Why do most women still expect the man to pay for everything?

Question

Aren't you, like, uhhhh EQUAL to us?

Here's the definition of EQUALITY
"the quality of being the same in quantity or measure or value or status "

That means, equal responsibilities. You're not children. You can pay for us half the time, and we'll pay for you half the time.

Hey JDT,

What makes one human being financially obligated to another?

Answer 1

For a first date, whoever did the asking should pay. After that, they can alternate leaning heavier on one person if their income is significantly higher, but both should still have their turn paying.

The only reason that one person would pay all the time is either one is extremely poor and the other is not or one person really doesn't feel like being there but agreed to it anyways.

I think dutch is ridiculous for people that are dating, that should be reserved for friends.

Answer 2

Some women were raised differently than the rest of us. They may have been raised to believe that, for a man to be a gentleman, he needed to pay, so they think it is the right and the proper thing for a man to do (or they are just spoiled). If you don't like that, just tell them, the ones you actually want to be with, will start paying every once and a while

Answer 3

Because, and it is simple unless you fail to understand this. On any date a man will normally pay because he thinks by doing so it will lead to:

1. Another date

2. sex

It is far easier for a Lady to hand the bill (Check in USA) to you and get away with it than if they gave it to you and asked who should pay, or even tried to pay themselves.

They then keep your interest and unless you really like them you should learn from this first encounter that things aren't going to be .

Apart from the first date when you should go Dutch (pay equally) Then you should pay on grounds of which one of you can afford to do so. Believe me there is nothing worse than pulling and trying to pay for things you can't afford to try and impress... Been there, done that, got the T Shirt and against my argument got the girl! but that was a one off"

Thinking with a clear head! I think that if two people have it within themselves to arrange a date, then god help all of humanity if they can't organise who is going to pay!!!!

Answer 4

It depends on the person you are dating. If they are more independent then go half. If they are traditional then think if the woman is worth it and if she is don't complain. Me personally I like to pay for my own but a treat from a guy every once and a while is nice. It's true though that chivalry is dying off and thats really sad. Men you can do better.

Answer 5

You can have equality and still maintain gender roles. Relationships are give and take. Men take care of women by being providers, and women take care of men by being nurturers. Sorry if that sounds sexist. Those roles can be reversed, depending on the relationship, but both roles are very important. If the woman is the provider, and the man is the nurturer, that's fine, as long as both jobs get done. Same goes for relationships between two men, or two women.

Answer 6

Before men and women were considered equal, men would vote, own all the women's possessions, etc. Since the men owned everything, i guess that means they would have to pay since back the in was their money. Now of course men and women are equal, but I guess it is still just a "tradition", or something that just didn't change over time.

Answer 7

I think that just because we are taking all your jobs doesnt mean we dont want you to pay. We want to be treated equal in situations and not in others. When it comes to dinner, we dont want to feel like your cheap and we want to feel like we are worth the $30 filet and not the $12 mac and cheese. Men dont get the concept but I dont think women really do either. Ask ahead of time if the chick wants to go Dutch, if not thats something your just going to have to be prepared for.

Answer 8

Most men think that is the way the women will feel about it,and it is always hard to turn down free stuff. I know as a man I feel appreciated when the women pays. If you are seeing someone often you should talk about who pays for what and when.

Answer 9

i don't expect my man to pay for everything. thats why we agreed to be in a mutual relationship not here i'm with him and he does all the work. If the women expects the man to pay for every single thing then they're just GOLDDIGGERS. sorry ladies but i don't like people like that.

Answer 10

I don't expect it. It does make me feel good. It makes me feel like they like me enough to spend some money on me. I would rather them just take me ice skating or make me dinner though. It shows that they think I am worth the time. It tells me they truly respect and are interested in me.