Please help...I have issues..I'm 13 years old.?

Question

I am 13 years old and in 8th grade. I don't really know what's wrong. I feel like there are many problems going on right now. Things like my personality, what I look like, or me not being motivated. I keep thinking about improving things about myself, but I never do it. I will give examples of some of my problems right now so you know what I'm talking about:

1. I am currently in a Catholic high school, and I have to get good grades and write good essays to get into good high schools. There is one application in particular which was due 2 weeks ago and I have barely done anything on it althought I have A LOT of free time. I just waste it all by procrastinating. Now my mom has to pay a late fee for it..

2. I am constantly late for school. I can never, ever be early. I don't know why. Even if I wake up early, something usually happens and I become late. My mom is really angry about this. It goes on my high school record.

3. I AM ALWAYS ON THE COMPUTER. Either on YA

playing this stupid virtual world game which I am addicted to. I am always doing my homework last minute. My mom is really mad about it.

4. I am extremely judgmental. I hate a lot of my friends at school and they don’t know it. I get pissed off when my friends act stupid and can’t figure out something obvious, or if they get mad at me for getting better grades than them. I always think most people I know are stupid. Maybe I’m just insecure?

5. I am extremely shy. I AM LIKE NO OTHER PERSON. Believe that. I am not just saying that. I play no sports. I have pretty bad social skills. With my friends I am definitely this girl with a great sense of humor. But I am also VERY shy with people I don’t know. I can’t do little things that most “shy” people aren’t shy about doing.

6. This should actually top the list: I am motivated to do things, but I never take action. Like you see me complaining about all this stuff? I can never accomplish things. Like being early to school. Nope, can’t

do it. I constantly procrastinate on homework.

I can't even get myself off the computer to go to sleep.

Do you think I have serious issues?

What should I do?

Please give me useful advice if you can. I know I should calm down. I should start changing things I can, BUT I JUST CAN'T.

I feel like everyone is stupid. I hate my life and I feel depressed. I have been trying to be early to school for 3 years now. I have bad social skills. I don't do anything but go on the computer. I have many friends, but I secretly don't like most of them.

That should sum most of it up. Oh and if you answer saying you don't care..you don't have to tell me because I don't really care..

Answer 1

you type beautifully...articulate.. use spell chk....concise ..
me thinks you are pulling our collective legs...
what is you're question ...

Answer 2

It's good that you are reaching out, asking for help. You are fortunate that what you're experiencing is understood today as being possibly caused by clinical depression, which is a physical, medical condition.

It sounds as though your mother is being supportive of you and this will help a lot.

This link [http://sandbox.xerox.com/pair/cw/testing.html] will take you to a very quick and simple test to take. Note that the key points are that if you experience these symptoms for more than two weeks, you need to see a medical professional. With the common understanding of clinical depression that there is, virtually any doctor, a general practitioner, can make such a diagnosis and can take appropriate action.

I am completely serious. Your story sounds similar to mine. The trouble was that way back in those days, clinical depression was not really recognized as a common problem. I went through some very tough times; I don't want you to do the same unnecessarily.

Answer 3

Make a schedual and stick to it. it not just goes on your high school record it is permanate and no one will give you a job with this kind of record and you will live all you life homeless and jobless. Just look at a homeless person and ask yourself if you want that as a future. then make some changes. I was the same way and I am now 28, no job, no income and I have to take care of kids. No one will give me a job because they see that I am lazy. But really now as an adult I am not lazy. I am a hard worker, but I cant get my foot in the door. At least you have time to change, once you hit 18 there is no going back to do things better.
You want change but refuse to change. maybe if you see the world the way it really is you would buck up.
the rule is: once a f***** always a f*****. And it goes with you everywhere. don't expect to get married to someone decent. there is no free lunch.
You have to get off your but or just add yourself to the ranks of loosers on welfare.

Answer 4

stop stressing. there is plenty of serious stuff to worry about later on, enjoy your youth and strength and freedom and innocence 'cause life changes you-- but you will remember these years with some fondess, no matter what, and yes you will laugh someday at the stupid things you do now.

but for now, I will tell you this: I always used to worry about who I'd grow up to be, and you know what? I'm exactly who I wanted to be, things just have a way of working out to your best advantage (most of the time anyway) so sleep late, flunk a course, pay the piper and move on. you'll live.

Answer 5

i think that i go through the same things you go through and i'm 15 so it's not gonna change much ^^
but i guess you have to set ur priorities straight and go for it one at a time.. step by step.. day by day~ like the song!
it's okay to have those problems.. cuz it's normal!
just try to break the habits that you have.. maybe you can have ur mom help you . you can work together on the problems you have. I know a lot of introverted people who soon open up~ it just takes some time.
So i wish you the best of luck, and take things slowly
go with the flow and you'll be all good :)

Answer 6

You're 13 -- this is natural.

When people talk about the hormones of puberty, they usually refer to matters of sexual maturing. But hormones also influence the emotions as well.

However, it sounds like you still need to develop some discipline. To have free time yet not get your work done indicates that you simply didn't feel like doing the work. And if "something usually happens" to make you be late to school, that sounds like just an excuse -- you're subconsciously FINDING something to do and deeming it vitally important, when in reality you simply don't want to go to school.

It sounds like you need to calendar your time. And after that, you need to expend the energy to actually follow the schedule.

Answer 7

From what you have written on here, it looks like you know what your problems are and how to solve them. There is nothing that anyone can tell you to do. You have to find some way to do what you have to do. Maybe getting off the computer would be a start. The best thing you can do to help yourself is to set time limits and follow them.

Answer 8

all this sounds like normal teenage problems. it's really nothing unusual. and about hating everyone. just try and think if you've ever been friends with someone who has not pissed you off once. the answer is probably no. and chances are you've pissed people off too, and that's okay! we all screw up.

just accept people's flaws and accept your own flaws. and if you're late for school it doesn't make you a bad person. chill.

Answer 9

hey sweetie..
you sound exactly how i did..
all of these wierd feelings and emotions are definitely normal..its just a part of growing up..you're only 13!!
as for the motivation part..you just have to think about the consquences if you don't do your homework and get back into the groove of things..
believe me doll, i skipped the last 3 months of my senior year..you don't want to end up like that..
if you have to, make a schedule for yourself..you could even show your mother so she could motivate you too.

best of luck!!

Answer 10

if i wanted to read a book, i would of asked for one.

now that i have read your book.....you have issues. learn ro restrain yourself from this "game". my "friend" spent 4 years playing an online world adventure game, and now he stayed back one y ear for high school, hes extreemly anti social, out of shape, doesnt have much friends anymore, and probably wont have a girlfriend, and last time i visited, him and his parents are really "apart".

quit the game while you can...this is you inbecoming, trust me on that. get off the computer while you still can, peope ruin lives like that.

Answer 11

You wouldn't have happened to be the 13 year old girl who was on Dr. Phil tonight who play her virtual world game all day and don't want to do anything else.

You have to break your habit and get your priorities straight.