How do suicide surviors feel?

Question

I was feeling suicidal to day and when my psychiatrist came to see me he told me that he thought of suicide as a hostile act. I told him that people who want to and who do commit suicide aren't trying to be hostile, They want to end the pain, he suggested that I post the question here to find out how people who survied suicide feel about it.

Answer 1

My brother committed suicide in 1992. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't wonder what if... I have also been there, i hate to say it but feelings are only temporary. In my opinion it is a very selfish act, not hostile. I have been there and understand what pain is, but it WILL get better.

Answer 2

Supposedly there are some people who commit suicide as an act of revenge, so then it is a hostile act.

I have attempted suicide more than once. For me, it is the total despair that I feel from bipolar depression. I am in such burning pain, it is beyond what I can bear. It doesn't matter if I use cognitive behavioral therapy or anything like that, then I just know that I am suffering terrible pain for absolutely no reason. Of course, I'm not usually all that rational at that point, and I generally feel everyone hates me, or at least they don't care. Mostly, I just can't stand to hurt like this anymore (I'm still there, can you tell?) So for me, I have attempted suicide to end the pain.

I keep trying treatments, but I've failed on all of them, therapy has not helped, and i get a lot of weirdo drug reactions. So I probably will die by suicide. In my case, I think it is a mercy killing. If I could find a treatment that would work, I would take it. Rationally, I think people would be upset that I died, but personally, I do not think it would be different than dying of cancer. The treatments just failed, and that's too bad and researchers have to keep at it so others don't die. So that's what I think about it now, that a person owes it to their family to do everything they can to be better, but you can't save everyone. All you can do is try.

Answer 3

I've thought about suicide on and off thru-out my entire life. I am 42 years old. I have never tried it, but often thought of it as an alternative to the pain that I've suffered. I've never been a violent person. Sometimes the pain feels more then I can bare and that's when the suicide thoughts come into play.

Answer 4

Personally ambivalent. I tried and I can tell you hostility was a part of it. Does that mean it was unjustified? Depends; who is around you and what is their treatment for you. Is it worth it if it is hostility. Sadists would say the revenge is better when alive to wittiness it. You may feel shame, and you may feel guilt for not accomplishing the impossible, but you should really just change your mind. Once you are stuck in shame and self doubt, guilt has its foot stuck in your door. Get angry with your self and regain your autonomy for your own self first. Then when you grow past that, you have the competence to help others. Is it because of pain? Abslolutely: shame and guilt, but you did not create your own imperfection; we are all born that way into different conditions.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_prayer

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.
(Fritz Perls, 1969)

The key idea of the statement is the focus on living in response to one's own needs, without projecting onto or taking introjects from others. It also expresses the idea that it is by fulfilling their own needs that people can help others do the same and create space for genuine contact; that is, when they "find each other, it's beautiful".

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fritz_Perls

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Answer 5

I survived it and honestly it is a 50/50 thing sometimes everything is good and all is ok but others I slip back and think of doing it again ( well attempting it ) and I just dont try anymore due to my girl <3 and my step dad I just sat and thought the haters in my life will hate it is my job to look at all the people loving me and wishing me the best and focus on that

Answer 6

I have had students that have committed suicide. The only feeling that you could feel (that's if your a caring person) Is I wish I knew or Why didn't they come to me . You feel sadness for the loss. And of course it is a self act but selfish act I wouldn't go as far as to call it that.

Answer 7

suicide survivors will not all feel the same about it, some will be disappointed that they never made it while others will be gratefull they failed!