Do you learn how to be mature or does it come with age?

Answer 1

There's a saying , " different strokes for different folks ! "

That about sums it up in my opinion....there are a loy of factors that go towards the maturation process... like your personality , upbringing & training , life experiences , trials & tribulations in life ...not to mention people of influence in your life.

All help in determining your thought processes & the level at which your personality matures.

I don't believe it is learned behaviour...yet I also don't believe that everyone necessarily matures in time. I think that all things being equal , a person of average intelligence & abilities will in their own time reach a level that is within the perameters of their own intellect!

How's that for a convolluted answer !

Answer 2

It comes from a lot of things. A lot of my friend give me a hard time because I am young (20's) but I act very mature and I hardly let lose. (They all call me grandma) It doesnt bother me cause i look at where I am today and where other people I know are and I see that I have accomplished so much. Some people never grow up, sadly I think it sometimes take a hard lesson to learn that you cant be a kid your whole life... I used to drink and party, I always thought that things would be fine, then I found myself in an abusive relationship and pregnant... And thats when I learned, thats when I realized that everything you do has concenqueses...

I think some people grow up too soon and some dont grow up at all, it is something you need to learn and when you learn and how you learn can either be forced (going to jail, or getting a devorce) or you can just wake up one moring at realize that the life your living need to be different and that you need to start growing up...

I always hope someone doesnt have to hit their bottom to realize it is time to grow up cause I have seen to many of my friends do that, and sometimes it is to late...

Answer 3

Maturity comes with the learning of life. The learning of what to do and what not to do. A bit like a wise old owl. He sits and observes.But we need to get older for this to happen as we fit more and more into our lives. Some people never learn they are so tied up in themselves they are not observeing whats really happening around them. so it comes with experience compassion and wisdom and having an open mind.

Answer 4

You learn to mature. I learned to mature early. I have been through alot and done so many things in life already and I'm only 18. I changed alot through learning from my mistakes. I no longer do the things I used to do. Now I just want to keep doing my job and then get married and have kids.

Answer 5

Usually maturity comes by inheriting your parents beliefs, customs, and manners and the coming of age. The coming of age is more common among many people because they learn how to be polite and quiet during announcements and they don't think nonsense like they did when they were younger children.

Answer 6

it depends what u mean by mature. by definition mature means fully developed in body or mind, as a person. so there is both physical and mental aspects of maturity to consider. you cant fully control the physical aspect of looking mature ofcourse you jus must wait for it. but u can learn to be mentaly mature here are some tips:
Tone down your fashions. First impressions do count.
You can still wear brightly colored clothes, but look at the fit and the style.
Wear sophisticated things, but express your style with piece that is a little more funny or wild, for example, big sunglasses, kitten heels, or a crazy tie.
Wear more tailored clothing, more put together.
Avoid crazy hair colors like pink and blue. Try more natural colors if you like to color your hair. The crazier colors make you look more immature and kid-like.
Use manners. Try to be courteous without being stuffy or inflexible.
When meeting new people shake their hand. A solid grip, but not too hard, two pumps of the hand and let go. Don't look at your hands; look them in the eye. Repeat their name and make an effort to remember it.
Avoid interrupting people during conversation; people find this irritating.
Don't play with things, look away, or fidget.
Think before you speak. If you can't think of anything to say, don't say it.
Listen, slightly nod, and say little things like, "Oh, yes," to let them know you are listening.
When you speak, use facial expressions and be funny as usual, but be more serious in conversation.
Be helpful. Hold doors, help pick things up, and offer help and assistance when needed.
Talk about mature things to people, work, life experiences, and life lessons you have learned, or just about how beautiful it is outside. Notice how they carry themselves, how they dress, and how they speak.
Around kids, squat down to their size when you talk to them. Don't act fake when they tell you something that is a big accomplishment to them. Say, "Awesome!" or, "Wow, good job." Kids feel good when you are truly amazed instead of patronizing.
Try to use proper grammar and spelling whenever you write, including instant messaging and online games.
Keep an open mind. Just because you have never heard of or tried something, doesn't mean you should shut it out or dismiss the possibility. Rather, see it as an opportunity for you to learn about something (or someone) new and different.
Learn to control your temper. Above all, if somebody does something you don't agree with, try not to shout or carry on. Instead, let it go if it is a minor matter. If you must say something or disagree with someone, do so tactfully and in a conversational tone of voice. You'll find that people respond more positively, too.
Don't swear, or at the very least, save the swearing for times that really warrant it. Swearing mainly demonstrates to others that you have poor control over your temper. Instead, try learning some other words to show your displeasure with something. Something that's not up to your standards could be terrible, lousy, rotten, crummy, no-good, and so on. Many of these terms will help you zero in on what the trouble is, communicate more effectively, and perhaps even move towards a solution.
Try it! You will probably find that people will listen to you better and take you more seriously if you don't swear.
Accept compliments gracefully. If somebody has taken the trouble to compliment you,
Take criticism gracefully, too. Not all of it is valid, but it is often worth giving some thought to how others see you and what you can improve.
Be mature and polite online, too.
Turn off your caps lock key and capitalize proper nouns and the beginnings of sentences.
Think before you post. Have lots of people already said what you're about to say? Does your post make sense?
Read and follow the rules. They're there for a reason.
Proofread before you post. Use complete sentences
Go easy on abbreviations ("ur", "LOL"), slang, and emoticons. A sprinkling of these in an informal setting can add color. Too many can make it incomprehensible.

Answer 7

in my age young people we were much mature at 17 then young same age today we used finish school at 11 university people used finish at 18 and at 20 we were getting married and stay married for life because we were truing hart to work auto and we had the responsibility to love the family. now young people going to school up to 30 years old and in the and they still didn't learned anything good.

Answer 8

Maturity is learned, I know many young people who are very mature.

Answer 9

Comes with age but also gotta mature on ur own too

Answer 10

Both.

As you age your life experiences give you maturity lessons but you have to be observant enough to learn from them.