Like myspace myspace, or he gets upset when i try to keep my sons father in my sons life. He says that he might as well be his dad bcuz hes always there for him. He just doesnt understand how important it is to me to try to keep his dad in his life. He'll also get mad @ me if he washes my back in the shower and i dont wash his in return, or i work at night at a bar and i dont get done cleaning until 245 300 am and occasionally i will a have a drink after work, wel last weekend i called him to let him know i was going to stay after for a drink at like 240am and said i would be home around 330-345 well i got home at 4am and he was trippin. Someone please tell me how to fix this!!??
2007-12-03 12:36:23 · 24 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, where is your child at night when you are working these kinds of hours? How selfish are you not to wash his back in return? He gets mad because you treat him like ish and he knows he is a fool for still being there but he loves you enough not to leave you hanging seeing that you are in a difficult situation with the kinds of hours you keep! Why can't you invite him for a drink with you after work? Little things to let him know you care would help!
2007-12-03 12:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole J 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, you've been in a relationship with him for nearly a year and you still had on your myspace profile that you wanted to meet someone to cuddle with!! I think he had every right to be upset about that.
Second, perhaps he wouldn't mind you staying out late to have a drink or two after work if he wasn't the one having to watch your son!! You get home around 4 AM - he has to be at work at 4 AM - that's not very considerate of you, now is it?
Then you have the nerve to come to his job and cause a scene. You need to mature a little bit more before you continue on to another grown up relationship.
I have respect for the fact that you work two jobs and are raising your child as a single parent, however; King only wants love and respect from the woman he's with, and you do not give him that. I guess he'll have to try with a woman next time instead of a child.
2007-12-04 10:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Precious Thing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think I know you. My last name is Russell if that rings a bell??? And if you are who I think you are, seeing you come to the point where your sons biological father is hands-on with your son, was a long journey for you and I wouldn't let anyone take that away from you or your son. It sounds like he's very insecure and controlling and maybe not the best guy to have around right now. I mean it sounds like your a single mom, working hard, trying to make a life for yourself and your son. All of this extra garbage with this man will just drain you. Plus, if he gets this upset about little things, who knows what he's capable of when something huge happens. Unfortunately, you can't "fix" him or the situation. My honest opinion, your young, find someone else that is supportive of you, your time, and what you bring to the realtionship!
2007-12-03 21:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by ajr726 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nikki,,,,the part that really hit home with me about your question is the part about your boyfriend trying to interfere in your son's /dad relationship. That can tell me right off the bat what type of man are you dealing with. He has NO say regarding that. NONE. Your boy should be first, and his happiness. This man is insecure and inmature. I will not tell you to leave him because I also understand tha love is not that simple. However I will advice to to get this book,,"A Divorce Remedy" by Michelle Weiner Davis,,,Even if you are not married it's ok to read this book. It will open up your eyes to different methods that can help. But regarding your son's relationship with his dad,,,DON"T change a thing! He will have to grow up and face the fact that your son comes before everything else,,,good luck Nikki and I hope this helped a little.
2007-12-03 20:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure.
He might not handle stress very well, or he might actually have anxiety. Try to be more attentive to him as he seems over sensitive and a little paranoid. Perhaps a behavioural/emotional problem that is triggered by some sort of fear. It is unhealthy for your relationship and if your want to be with him then i suggest you both try to work it out together. Maybe counselling? It takes two to tango.
Try to understand his past or talk to him more. Listen. Try to work out what the underlying problem is with him. There is always a reason.
Whatever you do, don't push him away. He sounds like he might go totally nuts. Try to stay calm and communicate.
good luck....
2007-12-03 20:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing the things that up sets him and why should you try to keep your sons dad in his life. If your ex calls you to see his son that's one thing but if you call your ex to come see his son then i can understand your boyfriend getting mad. As far as you staying out until 4:00am i would be mad to. Remember where you work and who your around all night,you need to stop looking at it from your side and try to look at it through his eyes. Of coarse you don't think your doing anything wrong because your the one who is doing it.
2007-12-04 17:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
fix what? you picked a jealousy guy, who is trying to take control of your choices and decisions. The reason he always threatens to break up with you when he get mad is, to see how you will handle his leaving, if you get upset, or worried or beg him to stay or try to change his mind, he will know where his power lies, the weapon to hold on you to make you do what he wants, when he wants, the button to the master control. Better have a talk with him on the facts of a mature trusting relationship. If he does not straighten out now, it will get a whole lot worse latter, i guarantee it.
2007-12-03 20:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't trust you because he is a man and all men cheat. Here are a few facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. Life is not fair
3. Marriage sucks
4. All men cheat (almost all women cheat)
Happy Holidays!!! Email me with anyquestions but only if you want to hear the truth not the BS you hear everyday.
2007-12-03 21:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG NIKKI RUN........ hes a control frek iv been married to one 4 9yrs RUN!!!!! control freks r no good and u dont need sum1 controling ur life 4 u get out while u can im begging u its only a mattr uv time b4 hes hitting u 4 not washing his cloths rite or something else stupid
2007-12-03 21:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by whiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is immature and not ready to be in a committed relationship. He sounds like a control freak on top of it, and that kind of guy turns out to be abusive almost all the time, physically and emotionally.
Get rid of him now. He's a loser.
2007-12-03 20:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋