My fiance is 18 & will graduate hs in may 08, i graduated may 07. our baby is due may 6 2008. my problem is this. hes a good guy, would do nething for me. and now he wants to go to wyoming to a diesel mechanic skool(welive in texas) i dont want him to go. if he goes he'll leave june 26, 2008. the drive here to there is 13hrs. he says hell come home every OTHER weekend. but by the time he drives 13hrs here and back the weekend will be pretty much over with. the school is 9months long. and i know in the long run itl be a good thing bc hell make good money. but i dont wanna be away from him for 9months nor do i want him to be out of my babys life that long. what should i do? should i just let him go and do what he wants to do, or try to convince him not to. i love him and my unborn baby more than anyone else in the world...and i just want to do whats best for our futures, and make us all happy.
any advice would be helpful.
thank you
best wishes to all
good luck
God Bless
2007-12-03 18:35:12 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Yes Im K.A.B's Mommy :)♥ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well first he wont be able to drive back and forth bc he would have to drive through several canyons and living in utah i know how dangerous canyons can get especially in the snow...but you should convince him to go and myabe you can go with him?? i had the same issue with my bf going to miami to be a dirtbike mechanic so see if you can go with him
2007-12-03 18:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really needs to get a trade so he can support you and baby. Being apart would suck and will affect the bond between him and baby but he will probably be away from you guys just as much but for more than just 9 months because he will need 2 of the lower paying jobs he will be able to get just out of high school to support the baby. I too would suggest you try to find a way to go with him. In the long run you will both be miserable if he stays behind and just gets the straight out of high school job.
2007-12-04 02:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by moongoddess209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a harsh answer...
My husband is a Marine. We have three kids, and have been married for seven years. Sometimes he's here, sometimes he isn't. He's been gone for up to 15 months at a time...
And here's what I have to tell you. Yes it sucks. But, your child will not remember that he was gone either. If he is doing it to take care of his family (you and the baby) stop being selfish. YOU want him there, and he wants to be there, but he is willing to sacrifice to create a life for the two of you. There is no way this will impact your baby negatively, so suck it up for nine months, give him a hug and kiss and a great big thank you when he comes home, and be grateful that he wants to do anything he can for the two of you...
PS...Do not move a one month old child for nine months. It isn't worth your headache or his (Each of my kids has been four months or younger when we've had to move to a different state, it's a PAIN).
2007-12-04 02:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Karin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree try checking and see if by any chance you can go...If this is what he wants to do, if he can make more money and give you and your beautiful baby a more that what you deserve, than i say let him go. He seems like he loves you and he is excited about being a daddy, but he could be possibly making a great career move. Good luck in everything you decide on..COngrats on baby
2007-12-04 02:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i see how you feel i was sad when my husband had to leave for only a week i was 5 months pregnet i don't know what to say write down the postive that will come from the bad things then see which is better it will be good for your guys future but it will be hard maybe you could go see him you could go just leave like thursday get there friday and then he won't have to make the trip or what if you guys temper moved out there? i hope this advice helps goodluck anf God Bless you too.
2007-12-04 02:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how hard this is it would be for me to but you have to think about the future if he goes to this school then it would mean a better future for you and your baby, is there anyway you could go with him?
2007-12-04 02:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want him to stay with you with no money for the bills, food and clothes or try his luck somewhere so that he can give all of you a decent life?
2007-12-04 03:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by dazzle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to get some sort of training to make a good living for you and your family, so you will need to take this into consideration.
sometimes we have to make what we feel are big sacrifices for our futures, and for our relationships.
he is doing what is best for his family -- take care.
P.S.. i'm sure it's not going to be easy for HIM either.. he will miss you and everyone.
2007-12-04 02:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, i think its time you sat him down and talked to him about this, this is your situation and you need to work it out, you need to tel him you dont want him to go and he needs to understand that aswel, you are pregnant and you do need him and it is going to hurt you if he goes and it will probley stress you out alot aswell, also you need to see it from his point of veiw was aswell. i can understand why you are worried and you do need advice. good luck
2007-12-04 02:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by mummy of 4 babies :) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋