I have known her husband for much longer time. we have known each other for more than 15 years. We were very close friend. After he sexually assaulted me, I then understood that he had been mentally abusing me. Before, I only felt controled, hurt, humiliated, but he argued that he did not do it on purpose or was trying to teach a friend. when the assault happened, i knew those were just excuses and lie.
i told his wife. she ignored me and got even closer to him.
i cannot get the picture. I trusted that my friend was manipulating her as well. An abuser was so good at playing emotion.
my feeling is now so complicated
2007-12-03 14:39:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i reported to the police. he told the police that i fancy him.so, they let him go.
2007-12-03 14:54:18 · update #1
just stay away from that family
2007-12-03 14:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She knows the truth, she is ashamed.You had the courage to do something she has not, or is unable ro do through fear of him.Keep reporting him if he keeps doing it.Dont mention it to her, go straight to the police.You have a right over your own body and mind.She is most likely being abused by him too mentally and even sexually......Remember the abuser makes himself out to be the victim, he has , made it look like you have lied to his wife about him because he wants you sexually (is also very angry with you coz he cannot have you..or it can sometimes it can just be another form of intimidation) but is unable to have a normal relationship with a woman, he is inadequate sexually and has to make up for it by abusing a woman, and he has to feel big by dominating her and making her feel low sexually...to make himself feel good...to feel masculine.Keep away from both of them.Protect yourself with all the appropiate measures....and most of all, keep the police informed if he abuses you mentally or verbally or sexually or physically again, at any time.You have done nothing wrong.Do not feel gulity or blame yourself for his failings and his wifes blindfold.
2007-12-03 16:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you break all ties with this couple.friends or not they are not good people,i find it hard to understand how you would even want to be friends after what he did to you.Go back to the police and tell them you were assaulted ,you do not fancy him(unless of course you do) and you want him charged.You may not be the first person he has done this to,but if you get him charged you may be the last,you could be saving someone else from the trauma he is putting you through now.If the wife of this man is willing to put up with him and his behaviour then that is her choice,you don`t have to, so stay away from them or they will be giving you serious health(mental) problems,they are messing with your mind as well as him abusing your body .
2007-12-03 15:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by her with the mad ginger hair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a automatic voice recorder and keep asking him why is he doing these things to you ,..what did you do to him?,..video and audio is the way to destroy the dragon,..don`t ever bow down to him or any other man ,..right the wrong that's been done to you, and make it stick !!..assault of any kind is bad, but on a woman,.If I was where you are, I`d kick his fu*king @ss, damn coward putting his hands on a woman..( I`m really pissed off right now I could break his neck ) get that son-of-a-***** on tape or recorder of somekind stick it in and break it off !!!!!!!... Don`t let this ruin you....YOU ruin him,. Stay up and stay safe..Mr.Goodnight..
2007-12-03 15:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you warned her and that is all you can do. Now all you can do is be there if she needs a friend. Your best bet would be to stay as far away from this guy as you can get for everything that he has done to you so that you can begin to heal both mentally and emotionally.
2007-12-03 14:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, how did you tell your friend's wife? did you say it in a way where you were accusing him? if so, the wife will get closer to her husband to defend him from you. its still her husband! you have to approach this with caution or else the wife will "X" you out..and think that you are just trying to manipulate their relationship. sit down with her. have a calm and nice talk. tell her what happened to you..and if she doesnt believe you then fate will just have to take over..its out of your power. just try to do your responsibility as a friend and tell her.
2007-12-03 14:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by anelehh<3!!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend is married to the guy, and it is expected that she will take his side over yours. Her loyalty, right or wrong, is to him, not to you. The best thing for you to do is stay away from these people and move on with your life. You said what you had to say, and now you have to forget about them and move forward.
2007-12-03 14:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story makes little sense. Elope with your woman, you twittering ninny that lets his woman be raped by another man for fun! With friends like you, no wonder the girl is in a pickle. Nincompoop.
2016-04-07 07:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stayed away from them you wouldn't be abused. Did you go to the police when you were abused?
2007-12-03 14:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by jonds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to work on getting a life for yourself and stay away from them and not blame all your issues on them like you seem to be doing, if they really did that why do you even care about being around either one of them?
2007-12-03 14:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And I'm willing to bet you he's doing his wife the same way she need to run fast as she can to get away from him
2007-12-03 16:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋