Old feelings?

Question

So my bf and I "parted" ways (3 weeks ago). It was done without any malice; however, he started talking to me again. I know that we probably wont get back but how do I get rid of my feelings for him? I still stare at pics of him (sad I know), but how do I get over him? Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Hope, you understand how powerful a feeling that is right?

Image, you in a desert, out in the middle of nowhere, been walking for several days, whats the only thing keeping you going? HOPE! Thats right, your almost dead and the only feeling that keeps you from laying down right there and accepting it is how much more intense the hope makes you feel. Hope for water, hope for food, hope for rescue, many have put foot, over foot, tell death, just for that hope.

So thats what your up against! A natural tendency man has to hope for things, espacially when the situation calls for it. In your sitution your relationship life is sort of the desert, (no offense, but no relationships, no water, so to speck, just stick with me here, it isn't about the relationships, but the quality) and this guy, sort of a mirage, out in the distance, so old feelings of hope of what that mirage will do for you is coming back. What you can do is see it for what it really is, a mirage, not going to satisfy you, and treat it aquirenly. If not, your going to run head long into it, hoping for the best.

I hope that helps, darnit, their I go hoping to.....

Answer 2

Make more friends so that u will not focus too much on it. Though difficult, it takes time to get over it. Juts continue to be his friend while opening up your options for others to know you.