myspace ruins lives.?

Question

so i was on my bf's myspace and found messages back and fourth from his ex and him. from the messages you can tell she doesnt want him and the conversation was very simple but just the fact that he did this hurt me because he was telling her things he would never tell me. he also told her he would " try to keep in touch if messeges were the only way he could" and he did not add her as a friend. we have been in a relationship for 3 years and i wouldnt even know how to approch him with this. I just need some advice.
thanks

she apperently lives out of state and told her " oh i have family there maybe ill go visit j/k " uh what family? his only family is here and i know all of them.

Answer 1

First calm down! When you approach him you want to be as calm as possible because you want him to no that it hurt you but that it won't break you. **When you breakdown you lose confidence. Secondly, Confront him! Tell that you don't like or appreciate it. Thirdly, Draw the line.

Answer 2

Myspace is a website and whoever use it is because is their choice. That's a nice way of saying "don't blame myspace for the problems you have". Your question was saying that myspace ruins lives, which is wrong. What you have is an ex flirting with her exgirlfriend, in public, and the ex care less about you same as your boyfriend has absolutely no respect for you, and you are allowing all that to happe in your life. You may not be able to tell your boyfriend what he can or can't do, but you can tell yourself and the world what you accept or don't accept. They are basically laughing in your face.

Answer 3

in case you open a myspace account and you're doing any of the lawsuits which you indexed than you are the main infantile and immature person that has ever been on the internet! elementary subjects that completely harm human beings's very own lives did no longer initiate on myspace. All those "damages" began way earlier myspace or fb or one in all these website. handle it or are not getting an account.

Answer 4

i'm sorry, if this hurts your feelings further, but he still cares for her or should i say "thinks" he does..... Often, one has to loose what they have to realize, how much it truly meant to them. But it does sound like he'd go running if she whistled. Does he treat you lovingly and good? Does he seem to be content, considerate, and concerned for your well being and happiness. And do you love him. If so, can you live with what you know or will it be a constant source of pain or contention? If the answer is no, then carry on as is. If the answer is yes, then you need to be staight forward and bring it out into the open. Let him explain, why he needs to contact someone who has no feeling for him. You need to know why he is trying to reconnect. If there is enough reason for you to stay in this relationship. The day may come where he meets someone he feels is like her. Are you willing to hang around and chance this, or even play second fiddle to his emotions? You know deep down you deserve to be second to none, and some where out there is someone who will give you that willingly. The choice is ultimately yours. good luck with it.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you have a bigger issue then whether your boyfriend is talking to his ex online. The fact that you are signing onto his page shows that you don't trust him. There is no other reason for it then that. If indeed you don't trust him you need to have a talk with him. Tell him how you are feeling. If you are worried that he is going to leave you or cheat on you then tell him that as well. If you confront him by telling him that you signed onto his account he will only get mad and the argument will turn on you. Is he talking to her like he wants her back? If not maybe they are just catching up. I have talked to my ex on myspace but just to catch up. He contacted me but I never talked to him because I wanted to get back together. My suggestion once again is to really open up to your boyfriend if you have concerns. It is the only way that your relationship can grow. Good luck.

Answer 6

My Space does not jump out of the monitor and
grab someone and make them write something,
it takes a human and if one wants to communicate
with someone yet already has someone then that
person just plays around with feelings to begin
with. I use Yahoo questions and answers but
do not need my space as I have a loving wife
whom I love and do not have time to play around
with anyone's feelings as I only care of how my
wife feels.

Answer 7

How long were they together? Sometimes it is a comfort thing that a person falls back in to.

If you are in a committed relationship I agree that it is hurtful for him to tell her things that he would not tell you. That may be what you should talk to him about.

Did he leave the account open or did you sneak in to it? That may be an argument comming if he feels you violated his personal space....Im not saying that what he did was right...but neither is sneaking in to his account.

If it was harmless talking, I would just approach it as you were hurt by him not feeling that he could tell you the things he told her.

I wish you luck...

Answer 8

If it was not myspace it would be something else. I have a myspace and keep it private so that I only have certain people on it. I would say just go talk to him and see what he says.

Answer 9

Myspace doesn't ruin lives...its the people who use myspace with ulterior motives that ruin lives....People use myspace to keep in touch with family and friends....it is up to the individuals to use myspace in an appropriate manner....

Answer 10

The fact is you are unhappy and you feel he has betrayed you.
Gather your courage and talk things over with him. If he denies this or throws a smoke screen to make you look somewhere else, he's hiding something.

After 3 years, you know him better than we do....Follow your instincts.