I am married to a very good man who doesn't hit me, yet I fell in love with another man (now BF) whom i thought loves me deeply but yet abused me since Aug 07. He told me he had been suffering from depression becoz of me, and has been cutting himself whenever he strikes me. I know I must leave this man but my heart is not strong & willing to, He doesn't talk to me with respect when he gets mad, and just 2 days ago, he striked me at my mouth but why am I still holding on ? I need to be freed. dont know how long this man will take to recover from his depression. He told me hes not normal and i should be around taking care of him, but i cant keep getting striked ? He said I dont know how to love someone..maybe yes...i dont know but I just have this fear inside me each time he hit me & I wonder when is the next ? WHen I wanted to end the r/s, he said I love myself more & wanted to end his life. The next moment, he talks to me in such a disrespectful manner...i wish i was dead.. HELP !
2007-12-03 15:00:22 · 15 answers · asked by Arpengenie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didnt wreck his marriage..he left coz he no longer loves his wife & he was so in love with me. NOw his love has become violent on me, i dont think thats called LOVE anymore. Is violence the new love ??
2007-12-03 16:00:40 · update #1
Ive left & came back time & again after his relapse. I thought me coming back would help him be better but no, he doesnt get better, he gets WORSE. Each time I want to leave, he said he will end his life. On the other hand, he wants to move on with me. He also mentioned he wished to have kids with me but after what had happened, I think NO WAY ! I can't imagine what would happened to the kids when he has another relapse again.. maybe throw them down from the 14th floor ? Its stressful on my part and i cant stressed enough how often he belittled me whenever he gets mad. Whenever he gets mad, i cant show anger nor throw tantrums, i have to be submissive like a slave... hell....i dont want my christmas to be affected by HIM yet ive no balls to cut him LOOSE ! HELP!!
2007-12-03 16:06:06 · update #2
Im married to a good man whom I have no love for. Yes, I need help too. I know the devil is playing with my feelings coz I just can't let go of this damned animal if I may call him one..
2007-12-03 20:22:30 · update #3
So you're cheating on your husband with an abuser?
Get professional help. You need a lot more than Y!A can give you.
2007-12-03 15:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would never condone a woman being hit by a man, but if I did...I would say that you made your own nest. You go on and on saying how this guy hits you, when U barely mention the fact that you cheated on your husband. If i was him I'd be heading for the hills about now.
WOW! I havent laughed this hard at public answers in a while.
2007-12-03 23:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When he starts cutting himself, join him. Have a contest and see who bleeds out first. The winner then needs to clean up, take a bath, and drop a toaster, plugged in the wall, into your tub. Your husband deserves way better. Have fun at the dentist.
2007-12-03 23:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by bama79rolltide 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are married with a good man, then why are you still hanging on with a abusive person? Both of u need help.
2007-12-04 04:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol...sweetie...he is using guilt in order to CONTROL you. you need to (1) tell your husband about this man so he can (2) confront this man. sometimes it takes a man to tell another man to leave his woman alone. this so-called boyfriend doesn't love you. let him cut himself, and abuse himself. you need to find a way to CUT ALL TIES with this person. i am glad that you dont' share a place together, his controlling will only get worse. he doesn't respect you...you need to grow some balls and CUT HIM LOOSE. change your number, move...ANYTHING. oh...he HIT you? and you did nothing? girl...CALL THE POLICE! what's wrong with you? don't just sit there and take it. FIGHT BACK! if he says that he wants to end his life. let him. he is in control of his life and you are in control of yours.
2007-12-03 23:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't fault you for having a boyfriend but you really have to get rid of this one. Nothing good will come of you continuing to see this man. If you have to have a bf then find one who doesn't beat you. It can't be that hard.
2007-12-03 23:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by jeff b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your life is pretty screwed up. I'm misunderstanding you, though. You are married but also seeing some psychopath?
2007-12-03 23:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run far away from this man. Don't tell him where you are.
2007-12-03 23:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not wish your troubles to a monkey on a rock!!!
2007-12-03 23:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by G Money 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave.
2007-12-04 02:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tee O UU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chop his balls off
2007-12-03 23:12:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋