I was contemplating if I should continue an intimate relationship with my daughters father when he comes to visit on the weekends.Thanks to you listeners out there I have decided that I am better than that and should wait for a real man to come along. So what I need from you guys, is words to give me confidence to stand up to him and say no (and actually stick with it), because like you have said in the past.I deserve better.
So bring on the words of wisdom
2007-12-03 19:41:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A Haiku Affirmation:
He filled me up, then
Brought me down. Way. Too. Far. Down.
I deserve better.
Peace. Rick
2007-12-03 19:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rick A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would say that your life has moved on and that it is inappropriate to hold onto any remnants of the past.
You don't want to get into a discussion where he thinks he has a chance to win an argument, and continue to use your body as a convenience for his appetites.
Be firm, and do not waver. All men think they are God's gift to women, and, like a dog, he is re-establishing ownership of his territory every time he persuades you to give in to him.
Just say no.
Good luck.
2007-12-04 03:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD gave each one of us "the flame of love" that you have already started as the result of having those beautiful darling angels, your daughters. Try to cultivate your relationship with your husband. Pray that GOD will guide you along to re-kindle "the flame of love" which HE had give you and your husband.
Always remember that certain people touch your heart, and you can't stop thinking about them. That's the kind of person you are... simple, yet worthy to be special.
I will include you in my prayers. Have a nice day and GOD BLESS US ALL.
2007-12-04 03:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although marriages are meant to last, they don't always. My mother has been in denial for years. He has threatened her again and again- not with physical abuse- but she stayed.
The best we on the outside can do is offer our love and support- no matter what the desicion may be. Choose what's in your heart, find out if you're really ready to let go.
To be honest, I thought my father was a lost cause. I actually hated him. Now, even if I don't see it quite so clearly, he's changing. I used to think him unredeemable- he's proved me wrong.
The only one who ever truly understood him was my mother. I think it's the same for you. No one else can tell you what you should or shouldn't do- you have to decide for yourself.
2007-12-04 03:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just erase his memory from your mind.you are never too late.Think of your future and move accordingly.Don't try a "patch-up"kind of relationship with him.enough is enough.shut the door before his nose and tell him boldly not to disturb your family peace (this family is purely yours......he has nothing to do here).
I am sure , you are bold enough to do that.
God Bless
2007-12-04 03:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this same question not long ago but had another thought about it.
Are you telling us that he stays at your place all weekend. Well stop this in its tracks and he must find his own accommodation elsewhere not with you. It is not right.
2007-12-04 04:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by veraswanee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋