We just found out that my friends 4year old boy has autism. I don't see him very often (maybe once a month?) and when I do see him I think he does like me. But there is a big communication barrior. I'm wondering if there is a way I can approch him to make things easier on him and to make more comfortable with me? I don't know much about this dissorder so any advice is welcome. Thankyou so much in advance for all of your help!
Oh, and please do not say stuff like treat him the same way he has always been treated. I'm not going to treat him badly or like he is below anyone else, that was not my question. I just want to know if there is a way to make things better. Thanks again!
2007-12-03 05:28:04 · 14 answers · asked by lil' moosey_giggle bear_ :) 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
Get down on his level. Play with him even if at first he does not interact with you. Don't force the interaction, just show you are ready and willing! Use simple language (for instance...if you want to ask him to play cars say: "Want to play cars?" Instead of: "hey, do you want to play with matchbox cars today?") Find out what he really likes and is motivated by then use that as an icebreaker. I think it is wonderful that you are asking this question! There should be more people like you out there. :)
2007-12-03 09:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by charismaca88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The quantity of instances of autism has skyrocketed ago few a long time. When my brother used to be identified approximately two decades in the past, they knew virtually not anything approximately it. Now, each person turns out to grasp any person who's being affected by autism. Many individuals blame immunizations. Some, however no longer all, instances seem to be genetic. There's additionally proof that autistic individuals have a problematic time ridding their frame of mercury. Other individuals have discovered gluten-loose, dairy-loose diets to support. I in my opinion feel that autism is a ailment that may have one-of-a-kind reasons. I do not feel immunizations are one hundred% trustworthy, however I additionally do not feel they're the only intent of the upward push in autism. Autism is a truly ailment. Your loved ones must appear into each detail of study related to autism to assess what could support your nephew. Since one-of-a-kind matters have helped one-of-a-kind youngsters, you can ought to preserve an open brain. Check out the internet site underneath for support and assets.
2016-09-05 19:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a very big spectrum of autism disorders,
Its kind of trial and error, some like touch, some will scream if you touch them some can talk some cant some love music making it some cant tolerate noise. It depends what he enjoys, some a great at puzzles, try different stuff with him my son was diagnosed with sensory integration disfunction , its in the autism spectrum. A great book that helped me meet some of the challenges was the out of syn child has fun, it has all sorts of things that you can do with them Hope it helps there is also the out of syn child which explains all about sensory problems PS you CANT treat these children the same because they are not Just give lots of love and try to understand what is going on with them. You can really work with them well when you dont have the same expectations that you would with a child that doesnt have these challenges.
2007-12-03 05:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Miles J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many excellent books on dealing with autism. I am no expert, but due to mainstreaming practices in the public school system, I have taught and worked with several autistic children over the years. Each child is totally unique and the extent to which autism affects each child is far ranging in its expression from child to child. Some are very high functioning and others have difficulty completing the simplest of tasks. In short, there is no ONE way of dealing with autism other than getting to know the child his or herself. One thing that is fairly general is that the autistic mind works in a radically different way. All of the children I worked with were generally incapable of reading accurately non-verbal cues and processing non-literal language. Keeping language simple and direct works well. Avoid relying on voice inflection to communicate and figures of speech. Do not get overly emotional as this can lead to confusion. I came to genuinely love each of the autistic children I taught - often finding great charm in their unique perspectives. I can honestly say that I learned a great deal about the way I think because of my interaction with them. I wish you good luck in what should prove to be a rewarding relationship for both you and the boy.
2007-12-03 05:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by hiztreebuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I give you my advice, let me start by saying that my lil sister has autism. Something you are going to have to learn to cope with is the fact that he may look 4 but he may only be 2 in his mind. It's kinda like the movie Jack, He looks 40 but he's only 8. The only thing is, don't talk to him or treat him like a baby. Once people find out that my sister is autistic, they do kinda talk down to her, and not only does she pick up on that, but it also upsets her. ALOT!!! Always treat him like you would anyone else, and the more time you spend with him, the better!
2007-12-03 05:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by brandon b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try just observing him for a while to see what draws his attention or appeals to him. Many children with autism a very visually oriented and are fascinated by sparkly, shimmering, flashing sorts of toys or objects. Others are drawn to sound making things.
If he is vocalising, try echoing his own sounds back to him. If you talk to him, keep it simple, just using key words supported by signs/gestures.
My son is an adult with autism. He has grown into a talkative, gentle, loving young man. He is still autistic, but he has overcome many of the difficulties he had with language and communication.
This is a lifelong condition, but with good support and education you will be amazed at the progress that can be made.
Enjoy him, he has a very special view of the world.
2007-12-03 08:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Andi C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a cousin who was diagnosed with autism at a very young age, and while every case is different, it may help to bring him a little gift next time you see him. my cousin always liked thomas the tank engine, so everytime i saw him, i brought him a train from target. he was always very excited to get one and it gave us loads to talk about (but be prepared to know everything about it by the end of the night). i hope this helps, and good luck!
and just a little note: the parents will need tons of support during this time as well. most parents will go through hell and back with their autistic children, so any support or just giving the parents time to get away and have some time to themselves i'm sure would be appreciated.
2007-12-03 05:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by jkinkade81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just treat him like you would want someone to treat you if you were autistic. I have a friend who is autistic as well but that doesn't mean that he's not human just like any of us are. If you want to make him feel comfortable around you then try things like buying him gifts, making offers to keep him etc. Just treat him like one of your own.
2007-12-03 05:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him come to you! Don't force yourself on him. Let him come to you when he feels comfortable and when he is ready. When he does come to you and he will just follow HIS lead. Comment on what he is doing using MINIMAL language ie one or two words.Follow his play and do not try to lead it. You will have great fun together if you don't try to take over. Good luck.
2007-12-03 08:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're already on the right track! Just being yourself and letting him approach you in his own way is a lot!
2007-12-03 05:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋