How to destroy someone?

Question

Literally.He,my ex.,doesn`t desrve to be here on this world.I hate him so much that I could kill him.Well,I physically can`t reach him,he lives in a different country.But there must be the way how to do it.
The thing is(I believe women who`ve been in similar position would agree with emotions involved)he never cared about our children.We have two kids together.he was sort of nearby,wanting to be involved,but somehow didn`t show interest at all.The last bit is that he says,with God`s help and children wanting to see him some day when they grow up-that will happen.It seems to me that he scraped all his interest out about them and that`s it.We`ve been having such rough times,but he didn`t care.I`m sorry but I can`t bring myself to leave it just like that.I`m trying really hard not to fall into this hate thing but I can`t...
At the moment I`m in a stabil relationship,I at last allow myself to love and be loved, but this person,my ex,I could just feel his shadow over me.PLS help!Thanks!

About that magic bit that was just mad idea.And to harm him-completely pointless and unnecessary.
No,he could always come and see the children.But there was always some kind of excuse,even if it was arranged.
So far thank you people for strong opnioned answers.And I`m looking forward to get rid of my bad emotions.

Answer 1

My sister had a very similar problem. She got involved with a complete moron and had two kids with him. He didn't actually leave, but proved to be such an inadequate father that she asked him to leave. He made a few desultory attempts at visiting, but it was clear that his heart wasn't in it. Soon, he forgot about his two children and moved away. The kids have not seen him since. My sister was, of course, extremely angry at first, and on several occasions explained to me, in graphic detail, her plans to avenge the insult that she and her children had suffered. I was extremely angry myself, because, in the absence of a biological father, the kids looked to me, and at 22 I was completely unprepared for the responsibility.
With time, however, my sister realised (as I hope you will) that her kids were far more important than some witless tw*t who just happened to have a c*ck. She still hates him, obviously, and wishes he would die horribly (I just wish he would get quite badly injured while I was watching), but she is now concentrating her efforts on raising her children correctly. So far she has done an outstanding job, and her two babies (now aged five and three) have grown into charming and intelligent young girls who only very occasionally seem to realise that they don't have a father. What you need to realise is that you now have a far more pressing concern than some bumbling f*cking idiot who just happened to be paying attention long enough to stick his prick inside you. Your kids are growing, as kids tend to, at an alarming rate, and every day that they see you fuming with rage is another day that they learn that fuming with rage is a perfectly acceptable way of behaving. Forget about this useless piece of sh*t (easy to say, hard to do I know) and focus on bringing your kids up properly instead. If you have another partner that's willing to help you do it, then that's wonderful, and you should be grateful for that, rather than living in the past.

Good luck! (and I hope your kids turn out to be doctors)

Answer 2

It's a bit strong BUT--I've found that the police won't do anything other than doing their own destroying sometimes! This leaves us with no recourse to evil done to us!
For a partner that found the relationship not to work and to leave to be making a reasonable decision if after trying marital counseling and making arrangements to help support the children.

Answer 3

The root of most anger is when someone feels they have been treated unfairly. Obviously, you have been given less than you were expecting in the relationship and less than what you feel the children deserve. As pathetic as he is, maybe it is truly all he is capable of. You just need to accept that he is not going to give you what you feel is reasonable. Make a life that includes no expectations regarding what you think HE should do based on what YOU would do. When you stop looking for him to be more than he is, you will stop being disappointed. I have been where you are, but please know it will get better with time. Hang in there!

Answer 4

sounds like the children are better off so long as he doesn't have any interest in them, and so are you for that matter. you can't make anyone love someone else. you can't make a father care about his kids like a mother does, and vice versa. some people just don't have the responsibility, the priority, or the desire to ever be all that they could be. but that's there problem, not yours. you focus on your own life, and you take care of those kids. it's true, they will eventually decide for themselves whether or not they want anything to do with him. and when that time comes, you will respect their decision and support it, regardless.

Answer 5

I kinda know the position your in as a 14 year old and a father who i have refused to see in 6 years, for destroying all kinds of family relationships. But i would just let the situation cool for a while.... don't try to emotionally destroy or physically because then you'll feel guilty and alot worse than you did before. not to mention the fact of revenge. (The water will just keep boiling)

Answer 6

Ok I really didn't make sense out of most of this but what I did here's my advice.

You need to stop focusing so much on him and how much you hate him for your sake as well as your children. Hating is an emotion that drains you physically and mentally and it will effect your children too. Other than him showing no interest and not seeing your children, you didn't really explain what was going on that made you so mad.

Good luck to you!



P.S. Maybe he didn't see them so much because you made it hard on him when he tried. Life's too short, breathe deep and move on.....

Answer 7

The anger you feel will poison you from within, sooner or later.

I'd say try to go to therapy and see if you can deal with the issues and feelings you have, because you have children to look after.

Remember, we can change no one except ourselves.

It's up to you, really. You will have to make the decision to heal yourself and get rid of the fury you have; or let it make you- and others around you- miserable and bitter.
Good luck.

Answer 8

No, i love Tokyo. Proposal i'd quite often have enjoyable in a demon-infested Tokyo, fighting, contracting, summoning, and fusing demons and kicking-***. Or, I could stick with taking part in Shin Megami Tensei.

Answer 9

you are wasting to much time thinking about your ex...Wanting to kill him or harm me will affect you more in the long run....Waht will happen to your kids if you do something? He is not worth it, you have your kids love and respect and thats more than he will ever have...It takes more energy to hate someone than you like them and then it begins to eat away at you...he aint thinking about you so stop thinking about him...Just think...you dont have to put up with is bull anymore some other poor unsuspecting girl will realise too.

Answer 10

hey now you better start looking after yourself or them wonderfull kids you have may lose their mother too.so calm yourself,think positive i know its not easy,but you have got the best deal,you can watch your kids grow! and give them double love,throw all your energy into your kids,think of all the golden moments you will have,which he will never have he is the loser people would give their lives to have what you have,and that ex of yours threw it away,cherish what you have darling,and just remember that your the winner!! and he is nothing but a idiotic loser!!!