yeah im 8 n a half weeks and im eight teen and hes 44
2007-12-03 08:25:13 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Unless you fear for your safety, please inform this man of your pregnancy. He is the father of the child, and he should know about your child together. He should also be given the chance to provide for your care and the future care of your child. Do you know if he loves you? If yes, let him love you and your child. If he wishes to marry and have a family with you, and you care for him too, then you should accept his proposal. Love does not always follow the social norm, and if there is a chance of love and a safe home for you and your child, you should take it. Love does not care that you are so much younger than this man.
Now, if there is no love between you two, or he is married, or you do not feel safe with approaching this man, do not go to him, at least not alone. If you feel he should know about his child, take someone with you, meet him in a public place, inform him of your pregnancy, and leave. Otherwise, plan on taking care of your child on your own. It is my best hope you will have help from family and friends, and I also hope you will find a man whom you can love, marry, and have a safe and loving home and family with.
2007-12-03 10:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you having sex and not married? What can you do? You can either have this baby and raise it, or give it up for adoption. I know of women who had abortions, and not one of them would ever recommend it. But I have known people who adopted, and those kids are SOOOOO loved by the adoptive parents.
Now, the reason he's 44 and not with someone his own age is because no one his own age would put up with his crap. I had one friend who, at age 22, married a man 21 years older than her. But they were married before she ever got pregnant. And there's a big difference between 18 and 22. And she wishes she wouldn't have married him. My husband's niece was 19 and married someone 30 years older. Needless to say, that's not going well, either. He played on your naiveness. Have you been having sex with him before you were 18? If so, that makes him a legal pedophile. There's something seriously wrong with that guy. Make sure he doesn't get time alone with the kid, should you choose to raise it.
2007-12-03 08:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i would keep my kid and figure out why ans how i related with a man whos 26 years older. i don't think you are stupid but when you child is grown will the guy be alive? will he be there to support you? in most relationships like yours the couple can't make it unless they understand and can cope with the different behaviors because of the age difference. you are young and young people wanta go out to clubs and enjoy thier independence. he might just wanta stay home and watch t.v
it will be hard but if he is gonna take care of you and your baby like a real man should then the best of luck to you.
2007-12-03 10:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Avangelis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd have the baby and take care of it. I'd wonder why a 44 year old man would want to have sex with an 18 year old girl. I'd wonder if he was a kid even at that age or just weird? 44 year old men don't need to be having UNPROTECTED sex with a girl so young. Why don't women his own age date him? What's wrong with him. I'd be questioning that a lot.
2007-12-03 08:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
First of all, why did u have sex with a 44 year old?
Second, ask a professional for advice
2007-12-04 08:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're too youthful for a guy that previous, he's an individual, you're nonetheless an exceedingly youthful minor infant. he can bypass to detention center for two decades.dont attempt this to him, ..and dont enable him contact you in any respect. get a boy your age in case you imagine you want someone so undesirable.
2016-10-25 09:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..i dont think i would ever be with a 44 year old while i was 18, but if i was in that situation..i would 1st tell him...and see weather or not he would be in the baby and my life..then 2nd, tell my parents..and make sure he pays CS if he wasnt living with the baby
2007-12-03 08:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, technically you are an adult, but if you are still living at home with your parents, you need to tell them.
They will be able to help you... and you'll need their support right now.
You'll also want to let the father know. You two will have to sit down and have a heart to heart talk.
Good luck!
2007-12-03 08:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'd not let myself get in that situation.
But IF it happened I'd hope I had to good sense to not get involved with a married man. He isn't married is he?? And I'd hope he wanted the baby.
Good Luck
2007-12-03 09:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by STRESSED spells DESSERTS 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough.
Not going to judge you though - my aunt got married when she was 18 to someone who was 22 years older than her.
As long as you love him and you're happy with him and happy about the pregnancy - there's nothing you can do but enjoy it, and don't take sh!t from anyone who judges you.
Good luck sweetie, God bless.
2007-12-03 08:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Big Red♥ is TTC 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋