How long is too long??
2007-12-03 14:33:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
2-3 years before you should and anymore than 5-6 is way too long.
ETA: Obviously the people who are giving me thumbs down are living in fantasy land. I would like to defend my answers. I have never been married, everyone that has been married has been so for a long time. It takes commitment. I am actually taking a class, learning about marriage and family. I'm sorry you really can't get to know a person well enough within a year. You have to spend a lot of time getting to know someone before you should even consider marrying them. Then the reason I said the most you should wait is 5-6 years is because many people who are in those type of long engagements are not really "sure" if they are ready to get married. That means they really don't want to marry you and they aren't the right person for you. Unless you both decide on never getting married.
2007-12-03 14:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This differs in all relationships. I knew my husband as a friend for several years. Once we started dating we married in 6 weeks. This is not normal though. I did know him. We are still going strong for 13 years now. best of answers. I just wouldn't wait too long. I think 1-1/2 years is long enough. When you feel that feeling in your heart. <3 <3
2007-12-03 14:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 2 years should be the max by then you know what
you need to and then after 2 years it is just sitting on a fence
and you need to marry or go on alone
(if marriage is goal)
Personally I think BEFORE you marry you should go on a long road trip to somewhere new to both of you...see how
the other deals with life and the curve balls it throws at you
OR
Go on a float trip (a canoe) see how the other handles
changes and does he/she go with the flow/adjust for
conditions/or lose it when they have no control
2007-12-03 14:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by WiseGal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some say at least 6 months to really let their personality come out....others say it doesn't matter, because after you marry them they might change anyway....
...like some people think living together before marriage helps....others say it makes it worse.....
...it depends on the people.....
I have heard of couples knowing each other for a very short time (days, weeks....) and then married and stayed together and lived happily.....
...I think mainly people have to be giving and loving and then it will work out...so it is not time to know a person....it is the person themselves...people can pretend to be nice for a long time....just have to see the real person....which is not always easy to do....
2007-12-03 14:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No time element..those are just rules to follow in your heart...when love comes really........no matter what time won't be the question , it is more on the understanding and acceptance of one.....nothing of the time, I eard long engagements as if they have known each other all theri lives..but once absorb in marriage they learn that they are not meant to be together..or a very short getting to know stage and suddenly they want to marry and have a family and really stay long..so see it si not the time..is more of the learning to accpet each other and understand each other..........
2007-12-03 14:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you don't care if he sees you without makeup, when you both can break wind in front of each other and laugh about it, when you wake up with your hair messy and he smiles at you and tells you he loves you. When his and your true colors come out and you two are a match. Don't ever get married just for the sake of being married.
2007-12-03 14:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every relationship is different,I've got friends who married 6 months after they met and another couple courted for 9 years.They are both still married many years later,I suppose you just know when the times right.No-one is perfect so I'd just say "If in doubt,don't"
2007-12-03 14:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One year is long enough, and six months is too short. It takes more than six months to really get to know someone, and if you aren't ready to marry someone after a year, then he/she isn't the right one.
2007-12-03 14:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is a rule of thumb for this answer. My parents only knew each other two weeks and married for almost 40 years except my Mother died first.
2007-12-03 14:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by missellie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hubby and I dated for 11 months before marrying, I think thats long enough
2007-12-03 14:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋