Yes, I'm a virgin. Not because of religious reasons, not because I'm waiting for marriage (I'm not even sure I want to get married), mostly because I haven't gotten close to anyone that I would want to share my body with. And yet I still think about sex constantly. I... ehm... am still "in touch" with myself... but it's not enough. I also exercise, read, and do a host of other things to preoccupy myself, but to no avail.
Now, I'm beginning to think some wild meaningless sex will get it off my mind. Maybe I'm just repressed.
What are your thoughts?
2007-12-03 14:42:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi Spider
First i would like to say i feel for you and know what you are feeling like. I also know what is it like to not find a person to share my body with. Smiles and being in touch with one's self only helps for a little while. I think about sex allot not because i have not had it but because i had it and not had it in a long long time. I do allot more then you but wheni am alone i tedn to think of old g.f and what we did . It drives me nuts and i want to explore those feelings again.
I have found a host of useful things to use as replacements but thats another story. Meaningless sex don't really help for a few reasons , (1) you dont really have the emotional feelings you need when you make love. Granted it feels so good when doing it and i dont stop until i use the whole box of condoms. But that also is another story, since i have not had ag.f in over a year i might of found little useful things to use as replacements . Hence have you tried other things then hands fingers and or both to keep in touch, because one of my X g.f and i used to have phone sex. And she and i would play a game of use whats around the house. She and i used many different things and her favoriate was a cucumber, im not lieing either. She would give major details of how she cleaned it and it looks like a Penis and then play a game together. Weird yes but it helped allot and we both loved it and it was supper safe.
good Luck
2007-12-03 15:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wild and meaningless sex is going to make you want more, unless the partner you choose behaves like a brute. Look, casual sex is so common that it equals that which occurs in most marriages. Take your time, find someone even moderately attractive, invite him to be your first - and of course, use protection. Yes, my dear, good girls do!
2007-12-04 10:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still virgin as you have said, then you missed the most wonderful time of your life. Sex is the best thing to do in this world. Nobody can explain fully how it's like even in cloud nine can not be compared.
i'm sorry I'm not faithful to my religion. But no body has the right to accuse me of immoral if I enjoyed my sexlife to whoever I want.
2007-12-04 04:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend of mine once described herself this way. She graduated college as a virgin, for similar reasons, masturbated a lot by her own accounts. She became obsessed with with sex, specifically her virginity. Finally she couldn't wait anymore and found someone at a bar and slept with him. She knew it was just meaningless sex, but it got her passed her hangup and allowed her to work on finding something more meaningful. Personally, I think that strategy is a little risky, health and safety wise, but maybe you could find a friend with benefits to help you out?
2007-12-03 22:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rasputin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wild meaningless sex could just lead to more ... I don't think it cures the mind ... well not if it's any good at least. If you have bad sex then it might or you'll just go looking for better.
Nope no solution ... some people are just "set" for that thought
2007-12-03 22:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may get it off your mind for that moment, but in the long run it's not worth it. Even though you don't have a real "reason" to abstain right now... you are doing a wonderful thing by keeping your virginity.
The world is a crazy place... be careful... disease is rampant...
Take care...
2007-12-03 22:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't have a goal to work towards, then I think your best bet is to stay away from guys (cute guys especially), avoid sexual conversations, no explicit movies, TV shows, books, music, magazines and anything in that area. That's the best I can think of.
2007-12-03 22:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Swindoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm..interesting problem. However, I think your expectations about having sex are being mismanaged. Share your thoughts with your next B/F and if he cooperates, he will let you work through your problem. No where does it say you have to get close to your b/f in order to have sex with him (or her).
Good luck!
2007-12-03 22:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Matt S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girlfriend I know exactly what ur talking about...is it just me or is every question on Yahoo tonight about sex??....I need some so bad I can taste it...I can not stop thinking about it so trust me when I tell u I KNOW WHAT U MEAN!!!
2007-12-03 22:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very good that even though as a virgin you think about sex but you don't act on it.That means that you are still in controle of yourself. But you will soon figure it out.(TAKE YOUR TIME).Good luck.......
2007-12-03 22:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋