True but so sad he does!! She is a hot mess she calls 2 or 3 times a day..She always in our marriage and we just had a new baby she doesn't have a man and she is in her early 50's. We live in La and she stays in AL she left her wash towel and bath cloth at our house when she was visiting and now ever time I go in the bathroom I see this pink towel. She also told my husband that I need to go back to work our his whole family did. He is her baby son what do I do leave him or sit down and talk to her like a women
2007-12-03 12:44:39 · 8 answers · asked by ms women 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO you don't leave him or talk to her. Your problem lies with HIM. He needs to know that you are the one he needs to talk to, not mommy! Tell him he has to stop telling his mom everything about your relationship. Ask him how he'd feel if you did that with your parent!
As for that damn towel, put that freakin' thing in a drawer or closet, lol! I truly know how you feel coz my hubby used to be a mommys boy and i had to break him of that and it was no easy task, whew! You really have to put your foot down and be prepared to stand your ground or it will drag on for years.
Just realize that it isn't his mom's fault, it's his! He's a grown man and capable of NOT telling her everything. Easy to get mad at her (I know) but she isn't holding a gun to his head and making him talk ;o)
I wish you lots o' luck and peace!
2007-12-03 12:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should have noticed how close they were before you decided to marry him!
You are now married, so you'll have to sit him down and talk things over with him. While it's OK for him to love and talk to his mother, he should set the limits since he is an adult -and married now.
If he talks to his mother instead of you, things do not look good -and the sooner you try to fix this, the better.
Perhaps you could go to counseling so you can try to understand each other's point of view, and then negotiate how to deal with your MIL.
2007-12-03 12:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because a man gets married doesn't mean he stops talking to his mother.
Chill, don't over react. Be all the women you are and help your man be the man.
Yeah, every good man needs the help of a good women...his mother can't take your place so be cool and handle your business.
Your husband needs both of you and both of you play important rolls in his life. Please don't feel threaten... pray for more understanding.
2007-12-03 13:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by xman77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would lay down the law now before this woman takes over your child and your life. I think your being stepped on and dis respected. Stop answering the phone and tell her exactly what your thoughts are before your marriage falls apart.
Marriage is sacred and your mother in law does not respect your position as his wife.
2007-12-03 12:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to have a sit down with both of them. Him about honoring you and your marriage, and her about knowing where her place is and staying in it!
2007-12-03 13:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send my man to her. i wish she could talk some sense into him.
Find an older man to confide in & let him know it. He'll soon get the hint that it's NOT OKAY.
2007-12-03 14:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just a mommy's boy. I would sit him down and talk to him.
2007-12-03 12:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Brooklyn Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you, you married a little boy.
You need to tell her (don't be polite either) to BUTT OUT.
Then you need to haul his sorry, immature butt off to counseling.
2007-12-03 12:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋