i think i hate men! guys why are you such aholes!? i just found out i am pregnant and when i broke the news to my man he dropped me like a hot potatoe and skipped town! if i see him on the street im going to beat his azz with a bat! i thought he was perfect, he was always there for me. i cant believe he did this to me! i'm in shock. ive been with him for five years. he even ask me to marry him? i dont understand what went wrong. i feel bitter, angry, i can't even look at a man without wanting to hurt him. my life is pretty much screwed. help! i need advice.
2007-12-03 16:58:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm sorry you're going through this, but I usually have a hard time believing that a man just suddenly changes and becomes an a**hole. There are usually some signs that he isn't the most supportive man in the world or there has been other drama going on, and by staying with a guy like this you can't really be surprised when they up and leave.
Hopefully he will grow up and be a good father to this child even if he doesn't want the relationship with you anymore. And hopefully you will make wiser choices in men in the future. Good luck to you.
2007-12-03 17:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a single mom isn't that bad. I know quite a few single mom's who are happy and well off with few complaints.
My best friend was with a guy for 2 years and he already asked her to marry him but when she got pregnant, he said have an abortion or he would dump her. She kept her baby boy and is happy to have one man in her life who will always love her.
Concentrate on your well-being and your baby's health. You have something coming along that will be well worth all the trouble and wait. I'm sorry about your hardship though. It sucks when the guy you love turns out to be more of a jerk on a donkey then a white knight on a stallion.
2007-12-03 17:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Malina 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ok thats pretty full on. what a jerk. no woman needs to go through that. he must be a scaredy cat and running lol. what a knob head, i mean come on you 2 have been together 5 yrs, it must have been serious, and then he runs when you tell him your pregnant? what the hell is he thinking? well to me it sounds like he is scared to be a dad and he dont want to take responsibility for his own actions. well you know you can always get child support and next time maybe he might learn not to just stick his dick in someone and then run. thats nasty and iam sorry for hearing this. you dont need him, you sound like a nice person and hes a fool not you. congrats by the way. also not all men are the same, it took me a long time to relise that tho.
2007-12-03 17:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by mummy of 4 babies :) 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd be angry, too, but realize that a lot of this was your own fault for having sex before being married and committed.
Single guys tend to treat sex differently than married men. Single guys may love you and stay with you....but the news of a baby can change everything because they just aren't ready for that.
Basically, they want the milk (sex) for free, without having to buy the cow (marry and settle down).
I hope this will teach you a lesson and show you that abstinence before marriage is the best policy. There is no guarantee that your marriage will be perfect, but your chances for success and happiness are exponentially greater.
2007-12-04 01:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am in your same boat hun! My heart truly goes out to you. My man and I knew each other for 6 years and were together a little over one. He too said he wanted to marry me and he wanted kids with me (he has two wonderful kids with his ex-wife and is a great dad to them). When I told him I was pregnant he offered me several thousand dollars to abort the pregnancy. I refused; I want this baby and can support it as a dental hygienist. Once the child is born, get him for child support!
Don't give up on all men, but if you do and you're cute, give me a shout!
2007-12-03 17:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Karston's Mom - 7/7/08! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I agree with you some guys are a$sholes, but don't judge them all by that one d*ck-head. The only reason I say that is because I got pregnant by a sorry excuse for a "man" really a boy and said I wouldn't talk to guys again. (Thought about going gay.) Then I met this guy, he excepted me for me (pregnant with another mans child and all). And will be there for the baby's birth this thursday. GOOD LUCK and KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.
2007-12-03 17:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You better make sure you file for child support when the baby is born.
2007-12-03 17:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe this all came to a shock to him as it did you and he took a breather ...if he really loves you and if it was ment to be he will come back... other than then be blessed that god chose you to bare this child...i just had a m/c so please dont take this blessing for granted.
2007-12-03 17:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by christy 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2007-12-03 17:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋