How can I convert my wife from a Extremely Closed Minded to Open minded ??????????

Question

For the past 15 yrs, I have been asking my wife to go out dancing and drinking with me, like on dates of us alone and the kiddos at in laws house. I WANT TO TAKE MY WIFE OUT TO MANY MANY PLACES, but she refuses to go out with me anywhere, so because of this I am extremely bored with her. She is so afraid of trying out new things and new experiences in life, when I am so open minded to just about anything there is in life in general. She does not like me for who I am. Just because I like to drink a little and have fun going out to some dance club.

She is very healthy. 100% She is 40 and I am 41. I feel like I am 14, with lots of energy and she feels like 80 yrs old woman. This is extremely frustration for me, just because I want to go out with her to a lot of super fun places. Thanks guys.

I work at a job. I support my house wife and my kiddos. But I like to have fun in life on my play time, but she won't go out with me anywhere.

Answer 1

The only way u could/can is to go to couple counseling.. and u sound to burnt on her to want to do anything with her..

u have 15 years invested,, and kids.. so think on it..

she is the way she is.. and perhaps u have helped her be that way even more and don't realize it..
good luck,Merry christmas

Answer 2

OK. I read your other questions. Is it possible the problem is you and not your wife? It sounds like you regret your marriage and have already started looking elsewhere. My guess is, and I know this sounds cold, your wife thinks you are immature and probably regrets the marriage as well. (seeing as she doesn't want to do anything with you) You are both 40 and you're upset because she doesn't want to go out drinking and dancing? I hate to break it to you, but there is a time when you need to find fun in places other than clubs because, chances are, your are creeping a lot of people out! Maybe you are talking about quiet places or more mature bars/restaurants where there are couples dancing and enjoying eachothers company, which is fine. I doubt it though; from you posts I would bet you are hitting the bar scene with girls (or guys?) in their early 20s. Regardless, take a look at yourself first. Maybe the best thing for everyone is for you to move on to what makes you happy and not expect her to change, then complain about her because she is not like you. Question for you - I'm curious why you end all your questions multiple punctuation marks???????? It's very distracting (and is also another hint that you are suffering from some immaturity)

Answer 3

You've known her--intimately--for at least 15 years. You should know what she likes and enjoys. What did the two of you do when you were first wooing her? Give her attention and give in to her wishes for a while; take her to restraunts she enjoys, museums, symphonies, whatever she might like even if you don't. Stop pressuring her to do what you want to do and remind her that you care about HER. Then once you get some trust and commonality back she might be more ready to do something for YOU. You'll probably need to ease her in, though; go for a night of dancing, for example, at some reputable place that doesn't include the drinking and the bar crowd, or take lessons. Or take her out to a nice restaurant with fancy wine... but if she's so opposed to your "dancing and drinking" requests, I would NOT recommend you doing both if/when you first get her to agree to go out with you--just pick one and ease her in!

Answer 4

I dare say your courtship was very short or not at all. This seems like a story which should have been known 15 years ago when you started dating. Her beliefs, likes and dislikes should have surfaced and you would have determined this marriage was not going to be one for eternity. Here's where the phrase you agreed to at your wedding "for better or for worst, in sickness and in health until dead do us part.". Remember that one? O.K. good buddy put up and shut up. You agreed to this union now it's time to pay the musicians as we say in our culture. What you need is to find out what things she likes to do besides stay home, clean house, mind the children, cook you a good meal and stand by her man. I know many men that would take her off you hands and let her put her shoes under their bed anytime. So be thankful you have a beautiful wife that loves you very much and you are the center of her life. Many of us continue to look for such a prize. You seem to have found it. Guard it. Thank God for blessing you with that gift. Now shut up, sit down and watch a nice T.V. show with her at your side. O.K?

Answer 5

So you have energy, and she is exhausted all the time. Hmmm, maybe you aren't doing your share of the work around the house. Or maybe she is depressed. There is obviously a reason she doesn't want to go out. How about sending the kids ot the in-laws for a night and just pamper your wife. (That doesn't mean sex!!) Hire a massage therapist to come help her relax. Hire someone to come give her a manicure/pedicure/facial or something special. Cook dinner, or have soemthing brought in.

If she won't go out for a special night, bring the special night in to show her how much you love and appreciate her.

Answer 6

i imagine it relies upon on both the circumstances and the guy in contact no matter if one is open or closed minded. for instance there might want to be some very closed minded human beings, nicely i comprehend some, who're very tolerant (basically about to the point of open mindedness, you'll imagine), basically because of who the different individual is. it really is one celebration of the position an exception to the guideline applies. yet for the most area you want both a lifeless ringer for warm and chilly contained in the actual realm of thermodynamics. For without the interaction between warm and chilly or opposites, existence might want to change into stagnant and entropy. that would not be a real mirrored image on existence. So contained eventually I do renowned the existence of both gadgets of minds. And at the same time note the exceptions and the organic effect of the interaction that takes position between them. Society as an finished does flow ahead. it really is what i imagine.

Answer 7

Well, you could do like my ex-boyfriend did. He had a little fling with me, who liked to do all the fun things his wife had no interest in. We had a whole lot of fun before he decided that there was too much liability to risk getting caught. Seriously, the only way you're going to get through to this woman is to drag her to a marriage counselor and lay out your issues. She's taking you for granted.

Answer 8

ok so she is a home maker, do even realise what kind of energy it takes to care for a family and kids, it takes a lot more than, a job does let me tell you, do u help her with chores or are you one of those men that considers house work womens work? have u ever asked her what she would like to do? have u ever given her a day off?, let her rest and then see if she would like to go out then, and if she doesnt like clubs then do it at home send the kids grandmas for the night and just have a good time at home where she IS MORE RELAXED hope this helped

Answer 9

Maybe she likes to have fun just different fun like maybe a movie or a play or out to dinner. Does it always have to be a bar and dancing? Maybe she does not want to have to deal with the loud music and the smoke. Class up your act a little bit and maybe she might go somewhere with you.

Answer 10

you can convert/change your wife, i mean AFTER 15 YRS? you would think if she was going to change she would have already... C'MON wake up!!! Also, "She does not like me for who I am. Just because I like to drink a little and have fun going out to some dance club." i don't know it sounds like you marriage is about to..........
anyway, depends on how old are you, maybe she thinks is too old for you guys to be going to some dance club......

i am sorry, but its just nasty to see some old dude in the 18 and up club try to pick us up...GROSS!!