No I don't think I could do the threesome thing with my husband but more interested in just myself with another woman. Should I just get this out my head since I'm already married or is it not really cheating since it's just another girl.
2007-12-03 16:44:30 · 28 answers · asked by estachicalatina :) 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What would you do if your husband said he was "bi-curious" and he "just found out?" Would it be cheating if your husband had sex with another man? Or should he get the thoughts out of his head? When you have the answer to those questions then you'll have the answer to yours.
2007-12-03 17:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by phree 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, if your husband isn't involved in one way or another, meaning directly through a threesome or indirectly through giving you permission to see a woman outside of your relationship without him, than it is cheating. The gender of the person you are seeing is of not consequence when it comes to this.
Second, all you can do is either talk to him about it and see where it goes from there, or suppress your desire for this and never say anything to him. You know your husband better than we do here, so only you can make that decision for yourself.
2007-12-04 08:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I thought it read that you were bi-curious and just found out you were married. I was wondering about that one...I suggest you get some counseling, not because it's wrong but because you are married. It is wrong to cheat but it is hard to imagine if you need to go out on your own and find yourself that this marriage would last. Cheating is cheating. Maybe you should rethink this marriage over the next few months. Be fair to your husband though it isn't your fault or his fault. If divorce is needed, then don't hesitate.
2007-12-03 16:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well firstly I know a family friend who caused a lot of grief on that situation by not telling the partner (husband) and in the end she actually left him for another woman. I would seriously either talk to a close girlfriend or a close male friend first sometimes just talking to someone about it might make you think twice. If you are happy with your married situation don't ruin what you have as you may actually regret it later on down the track
2007-12-03 16:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by ahumm_80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to your husband and see how he feels about it. If you're open and honest about it, he may see an "experience" with another woman as just self-discovery, or whatever. But if you do it behind his back, it's still cheating, even if it's with a girl. Hopefully he'd be okay with it (my bf said he'd understand if i did), but if not, there's no harm in fantasizing. I'm happy just having crushes on female celebrities like Christina Aguilera. If that's not enough for you,though, i hope you can find something that is, that isn't too much for your husband.
2007-12-03 16:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Nathalie and Rico,
You're already married and that means that you've made a commitment to keep your sexual activities exclusively with your spouse. What you'll want to do is give your sexual attraction for another woman a few weeks, see if it's as strong once you start thinking about it critically: if it is, then you'll have to figure out what you're next move will be; if not, then you'll be free to stay with your spouse.
2007-12-03 16:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by chick2lit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want to ask how did u just find out u are bi curious?
its still cheating and i can understand what u mean u would be jealous in that situation and i would be to if it came to me and my boyfriend with another girl i wouldnt wont him paying attention to anyone else but me.in my oppinion u should keep your curiosity to yourself or you could tell you husband and if you do chose to have another woman involved lay down strict rules and let him know about how you would feel if it was to happen and he did pay more attention to her.
2007-12-03 16:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooo serious question and one that many people have and struggle with, bi-curious or otherwise. People sometimes think that what the other person does not know cannot hurt them but cheating is cheating. There is no way out of that.
2007-12-03 16:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by cometthegrommit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would wait it out, it might just be something your going through. If it persist go talk to a professional see what they have to say. If it still persist then I would seriously think things through you don't know how your husband will handle it. You will have to choose what is more important. Talk to him see what he has to say, see what his reaction and feelings are too it. All in all go with your heart and do what makes you happy because you live once and well why live a life that your not happy with.
2007-12-03 16:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by London L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone who is not married to you or engaged to you is cheating. If your huspand does not mind having another woman in the house then i am sure you will be fine.
All i will say is this: follow your heart, wherever it leads. There will be pains along the road, but dont stop when they happen.
2007-12-03 16:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by lordofdragons4_4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋