Friend and d-- rugs?

Question

One of my best friends for 10 years is seriously talking about starting up d-- rugs, ec-- stasy (sorry, got to put in spaces) to be specific. She has smoked pot before, and drinks fairly often, but somehow this scares me more than before. She has friends that want her to have it, and she really believes she "won't get hooked." She also wants a high since she has not had one in a while... She told all of this to me, and then another close friend while I was there. We are very very concerned about her, so we told a teacher we trusted very much. She says that she is going to help, tell the councelors to talk to her, and do whatever it takes to keep her away from them, while keeping us anonymous. She says she will eventually alert the family.
I feel horrible even though I've been told this is the right thing to do. Did I do this right, or did I betray her trust to tell someone??

Answer 1

sometimes you may lose a friend just to save them. When you think about the consequences of what drugs could do to her, I think you were a great friend that cares about her. If she doesn't think so then she is already a troubled person whom you tried but didn't save. Praying for you + your friend. Sometimes friends change + drift away from us, maybe this is what your friend is doing.

Answer 2

I think you did the right thing. It shows you care very much for your friend. If only we could all be so lucky. At your age and your friends age sometimes the best thing to do is to ask help from parents and teachers. But keep in mind, there is a possibility that it will not help and she will just continue down this self destructive path. There is a possibility that she may get angry and do it just because she may feel everyone is against her. But stand your ground and continue being her friend. Continue loving her no matter what and just know that you have done all that you can do. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

You did the right thing.
Good friends don't give a pad on the back to someone who needs a kick in the shins.

I am glad to know 'she won't get hooked'. Streets are worked, houses get burgled and shops get raided by people who were once sure that they would not get hooked. Some of them even incist they can stop at any moment if they want to, and can you lend them some money?

Your friend is wrong and you did the right thing.

Answer 4

I think you just betrayed your friend. Even though some people think it's right to tell an adult, I personally disagree. Adults will make everything worst by telling other adults (parents, school principle, and other teachers). It really depends on your friends personality. If she is willing to accept the fact that what she's doing is wrong then everything will workout. Although i highly believe that she won't accept it that easily. When i was in high school, one of my best friends started doing pills. Me and my other three friends confronted him and yelled at him using harsh language. He realized that we were just trying to help and he soon quit pills. However, I don't know about your situaion because your friend isn't a guy. Good luck anyway.

Answer 5

You did what was right, hon.

Your friend could end up in some dangerous situations with people who don't care about her feelings and get her high, and maybe even rape her....

Her parents do need to know, and by alerting the teacher, steps are being taken to make sure your friend is safe.

You're a good person.

Answer 6

First, the good news: "X" is bad for the brain, even in small amounts. For your friend to NOT do it, would be a good thing.

Now the bad news: It is a betrayal. Were you right? Maybe. But, your friend trusted you and I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't trust you again for at least a long time.

Now, if she were going to get a gun, or become a hooker, or steal a car, betrayal is your duty as a friend, but something like this, hmmm I think I would have tried to persuade her myself. Maybe get some info from different sources and weigh the pros and cons of "X" and she'd be against it too.

Answer 7

You did the right thing, sweetie, though I know it was hard on you. It takes a lot of courage to speak up and turn someone in when you know they are in a dangerous and unhealthy situation- more than it does to ignore the problem and let the person hurt themselves even more. My congratulations to you on your courage- you may have saved your friend's life by your act, and you deserve it !!!

No, you did not betray your friend's trust- though at first, she may see it that way. The reason she will have this attitude is because drug addiction ( and she is already addicted to alcohol, pot, and who knows what else) is a disease which affects how people think and act- and it can make them behave in ways which they would ordinarily consider to be wrong or cruel if they weren't high or taking drugs. Your friend's attitude is the disease talking, NOT her, and you have to remember that when she gets pissed at you for turning her in, which she will. It's very typical for someone who is a substance abuser to deny they have a problem, even in the face of very obvious evidence to the contrary. Sometimes, this denial will take extreme forms, such as a person shutting everyone one out of his or her life. This tendency will continue until the person reaches a point where he or she will do what is called "hitting rock bottom" by doctors and counselors who specialize in treating drug addiction. It's at that point, when the addict finally realizes that he or she has a problem which can't be ignored any more, that treatment can start, and will really be effective. The key to treating addiction lies in the fact that the addicted person must WANT help, and WANT TO RECOVER, before help and treatment will be effective.

Your friend sounds like she hasn't hit bottom yet, and she probably won't for a while. People suffering from addiction problems do this at different rates of speed- and sometimes, it takes a major event, such as a tragedy, to wake them up and make them realize what's happening. Everyone has heard stories, or seen such things on TV, about, say, cops whose wives or sweethearts leave them and take the kids because they themselves are drinking and being abusive. That's more fiction than fact, but it's based on a real idea. Situations like that actually happen in real life- and there are more of them than you might think, especially in today's world, where life is so stressful all the time. Drinking and drug use happen among people in all walks of life, and it isn't always a sign of a character flaw. The conditions have become so common that they are now recognized as diseases in the medical profession, and our legal system is slowly catching on to this concept as well, because it's cheaper to treat addiction and to prevent its reoccurance than it is to house people who are addicts in prisons for the rest of their lives.

As for your friend's belief that she can use exctasy and not get hooked, that's typical for drug addicted people, who often have the idea that they are somehow invincible or immune to the effects of what they are doing, or that they can control how much they use and and how often. HER so-called "friends" who want her to get high are NOT helping her at ALL, because they are doing what is known as enabling her illegal and dangerous behavior. This is just more of her illness talking- your friend really needs help, and you did the right thing by speaking up and turning her in. Her parents need to know what's going on, and so do the officials at school and in the medical community. You are right as well to be concerned and scared, because exctasy is a dangerous drug. It is a neurotoxin ( which means that it destroys cells in the brain and central nervous system) and it is HIGHLY addictive. My sister is a neuroscientist and researcher, and when this drug first became popular with the club scene some years ago, she and her colleagues did some major research on it. What they discovered was how damaging and addictive it is- so much so, in fact, that my sister actually e-mailed me at the time to warn me never to use the drug. I have no interest in such things anyway, but it was interesting to hear the information, and I am passing on her warning to you.

You did the right thing, sweetie- and I hope your friend gets the help and treatment she needs. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Listen to everyone here, you did the right thing. You might of betrayed her trust, but if you did you did for the right reasons. You helped her alot, and telling an adult was the perfect thing.
Don't be upset because you did the best thing, she might hate you now if she finds out what you did but she will thank you later on, trust me. She needed help.
Go you! :)

Answer 9

You did the right thing, you are a good friend, that wants to keep friends around as long as possible. You probably did the most grown up thing you will ever do in you life. God Bless.

Answer 10

Yes of course your friend will believe that you betrayed her choice but you made a very grown up decision about the situation and in the end once she gets help she will understand that what you did helped her out.