im 19. my friend is 18 & having a baby, but cant take care of it & wants me to adopt, is that possible?

Answer 1

~Possible? Yes
Practical? No.
Stupid and ignorant? Absolutely.
The bytch got dumped by the father. Why would you want to assume the financial responsibility for the poor little darling for the next 18 to 21 years, knowing that when the next wind blows you're not even going to be able to see the kid let alone have anything to do with the raising of it? You're 19. Run, don't walk, away from the situation as fast as you can. True love lasts until the next something better pops up but parental obligation, adoptive or biological, is like herpes - it lasts forever. You're being played, dummy. Get out of the game.

Answer 2

There are 4 people involved in this story. The father of the baby, the mother your friend, the baby and yourself. Second part is that the mother wans to give the baby in adaption. What is the father doing in all this going ons. Your friend is first of all too young, but she has this situation she has to face. Surely she has her parents or guardians who may eventualy come into this family problem. Baby is not a teddy bear doll to be just passed around. It is one of the most difficult and delicate thing to handle. You are far too yound to handle such thing, there are legal arrangements. I am sure you are in a developed country. No adoption can take place without proper documentation. A baby sould be with her mother. If you are also married, then there is a fifth person in the drama. Go and see counselors who may help you decide that sympathy & pity on your friend is no safe haven for a helpless baby and her poor step mother. You are baby yourself.

Answer 3

well she may want you to adopt but do you really want to? Remember having a baby is a lot of hard work, time and effort. This is a life changing decision. The child will grow up thinking you are it's mother and when the time comes how are you going to break it to her that she's not your biological daughter. Plus, i think you have to be at least 21 to adopt a child legally. Think hard about how this will affect you. Good Luck x

Answer 4

yes, it is possible if you pass the vetting process.
You may have to take on responcibility of the child for a period of time first and make out that you are already looking after it.

But ask yourself what does your friend expect from you? you will be paying all the bills, having the sleepless nights and all the stress but she will want to visit and probably want the child to know its mother.

Realistically your friend WILL still want to be the childs mother, and where does that leave you?
You will feel obligated to let your friend connect to 'your' child when what you need it time to bond.

If thats the case you will never connect as if it was your own child.

Not to mention what affect this would have on the baby, the first few months are VITAL for any child for emotional and pyhsical development, being passed around could develop some serious problems later in life.



To be frank my advise would be to not do it, you have plenty of time to meet someone and have your own children.
Not to mention the effect it would have on meeting someone, unfortunatly some guys are really put off with seeing someone who has alredy got a family.
(just an observation not saying that it will definatly happen)

Answer 5

Erm...Are you able to take care of a baby?
I mean have you considered all the consequences?
It's really a huge thing.
But hey, who am I to judge, I dont know your details.

So...it is legal to adopt the child of your friend, if she gives it up for adoption, and you qualify for a parent. Are you mearried/living with someone?
Are you going 2 take care of this baby all by yourself?Do you have a big family to support you?How do you stand economically?
The social services revises all this, and if it comes down as you would be a good parent,(and here I mean on paper), then you might have a chance.
An easier option would be to give the baby up for custody to you, for a periode of time, and when your friend feels confident again to raise her child, he/she could go back to her biological mother if possible.

Although I must say, its seems very kind hearted to help your friend out like that, just think about your life as well, are you really ready to taek care about another persons life?

All the best!

Answer 6

She may want you to adopt but do you really want to? Remember having a baby is a lot of hard work, time and effort. This is a life changing decision. The child will grow up thinking you are it's mother and when the time comes how are you going to break it to her that she's not your biological daughter. Plus, i think you have to be at least 21 to adopt a child legally. Think hard about how this will affect you. Good Luck x

Answer 7

Please put the child first. Your friend can do an open adoption or a closed adoption. In the first one she can have contact with the child. In the second one, she terminates her rights as a parent. I think she wants you to adopt so that she can still see the baby and you do all the work and have all the responsibility.

If she wants to maintain contact with the child then she should consider open adoption and place the child in a two-parent household. Stable parents who have dreamed for years of having their own child. Your friend will be giving an unselfish gift to a stable, older, married couple.

You are too young. Please place the needs of the child first.

Answer 8

Don't take care of your friend's "problem." You can't tell me that **** was planned. Now she wants to dump it on you, unfortunately.

At 19, you still have no idea who you are, whether you want to admit it or not. That right there is setting yourself and your baby up for failure and a tough life. No matter how much you want to idealize it, it will be so much harder than it seems.

I'm sorry, but just don't get yourself caught up in that. All it screams is DRAMA. And maybe a stint on the Maury Povich show.

Good luck. Live YOUR life.

Answer 9

After research, I know you have to be 21 to adopt. If you did it privately, I don't think there would be any rules i.e. if you pass her off as your own. Do you actually want to?

Answer 10

see a lawyer...but does she want you to keep the baby forever or just for a while? and would she be okay with seeing you be the mom (an authority figure) and her on the side....