Why is it ok to bring home a White mate?

Question

OK I'm not racist but I feel edgy about something. You always hear that old fashion or traditional Asians want their children to bring home an Asian person. Well let me ask, how come it is "ok" to bring home a White mate but not other races... I'm sorry to say this but White people are more accepted by the parents than the other races...

I'm Asian and I asked the other Asians what their family thinks. They told me Whites are more accepted over Blacks and the others... SO if I bring home a White girl, my family wouldn't argue but if I bring home a Black, Hispanic, Arab, and etc, they will doubt me and my love...

Don't get me wrong, I support interracial love but I'm curious why Whites are more accepted?

Thank you for reading.

Answer 1

in my opinion, whites are more american and are viewed as being sucessful, were as blacks, hispanics, etc... are viewed as being poor and unsucessful. It sounds crazy but realistic.

Answer 2

Boy are you opening Pandora's box or what?! First off have you ever seen the child of any race when one parent *******? If not. Do. That should answer part of your question. Secondly, customs and traditions are hard to break in older generation folks. When one culture intermarries another, there is a clash of traditions, habits and cultural understandings. Parents always want their children to have a happy life and live pleasantly and happily ever after. Someday you will understand that concept. I am Hispanic and my wife is Asian. Our families were opposed to our marriage. We married anyway. She gave me 6 wonderful beautiful children (2 girls, 4 boys) who have given me 16 wonderful grand children. I'm O.K. She's O.K. That's all that matters. So don't get hung up that "WHITES" are acceptable as mates. Same culture mates are more acceptable. Others are considered unacceptable only because there are cultural barriers to overcome and older parents do not want that burden. Since I broke the ice in my family, I'm the black sheep but my children respect everyone for WHO they are and not for the color of their skin, religion or cultural background. The only think I asked my children and their prospective spouses was -- do you love him/her? When they answered YES without hesitation, I said "God Bless you and may your marriage last forever". End of conversation.

Answer 3

I think it would be more appropriate to ask your parents this question. I'm sure they have a different answer then the people on here.
I know my parents are cool with me and my sister being in interracial relationships because she's with an Arab man. My Grandmother was a little warry when I brought home my Italian boyfriend but that's because she's as old as gods cat and grew up in the woods, so she's never seen a non-white person aside from TV. In her case it's just fear of the unknown.

Answer 4

I also support interracial love :]

But Asian parents were raised in a very... asianly conservative way. And sometimes they are taught the wrong impressions. Some were often given the impression that blacks were all violent and uneducated or something. Which definitely isn't true. There are plenty who are so, but definitely lots who are very civil and kind. And many asian parents, being the first generation immigrants in a new place such as america or canada or new zealand will gradually grow out of their conservative views but bits and pieces will remain. It drives me nuts, when sometimes they get all racist, but I understand. :[

Answer 5

I am Asian, and my fiance is white. I have never dated within my race, and my parents have never complained. Most of my extended family is half white so maybe I can't really relate to this question, but all of my female cousins who are not half white married white men. However, one of my cousins is married to a black man. This drew a lot of attention within my extended family in the beginning, and there was a lot of talk, but he became very much one of our family members a few months after. All these old-fashioned ideas will diminish over time.

Answer 6

I am white, and we are all created by one God. Alot of races think the whites are educated and have it all together, but the blacks get the bum deal. It isn't fair, and definately wrong in Gods eyes. If you read in the bible where Moses sister Mariam and Aaron was talking about Moses marrying a hitite woman,(brown skin) God struck her and Aaron with leprosy. God didn't make light of this and neither should we. If you fall in love with another race, go for it, you will be blessed either way even if others are against it. IT IS WRONG TO THINK THESE RACES ARE ANYTHING LESS THEN WE ARE.

Answer 7

It shouldn't matter what race you bring home, if you love and care for that person and your family can't accept that, so be it remember its your life. You can't go around and pray that your family will accept that person because of there race. I'm dating an white female and she is 15 years older than me. (20 she is 35) my family loves her to death, the only person that doesn't like her is my older brother and I could careless what he thinks about her. Its all about how you feel towards your partner. If you want to bring home a partner of another race go right ahead it's your life don't worry about what other people think about you. You do you.

Answer 8

Because these families want to pretend they are not racist when they actually are. Why they have their nose stuck so far up white people butts confuses me. Maybe they like the smell???

They find it OK to bring home whites because whites through out history has made a point to view other races as inferior. And worse thing is people have fallen for that crap.

I am not sure why this is so ingrained in Asian culture because whites treated their group like crap also.

The whole thing is silly.

Answer 9

I don't know. Whites and Asians seem to fit together pretty well, so that might be one thing. Also, maybe it's because we (white/Asian) look a lot more alike than say Asian/black. Just some thoughts.

Answer 10

because that's the stereotype in this nation. up until the civil rights movement, all white people thought that they were better than everyone else. some still do. and the sad thing is, they've managed to make everyone else have that prejudice too.

whoever you love, your family will eventually accept because they love you. so find who you love, and then let your family deal with it.

oh, and i'm white, for the record, and i think that prejudice is a sickness.

Answer 11

Excellent question. However I must tell you that nOT all white males are readily accepted. My Korean g/f kept me well hidden. Perhaps that was because of me and not my being a Caucasian. My wife's family who are Taiwanese don't seem overly hostile towards me but I am sure they would rather I was Chinese. Sure, there are .problems but I don't think they are overwhelming. My advise, do what you think is best for you, you don't need everyone's approval.