my husband is addicted to cyber flirting and chatting with women.i feel ignored.he desires for threesome.help?

Question

he is45 and me 36.he does not want me to work out or interact with other men.he himself has roving eye.he wants to flirt with my goodlooking friends hurting my self esteem.

Answer 1

sounds like you 2 communicate okay and you know what he is doing and you are not freaked out and running down the street shouting and screaming your head off from fright so maybe you need to hear him out. No one knows what your sex life is like so you have to decide and how is everything else do you love him? do you think he loves you? you haven't went for a divorce yet you are still with him so i am thinking you should chat more about it and try to figure out if and how you could do it don't just have a negative cut and dry attitude remember this is your life long partner.

Answer 2

If you need to, take his computer or internet service away. If he loves you, he will try to quit, although quitting at first might make him irritable and there are bound to be a few slip ups until he can replace this hobby with a different one. Cyber sex is an addiction for some. There are real hookups happening out there. If he won't pull his profile, you will have to find out if you love him enough to stay and forgive him anyway or if you wish to move on.

Answer 3

If you care and still love him and want him back to way he was before this, assuming he has not always been this way, give him an ultimatium, coulseling or the door. But, when you do that, you have to be prepared, you may lose him. Or, go to counseling yourself, try and find out what is going on with the 2 of you for this to be happeneing, the counselor will guide you.

Answer 4

Part of the answer will be coming to an understanding of why he is doing it. If its due to dissatisfaction in the marriage, then you probably should go to couples counseling. If he's bored due to losing his job or other things then maybe him going to counseling alone would be the answer. The important part of ever saying "should I stay for the sake of the kids" is to remember that the kids aren't as dumb or blind as you think. By staying for their sake you teach them that what dad is doing is right, and that what you are doing is the way a woman should act. Keep that in mind always, because kids whether intentionally or not tend to emulate their parents relationship.

Answer 5

I'd kindly inform him that flirting, porn, and unwise relationships are variations of cheating and ask him to stop.

If he doesn't end it right then or refuses to see your point of view. Have your minister or counselor talk with him. If he refuses that, apply social pressure - tell his mother, sisters, friends, family, church, etc.

Read the book Divorce Busters right away. It has good advice about cheaters.

Joy to you...

Answer 6

tell him the only way he will get to have a threesome with you and another woman is if he has one with you and another man first. that should sharp shut him up about it.
as for the cyber flirting, take the computers powercord. he'll have a hard time then hehe.

Answer 7

hey YOU ;)
oi clearly this guy isnt right for u
if i were u ,, i would dump him
but if u REAAAALLY love him,, tell him how u feel and he might stop
if he doesnt just piss him off!
its the only thing to doo but also take the love thing into consideration

Answer 8

apparently, he's not interested in the marriage...

and a threesome doesn't spice up a marriage, it's the beginning of the end of it.

take care of YOU, hon....

Answer 9

2. company.3. a croud let him know ?

Answer 10

i think there is somthing wrong with him