he has piercings,a big tattoo,escapes from his house ,he doesn't listen to his parents and even when he is grounded he does whatever he wants, about 1 month ago he went to a bar and had sex with 2 girls :s .. i really need your help to stop him doing this horrible things
he is only 14
2007-12-03 09:38:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i can't get away from him,because i love him so much his my bf i just want the best for him and for everyone arround him
I need YOUR HELP! please
2007-12-03 09:47:03 · update #1
beeing a teenager doesn't means you have to be that stupid..
2007-12-03 09:50:29 · update #2
he needs JESUS!!
2007-12-03 09:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by sexychocolate91 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
call your states child abuse hotline. the parents arent' abusing him (at least you haven't indicated that) but the state may provide what's called General Protective Services (may vary by state) . GPS will get a person into the home to work with the family in learning to manage the child's behavior. Worst case scenario, they will place him in a residential facility for a period of time to work with him through whatever is leading him through such a destructive path.
the tattoos and piercing are one thing but the sex with 2 woman/bar thing means he's really getting himself in too deep.
or you could just tell him about those services and talk to him about everything.
best wishes.
2007-12-03 09:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with his parents but tell them you want to remain annynomous or you wont help them. get their ok. then tell them what he is doing, when he does it again, notify them, but tell them not to say how they knew this, . you have to discern what kind of parents he has also. they may not be worth a hoot and this explains his behavior. If they are not worth a hoot, seek outside help for him. he is a minor untill he is 18. call dhs, get a school counselor, your pastor, or youth minister. get someone to act fatherly to him if it is lacking in his home life. here is something you can do very possitive for your bf. Pray for him, just ask God to open his heart to receive the help you will strive to obtain on his behalf, ask God that he take away rebellion, and give to him the love and affection he is not receiving and to help him be closer to the Lord. Pray works, but you must just take 2 min. a day to ask the Lord these very things on behalf of your poor friend. be the best friend that you say you are. Good luck God bless you.
2007-12-03 10:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be so bothered. He is a mammal after all and I bet he did not hurt anyone. There are lots of people out there and to each is own. Dont try to be captin save a hoe. worrie about your-self and that does not mean you cant have an opinion, but sometimes opinions can be like a@@holes we all have them and they all stink. The only decider in this situation is your friend and you have to answer yourself this am I this persons friend or there owner. Be their friend or be a hater.
2007-12-03 09:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him what is right. It's his parents job to raise him and put their foot down when it comes to his outrageous behavior. I know that he is your friend and all, but don't let his negative behavior influence you to do the wrong things.... I am sure by the age of 14 he knows right from wrong. If he get wild and outta control and wants to drag you with him, then you might want to stop associating with him. Event if that's not the case.....Can you really see yourself hanging out with someone who is not about same things that you are?
2007-12-03 09:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by True S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I don't think there's much you can do to stop your friend. He is clearly out of control and it will catch up with him. He needs a major wake up call--and if he keeps going to bars, he'll end up in juvenile court quick enough. Hopefully that'll do the job.
You shouldn't go to any of the places he is going to "save" him. This will only get you in trouble too.
2007-12-03 09:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sort of sounds like my old best friend. If you can be a good example in his life and not be negatively effected by his bad decisions I think you should try to help him. I think there' s hope for him. For some of us we need to hit bottom before we can begin to climb out of it.
2007-12-03 09:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by kaysayswhat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes hes a bit crazy... and Ive had friends like this " past tense"
3 of them died.. the others became scitzo alcoholic pot heads who live in there mothers garage, and drooped out of high school...
the best thing you can do for him to be there for him and show him that you care for him and pray for him .
Good luck
2007-12-03 09:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Neweyes777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he got into a bar? that's pretty cool. I tried that last weekend. I put on fake tattoo though so the bar bouncer did not believe it . :-( So I had to have sex with the girls in the parking lot.
2007-12-03 09:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like most kids if he had his but whooped when he was younger like I did he would of turned out better. Then the stupid *** government had to come in and tell us it's wrong and we have to punish kids by putting them in a time out. Which lets them think about what else can they do to cause trouble.
2007-12-03 09:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your school guidance counsellor They are there to help. Let them know that you are concerned. You are and can be a good friend but it sounds like he is looking for help. Help him find some.
2007-12-03 09:43:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋