blessing and fated to us. I am still going through a bunch of different emotions as to whether we made the right decision or if I am going to be able to cope with three children. Financially and physically! Its such a hard step to take having kids that its natural to second guess yourself and how you are going to REALLY cope when the going gets tough. One day I'm excited, the next I'm stressing out about having to cope with working and three kids (because financially I will have to work to pay for them all!) and raising them, and school fees in 5 years time and clothes and shoes for them all. The list goes on!! But I think at the end of the day, this baby was meant to be here and if we work really hard, we will cope. (I'm amazed I got pregnant in the first place because I had just had my IUD taken out because of problems, my grandma died, my mum went to hospital with a mental breakdown and I started a brand new job!!! This baby is one tough sucker!!)

with the birth, I was totally freaked out about the birth of my second child but it turned out to be a breeze and now I am starting this pregnancy with positive birth vibes in the hope that all will go well. Its the one totally unavoidable part of pregnancy so you just have to make the best of it and think good thoughts!!

Try not to dwell on any negative feelings and always keep a mental list of all the pro's associated with having a baby. That is what I am trying to do and it seems to be helping me.

Best of luck and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

Answer 3

If its not normal to have those feeling then I'm very abnormal, I'm having my 5Th baby and I'm feeling just the same, I'm only 14wks along and this baby was a complete surprise but I'm not sure how i feel about it all.

Things will fall into place for you once baby is born and you hold him/her in your arms, I guess we all feel a bit like that when we are pregnant because we know things will change once baby is here and hormones, ain't they lovely things!
Good Luck

Answer 4

I believe that one little, "I hope the baby comes out healthy", leads to all sorts of mini doubt sessions. As long as you had the baby with no special reasoning behind it....it's all in your head.
It's when you conceive with ulterior motives that guilt will find a way to wreak havoc on your mind.

I think with all the ultrasound uncertainty, the sharp pains, and the overall stress this particular pregnancy has caused, you're finding a way to somewhat regret the idea.....that's basically another way of saying that YOU are telling YOU, "See, I told you this wouldn't be easy", lol.
Good luck and keep your chin up.

Answer 5

yes i had that with my second daughter i felt i had made a really wrong choice i even went to the doctors to have an abortion and i dont even agree with them but all of a sudden i thought what am i doing i wanted my baby i tried for my baby and then i was fine its all hormones just hang in there and it will pass

Answer 6

yes its normal because your getting closer to the baby coming and alot of thoughts are coming to mind. I have four kids and now feel that i had rushed into things im 21btw.
but take it easy and just think posstive of how wonderful it is to hold your baby for the first time, and that smell that only last a month ..the fresh newborn scent. good luck

Answer 7

I know with each of my five children i had very similar thoughts but i would have to say the each life is meant to be, and no matter what you can love this child and can take care of it and raise it to be a productive adult

Answer 8

yeah thats kind of happening to me. idk what it is but i think in my case is alot different. im only 15 no stable income and yes i am second guessing myself as well. your not the only one im sure there are alot of women out there that feel the same. my friend thats 15 as well is having a baby and she told me that in the beginning she did alot of that but now she cant even wait to have it, i think it happens to all of us and its all worth it in the end, good luck

Answer 9

hell yes... I felt like for both of my pregnancys but each time I layed eyes on that little bundle infront of me I fell in love mushy i know but true

Answer 10

i had these feelings when i was pregnant. i had them untill i had my son and they all went away when i seen him. good luck.