Is pregnancy and giving birth worth it?

Question

A few weeks ago my friends girlfriend said "what IF you do get pregnant, by some chance"? I thought how could I deal with it-seriously? I don't like kids, or babies.. unless they are calm and don't cry.

Were you happy after having a child? Do you think my dislike of children will change?

I just need a heads up. My fiance and I do want kids some day.

...I'm 23, it's not like I'm a "green child".

If I have kids, I really don't want to be the type of person to show my kids pics to strangers. I hate those people.

Answer 1

If you do not like kids then don't have any because they all cry.
All babies cry so if that is something you do not want to be around then you better get on some serious birth control.

I don't know what you will feel later on about kids.
I would be sure before you do get pregnant cause their are enough neglected kids in this world.

Being pregnant and going through all the pain is worth -was worth it and i would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

Answer 2

It is hard work having kids. THEY NEVER GO AWAY. It is a lifelong commitment. If you don't like kids, then you better wait until you either have a change of heart and are older. Kids do cry and they cost a lot of money and take up your free time. It is unfair to a bring a child into the world if YOU are not ready to sacrifice everything. I'm sure you will get a lot of platitudes in your answers here--like it is wonderful, blah, blah, blah., but I will give you straight answers. Also kids are individuals, in the Western societies at least. They have minds of their own and you will have to learn to deal with it.

I suggest you spend a week ALONE with 2 or more kids and see how it goes. Just you and your fiance. You'll see how each other reacts to different situations. This should be done with kids say ages 3and 6; then again with say a year old 10 and 13 year old. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes, it's worth getting pregnant and giving birth to your child after your marriage.You and you husband should be mentally ready for this and plan to have a child accordingly.It will bring tremendous happiness for both of you.
You will definitely love a child when you are really married and that child is yours.Every child is God's direct gift to a family.It's worth becoming a true mother in life after you are married.
A child should be a bit naughty ....that's what believe.If a c`hild is ery calm and quiet , there's every possibility that the child has some problem to be investigated.Moreover, it shows.....the child is little dumb.

God Bless

Answer 4

I used to feel the similar. I always loved kids but never wanted any of my own. I was always the "baby-sitter". I have worked at day cares, camps, and group home. So, the idea of raising my own kid(s) was too much after raising everyone else's. I didn't change my mind until I got pregnant. I was lying in a hospital bed talking to GOD b/c I was upset and did not want the baby. The nurse came in to take me to have an ultrasound. I looked at the monitor and saw my baby's heart beating. Suddenly, I didn't matter anymore. It is SOOOOOOO worth it.

Answer 5

If you know you want children some day, your fine. If you really don't, and he does, don't get married.
Are children worth it? That depends i am sure on who you are talking to.
Truth is, there a lot of work after birth, pricy, unperdicable, not always happy and cute, get sick, argue, dis obey, and dis appoint you many times over. Do i think they are worth it, yes! I ahd five and never have regretted it, but that usually takes till they are grown and on there own, to realize how great it all is. By the way, your a parent for life, it does not stop when they leave home.

Answer 6

ok here's my story. i was married at 19 and really wanted kids. the first 3 years of my marriage i tried and tried. i divorced him in the 4th year and thanked God that a kid never came of it. so i went to the doctor. he said that it would be highly unlikely that i would have a baby. he put me on a low dose birth control pill. so i had some fun and had a kid. at that point i was like oh my God..... so now she will be turning 15. its an eye opener. you think your grown up then you have a kid and you really grow up. its a money drainer. thank God i make about 18 an hour 33 on overtime. its emotionaly challenging. the terrible twos are nothing compaired to raising a teenager. you learn to stand your ground not only to your kid but everyone. i am that mature over 40 woman that you see at the mall that is tired with the teenager really helping her. i may not physically look it but i am. i have given up alot to raise my child right. alone time is one hour in the bath in the wee morning hours when everyone is asleep. i live on overtime for the extras in life. i have learned to be a consuler so my daughter has someone to help her out threwout lifes mysteries. and i have gained a true friend. someone to laugh with, someone to remember our history together. someone to grow old with and have a wonderful long life together. God has granted me a blessing that saved my life from bordom and lonelyness. and i learned how to truely love. i thank the good Lord above for all the drama, trama, and long nights of wondering if i am doing the right thing for "us" (my daughter and i ) for the love and joy she has gvin me. and no, i havent always had this job. i started out right after she was born making 5.25 an hour. and baby those 6 months working there were rough. one time i didnt have money for kotex and i had to make due by using a diaper or two till the next payday. you learn to make good with what you got.

Answer 7

i totally feel you there i hate other peoples kids i have to babysit this little girl that is spoiled and gross i think if you teach your kid how to be and how to behave your pretty content with them and they love you too. im really scared for childbirth eh but hopefully everything will go alright i think that once its over it will be worth it in the end even though im going to want to kill mself when the baby is screaming at the top of its lungs but then again i could have a calm baby like i was. every kid is different my mom told me that when i was a baby i only cried when i was hungry and nothing more. just have a calm enviroment and that will calm everything around you as well

Answer 8

You are obviously very young - too young to have children yet, which is why you feel the way you do. When you grow up your view will probably (but not definitely) change and then, if you need to ask this question again, having children really is not for you - because it's something you just feel you must do, regardless and outside of any advice from anyone else.

Answer 9

I could not and still cannot stand other people's children. But my husband and I decided to start a family, and three kids later I do of course adore them. It's different when they're your own flesh and blood, little people you've grown and fed with your own body. That first time they look into your eyes, you get this incredible sense of importance...They rely on you, and you only. And it's the most incredible feeling of all time. The way they sound, the way they smell...It's awesome.

Just don't ask me to babysit...

Answer 10

Your dislike my change. I was very happy after my first i was only 17 but i was just over joyed. Now with my 3rd it gets even better. there is nothing more beautiful then bringing a new life into this world and having someone who needs to depend on you. They love you no matter who your are because your their mother.