i have been best friends with two girls for a couple of years but lately things have gotten a little weird. We hang out in this big group and i dont really know or like the other girls. It seems like my friends have just lost interest in me and i want to try and make other friends but im shy...and afraid they will get mad or something
2007-12-03 11:50:12 · 11 answers · asked by swimgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OMG!! finally someone knows what I'm going through! I'm going through exactly the same thing. I have been best friends with 3 girls in particular for 5 years. Just recently in the past year a new girl has shown up and has in my other fellow peers opinion in my group has caused nothing but chaos in our group, for simple things such as revealing secrets and intimate details which were meant as secrets in which all she did was cause so much trouble. As she started moving in, she revealed and in a way starting 'kissing up' to my best friends, of course everyone else in my group saw that, except for my bestfriends, a lot has happened in a space of 11 months and has even managed to turn my best friends against me. It hurts because the secrets that I used to reveal to my closest friends were soon revealed to her in which she sort of used it against me and almost used it as a weapon to isolate me by myself while she moved in on my closest friends. My so 'called' closest friends now arent so close anymore..that hurts because it's a shame that something as small as this girl can seperate and make a friendship disintegrate. I've been considering moving groups, I don't want to spend time slandering, backstabbing or figuring out a way to get back at them because theres no point, I've learnt to keep my distance from those kind of people because they're not worth it, over the past year I've matured in confidence a lot especially myself.
I really cannot begin to think of how this friendship became so bitter, but I'm not willing to take the time to do so either. I'm tired of the same old same old, these girls in which i did consider my 'closest friends' don't seem the same anymore.
I'm the same, sometimes I am quiet and do not like to express my anger and hurt that I have felt over the past recent months, but that's okay. Recently over the past few months, I have found new a friendship, with people that don't care about the backstabbing and bitterness that my old friendship only consisted of. I love this new friendship because they have accepted me for who I am, and I am able to be more of myself infront of these people!.
The old close friendship that I did have---I still have these friends, I don't want any bitterness between us, so I have these people still as friends...but just not on my christmas card list.
I'm glad that I am finally free from these kind of people in my life. It can cause a huge burden on your life! (it really can believe it or not!)
2007-12-03 12:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by DramaQueen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should just try planning something with them. Whether it's a trip somewhere, or just a sleepover. Maybe u should think too. Did u do something to them. Something to affend them, maybe? Well in any case ask them if u did. And if u want to make new friends then start a conversation. Like for instance, "Did u see South Park last night", or did u see that play by Tom Brady". GOOD LUCK! :)
2007-12-03 11:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah teenagers with your pitiful little problems. If you're so shy, how do you have friends to begin with? And why would they get mad at you making new friends? They didn't ask your permission when they starting hanging out with these girls. And if they do get mad, F them.
2007-12-03 11:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went through this in highschool and it really made me depressed. My friends turned their backs on me and ignored me like I didnt exist anymore, and I too am VERY shy and dont do well with meeting people. All I can tell you, is try really hard to meet people. I didnt...and I dont have any friends and its truly pathetic. You can do it:)
2007-12-03 11:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by krisindeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have decided what you want to do. i would go do it and dont' look back you are seeing that they aren't part ofthe game you want and i agree with you. it wouldn't be hard just press on and go. it takes a big leap and you will be glad when you have gone and made new friends there is so much to life with new firends and new things to do. take care.
2007-12-03 11:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im guessing ur young like 13 or soo so im going to tell u the best advice i can think of just be your self walk in to the group and talk if they like you they will talk to you more and if they dont screw um go find ur self some better friends =]
2007-12-03 11:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, be yourself! Meeting people will always be "shy" at first...but when you get warmed up to them, its totally normal! If ii were you, I would definitly go and meet new people! because...*only your true friends matter* and if all it takes is meeting new people..then there you go :] ii would take that chance and hold on to it!
2007-12-03 11:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol ... look just tell them how you fell it would totally help... and if the get mad who cares okay .... but if you dont really want to make friend try goin to movies or somthing you guys like to do together .... :]
2007-12-03 11:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh im going through the same thing!
just tell em how you feel... thats what i do. works like a charm. they never ignore me again.
2007-12-03 11:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by Alison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the same thing to them
2007-12-03 11:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by (-.-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋