Is this anti social ?

Question

My sister called me anti social the other day, I asked what she meant exactly, like shy and withdrawn ?

She said that's a different thing, someone who is anti social is often the opposite and uses that to screw people over to get what they want, without any feeling of guilt or remorse.

I was like 'WHAT ? do you think I am antisocial ?'

'Maybe a little'.. she said, but I could tell she actually meant world war six.

So it got me thinking, maybe she is a little right there, but despite my deep love, respect and affection for humanity can I still be called anti social ?

I don't lie nor tell the truth, I only keep the balance.
I might make you hurt but never make you cry
I might use a fool but never cruel
I might rob your car but never your home
I don't start fights but I will finish them
I help the weak come stronger
I help the peace last longer.

What I mean is I might look you in the eyes, screw you over and make you sad to get what I need, but I'm still sorry and I still love you.

Answer 1

Your sister is wrong, she is not talking about being anti-social she is talking about sociopaths. If you feel guilt over something you've done, you're not a sociopath.

Answer 2

there's a big hole in this thinking, the lack of congruency seems to highlight the fact that whilst you knowingly rip someone off, yet except for that you still feel love for humanity.

It is not loving to get to know people and then premeditate to do them harm. And if someone doesn't forgive you is that not because they have lost trust in you? Therefore think about what you are doing, to use charm to gain entree' into someone's life, then rip them off makes them feel a fool. This sort of thing is highly destructive and also cruel.

Listen to your sister. Now put that clever mind into doing good things, sit down and think of genuinly good things you could do and do those things. Make ammends to the people you have hurt, maybe write letters. At least be authentic and constant - if you say you feel love for humanity then you will need to live that love by your actions. Love is also an adjective, it is not a given fact, love becomes a living force when it is put into action, otherwise by calling hatefull behaviour love then you have denied the truth.

Answer 3

Congratulations! If you're capable of worrying that you might be anti-social, then you're probably not really really anti-social (which is a good thing!). Well, if you lie easily and rob cars then that suggests that you have anti-social tendencies. But if you help people weaker than you and resist hurting other folks at least to some degree, then you're nicer than a lot of people..........

For more info on anti-social behavior, look up "borderline" and "histrionic" personality disorders. I'm not saying these describes you, but its interesting stuff........

Answer 4

The truth sometimes hurts. I think sister is right.

Answer 5

ur sister is right, u should not be anti-social