people saying that thirteen is to young to date or be in love?

Question

is any one else sick of people saying that thirteen is to young to date or be in love

Answer 1

Nobody can say that only they know what being in love really means for everyone. Everybody at any age can be in love with more or less intensity. Even some 40 y olds don`t know what love is. What real love is, is a subjective question that can only be answered by yourself. Most people who says that 13 is too young were simply not in love when they themselves were 13. You can date and you can love at 13. Your feelings only can tell if it is right or wrong.

Answer 2

I certainly felt attraction and affection for girls when I was thirteen. I would have even said I was in love with a girl I had a crush on, but who did not feel the same about me. My feelings were real, at least in my thirteen-year-old heart. What I wasn't mature enough to grasp was that I was deliberately ignoring all the other pretty girls around me while I was trying to win the affections of one lone girl who was never going to be mine. Not that I thought I was some great lover, but surely there would have been a girl interested in me had I taken the time to look. So, yes, I agree thirteen-year-old boys and girls can have genuine attraction and affection for each other, but there are definitely some things about love and relationships thirteen-year-olds don't know simply because they haven't had the experience adults do. But that's what growing up is all about, experiencing life and learning from those experiences, whether they are mistakes or not. What parents need to get a handle on is their teens don't know what they do, and they need to share this knowledge with their teens. Sometimes parents just need to step back and watch their teens fall flat on their faces, and then run to pick them back up. It's just that parents don't like to see their kids be hurt, but that's life, and is inevitable. The best parents can do is share what they know with their teens, and impress upon them the wisdom of using what has been shared with them in order to avoid needless troubles and hurts.

Answer 3

Hi! People of all ages, fall in love all the time. And in fact, my great grandmother got married at 13... she's been dead for over twenty years, but that is how they did things way back when.

So, i suppose that she got married because she felt she was in love.

Today, it's a little difficult to "date" at 13, because in order to date, you need to drive a car, i'd think... unless you can take public transportation on a date.

You are obviously living with your parents, so i would imagine they will tell you when it's OK to date? Meanwhile, you can be in love if you want.

And if you like a girl, well, give her a call and if you two can get together and do things you enjoy, by all means do it if you are allowed.

take care and i hope it works out for you.

signed... a 51 year old mom

Answer 4

I'm not sick of it because I'm not 13 anymore, but if I was, then yes I probably would be.


People can say what they want, but I feel what I feel, and I never let them influence that. Sure, every 4 years I look back and think "How much of an idiot I was at that age." - I do that; In 4 years time I'll look back and remember my writing this answer.

My opinion is, love is love, I know what it feels like; I know whats platonic; what's sympathetic; what's forced, and what's just a plain old crush. Fact of the matter is, I don't fall in love with just anyone, and when I do it's based on personality rather than a shallow, narrow-minded physical-attraction.


Most teenagers, simply confuse a 'plain crush' - with 'true love.' I don't know how they do it, but they always somehow manage.

13 is like.. the apex of the off-peak of maturity/hormones/physical change.

Answer 5

Well, its not too young to be in love or date. Some 13 year olds are actually more mature then some 45 year olds etc. In actually the percent of that is really small but still. Love and dating is perfectly fine.

Answer 6

I did, but now I see why. When I was 13 and heard people say that I always said "You were probably the same way at my age."
You can fall in love at any age, but at 13 you have more important things to worry about. If you're failing in school or haven't been doing chores and stuff you're supposed to be doing then you shouldn't be dating. If your grades are good and you're a good kid, then you're responsible. but a mature 13 year old knows better and is more focused on the important things they have going on. Like school work and like other activities. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't make you mature, knowing your priorities and knowing that they come first makes you mature, and to be honest, that's what it comes down to.
You have school, and family, and being 13 to worry about. Having a boy/girlfriend is only going to keep you from those priorities, and could possibly lead to you making a stupid decision that will affect your life, and at that age, you shouldn't have to worry about that. Kids today are growing up way too fast.
You're never too young to fall in love, but the chances of it happening at 13 are slim. It happens, no doubt, but rarely. But 13 is too young to date.

Answer 7

Not really, because I agree with them. I don't think it's impossible for you to fall in love at thirteen, I just think it's VERY possible for you to MISTAKE something for love at thirteen.

And I guess thirteen is kind of a young age to date. I don't date and I'm thirteen. But whatever, times are changing.

Answer 8

They are denying your feelings, which is wrong.
Your feelings are real, and genuine and as strong as anybody's.

They just mean that their concept, or definition of 'love' differs from yours.

Funny thing is: They are right and you will agree with them in five years time. I promise.

Their concept of 'love' involves things that are appropriate for 18+. I am talking, of course, about sex. Someone of 13 years old, confronted with sex, might get hurt (physically, emotionally), or might even see all their chances in life blown out the window because they become pregnant, because they thought that would never happen to them.
That is the thing that people judge you too young for, and they are right too. The 'grownup' sort of love that they are talking about can have grownup consequences.

Your feelings are real and they should acknowledge that.
It's how you plan to act on those feelings that they think you're too young for.

Answer 9

I even have blended emotions in direction of youngsters relationship. i'm 13 and that i don't have a boyfriend, never have, no longer because of the fact i've got self assurance i'm too youthful, yet merely because of the fact i haven't met a boy i may be exciting in relationship. i do no longer comprehend if i might like a boyfriend, if there replaced right into a boy I had my 'eye on' i might probable experience jealous approximately no longer relationship him, because of the fact lots of of my pals have boyfriends, yet on the 2d i'm satisfied merely spending time with my girlfriends. i truthfully do no longer think of relationship in early youngsters can do lots harm regardless of the undeniable fact that. maximum individuals of their early youngsters (meaning people who improve up in solid properties and are taught morals and so on) comprehend to no longer have intercourse, kiss or flow too a techniques and in actuality all relationship is at that age is going to the action pictures in an excellent team of pals, now and lower back keeping palms and doubtless the dazzling %. on the lips or cheek. i haven't regularly occurring a relationship between human beings my age flow too a techniques. So yeah, i think of 13 365 days olds might desire to be allowed as much as now, offering they're in charge, extremely mature and comprehend their obstacles.

Answer 10

I felt the same way when I was 13. I even thought I was in love when I was 14, I had a year and a half relationship. I didn't really realize until I met my current boyfriend a few months before my 18th birthday that what I was feeling was actually love. He makes me feel like I found my other half.

You'll know eventually if what you felt was love as you get older. Unfortunately you just have to deal with the criticism for a few more years.