Why do sex dwindle after marriage? Does this call for divorce?

Question

Before you respond, PLEASE READ DR LAURA'S ARTICLE on sex after marriage so you know exactly what I'm talking about.

http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/04/12/but-i-dont-feel-like-it

I'm writing this because I've read the frustration of men whose wife only give them sex 1x or 2x a month.

Brutal Honesty--I don't know the reason for you being so angry. I don't think you even tried reading Dr. Laura's article!

Answer 1

Right or Wrong the passion is not the same. It only takes one of the partners to feel like it is an 'obligation' or a 'duty'. As a couple gets older, menopause is a factor, but it doesn't have to be.
One other issue is vanity. Let's face it, as we get older, are bodies are not the same as when we are 20. The argument, I don't want you to see me, I feel ugly, etc. That really doesn't carry much weight (pun) either. You need to feel good about yourself and you can control that.
Sometimes one partner needs to coach the other partner a little more. Let's try this or that.
One thing that bothers me, is why do women feel they are providing a service? Why does that change? I would say it does lead to a divorce in several cases. People need to be touched (back rubs, holding hands, etc.), signs of affection, a hug, a kiss and joining two bodies together as one to have a healthy relationship.

Answer 2

GOD LOVE AN F'IN DUCK!!! JESUS NOT DR. LAURA!!! Man I hate her now, its official the only person whose got a clue is dr.phil and he is just to pussie for me, that aside, what bs. What she ask amounts to sucking it up and just screwing, my god are we this emotional inept? That we still are going to treat sex as a god darn pride trip every f'in time? The problem isn't the sex buddy, it never was the sex, the sex is an extention of the relationship NOT THE F'IN RELATIONSHIP!!! Sorry to yell, I know you didn't state an opinion, but the fact remains its only thru DEEPING the closeness of the relationship, the intimacy that you can allow sex to increase in pleasure. That stupid trick prouble would of sugested s and m to help "spice" things up, then maybe, inviting a thrid-party in for an orgy on the f'in coffe table, damnit why do these people get respect? That aside, she should of talked about increasing the honesty, therefor the trusth, therefor the comfort, therefor the feelings, therefor the experience, therefor the sex. Its easy! I found this out by accident with a friend I was close to for 5 years, then slep with, then HOLY SH!T!!!! The best sex I ever had! With the ugliest woman I ever had!!!! It wasn't because of her f'in looks are the f'in sex, its was because of the relationship. Most people loss interest sexually because the f'in relationship is based on lust.....

the cool and sad thing about being right about this, is the poor hell all these people have to pay, because the answer is so easy to find, just talk honesty about it...... but they'll keep bump uglies not realizing it isn't satisfing ether one, bummer.... then they'll listen to this dr. idiot and think wow if I try HARDER! To bump uglies all we be well! my lord.....