Everyday, we encounter trouble-makers that go out of their way to make you feel bad. I do my best to avoid such people, but sometimes, I cannot control my frustrations and I make a snappy remark to put them in their place. How do you handle difficult people in your everyday life?
2007-12-03 18:15:54 · 12 answers · asked by rockcrazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Move to another country
2007-12-03 19:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by xxxextreme_limitsxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different and if you handle one situation thinking it is going to be the same as the last you are liable to misjudge...you are going to have to carefully observe the individual and try to figure things out as they come. I am not sure if you will be actually working on the job with co workers who are aggressive..or working in a job dealing with such individuals. IF you are working on the job with such persons remember the work place bully pretty much exists some form every where...they can be difficult to read. It is important to not reveal too much information about yourself or trust any one too much. Often the ones who attempt to become closest to you are the ones who will be first to perform acts of passive-aggressiveness against you. Women are even more cagey with their bullying. It is a very sad fact of life...but the better that you do and the more that you have going for you the more problems you will have and the more you will have to watch you back as envious ones will try and "take you down" Make certain that you document everything...keep a daily journal. You have no idea how important things like this might be to you at some point in time...don't drop your guard to anyone. If anyone ever makes a false report to a higher up you have something to fall back on that the reporter has no knowlege of. This has been helpful to SO many people that I know who have had ridiculous things happen as a result of something totally coming out of left field
2016-03-15 06:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's actually no concrete way to handle difficult people...especially because people have different degrees of difficulty....
I think what you should do to be safe if you can't stay away from them...just ignore their existence...many of them are just actually attention seekers and if ever you further knew their life, difficulties etc. you'll be surprised at how lonely their life is...
you're even quite lucky that you only have them as a problem...not harder ones....e.g money,love and the like..
just don't get too frustrated with them honey, and if ever you really get insulted by their comments etc. or ways, give them what they've asked for especially if you know that they are the one at fault....people will sometimes praise you for taking that courageous act. but don't go for it always though...'coz people might end up saying that you're such a short tempered trouble maker even though you just defended yourself....
alright? so I guess that's about it..
just always remember that patience is really a virtue in those types of situations....for all you know other people might end up defending you if they see that you don't really fight back to difficult people...
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2007-12-03 18:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by dark angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in retail and I have to deal with this everyday
Honestly, the only thing you can do is ignore them and go about your life. Most of the time, people like that are unhappy or unsatisfied with some aspect of their life and being mean or trying to get a dig in on them wont make either one of you feel any better.
Keep doing what you are doing and do your best to keep the frustration at bay! :)
2007-12-03 18:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by TastesLikeChicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold them under water until the bubbles stop....jk!!!
I work in a grocery store... and normally I don't get rattled. Sometimes... I kill people with a smile. On a few occasions, customer's have said rude things or called me some rude name... I simply smile and ask them "do you feel it's necessary to speak to me this way?" other times... I will let them know that "their opinion is none of my business". Most people do not know how to respond to those types of questions.... so it kind of leaves them speechless. Always remember ... it takes two to argue.
2007-12-03 18:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I carry a concealed weapons permit and the look of fear on there faces when they are looking down the barrel of a Glock 9mm has made them leave me along. If one of them advance towards me while the weapon has been drawn, I take that as a danger to my well being and it's self defense at that point. I haven't been arrested for defending myself. When I ever have to fire my weapon, the cops do show up, I instantly claim self defense and have yet to be challenged on it.
2007-12-03 18:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it as mind over matter....I don't mind because you don't matter. It always works for me. Trouble-makers aren't going anywhere so I learn to deal with them by avoiding or ignoring them because if I give them a reaction (thats what they want) they'll never leave me alone
2007-12-03 18:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people need to get a life , Fight fire with fire they'll soon get the message to back off
2007-12-03 18:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by miss missie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tell them life wouldnt be so bad if you just let go of whats makes you so angry .the nice way ,do you because im going to all ways do me,dont be a hater do something greather
2007-12-03 18:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by msstockny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick them out of your life, or ignore them intentionally. once they see it isn't bothering you, they'll find someone else that it DOES bother.
2007-12-03 18:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Care Bare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋