I am 14 years old and i feel like i am 9. I have 2 younger brothers one 13 and on 3. When i take a shower i have to leave the door unlocked idk why it sucks( but noone comes in) my tv has to be cut off at 9pm or i am grounded. Any thing i say wrong to the younger ones i am grounded for but when they say it to me and i tell on them or something who gets in trouble ME. I give respect most of the time and i want to start going on dates soon. Also when i am in my room i have to keep my door open so i can help with my baby brother and i am always helping with him like i have gotten so used to eat that i really can't stand it no more! How can i tell my momma and dad mainly momma that i can't take it no more i want more privacy and less to do with my brothers!!!!
2007-12-03 05:22:42 · 12 answers · asked by vaderslittlegirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
To the person that first answered my question dude thats why i don't talk to my parents thats the same thing they tell me and its hard for my to sit them down my mom is like bi-polar so its hard to talk to her
2007-12-03 05:31:18 · update #1
something else to add is that my other brother the 13 yr old is not allowed to be around the 3yr old alone because he is dangerous they might be sending him away cause he is so horrible
2007-12-03 05:54:59 · update #2
you know I do know how you feel im 30y/o but i know. i was the only girl out of 5 brothers so i had to do it all cook grocery shop, clean laundry run andpay bills for my mom on my bike and follow my twin brother everywhere he went so my mom could be "alone" and now that im a parent i dont make that mistake. i have two sons one who is 7 and the other almost 2 and i know my son needs privacy and i dont put my responsibility on my older son like my mom did and actually my brother has two girls one 13 the other 7 and omg she has to do everything for her sister get her ready for school and do homework she just had her first sleep over on sat the 2nd it was her 13th birthday and the only reason she doesnt get sleep overs or cant go to friends houses is cause she has to watch her younger sister and it isnt fare.
i know you are grateful, but it is your parents job to feed you and cloth and shelter you you didnt ask to be born you shouldnt ever have to feel like you owe your parents since they feed you. i recomend you talking to your Mom asap sit her down alone and talk to her like your and adult let her know look im at that age now where i need some privacy so I can "do me" firgue out your nitch in live and its impossibe to do when you constantly have to plan your days around your siblings. come to a compromise what ever days you need to your self ask for those days then let your mom know on the other days you will hang out with them, let her know you dont want it to be like a chore to spend time with your siblings but you are 14 and need your privacy. and You are not amom your a sister and you have a life to live and you need to be able to close your door if you want to. Have the 13 yr old brother play with the 3 yr old or have your mom look after him. I think she will appreciate you telling her this, maybe she doesnt realize. the best thing you can do is talk to your mom asap. your human your not perfect your a teenager not a mother. giving you space will make it more fun for when you do spend time with your brothers.
good luck!tt your parents
after hearng about your 13 y/o brother sounds like your mom and dad need to step in a little more and be more involved with them. kids are not born gettting in to trouble! no disrespect to your parents but its not your responsiblity you have enough to balance justbeing a teen ager.
2007-12-03 05:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Mom how she would feel if you had a baby right now? Tell her because you feel like you do because of all the responsibility she's giving you with your younger brother. Tell her that's the last thing you want and would like to be responsible for your own actions not those of your brothers. A 14 yr old girl does need her privacy especially with a 13 yr old brother who I'm sure has friends. Express to your mother why you feel you need privacy (though this should be apparent) and maybe you can work on a compromise. I personally don't fill that siblings should be responsible for one another unless they are getting paid. You didn't have the child your Mother did it's her responsibility.
2007-12-03 05:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm 15 and my sister can just shoo me off the computer, lil brother who is 7 kick me (and I mean physically) out from the couch and snatches the remote, Mom just brage in the toilet when I'm doing my 'business' and when I shower, and yeah, alot more...
Tell your mom straight forward when your 13 year old brother isn't around (it's safer, trust me) during dinner whether you can start dating.
And tell your parents that your 13 year old brother should start taking care of the younger one, he has to have a bond with him and learn some responsibilities. What will your relatives think about your parents if your brother was sent away? Horrendous.
At least you have your own room.. I have to share a 10" X 12" cubicle with my sister who is a mess! I, and only I have to clean the room. She doesn't have to cause she's older and doesn't even enough how to mop the floor...
2007-12-03 12:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your parents want to have the best of two worlds with you. You're a grown-up when they need help with your brothers, but when they don't need your help, you return to being their helpless little girl.
If you are unable to communicate with your mother because of her emotional condition, perhaps you need to have a one-on-one talk with your father. Don't have this talk at home, but rather go somewhere else with your dad, perhaps for dinner or ice cream, whatever. He will be more open to listening to you and speaking what is truly on his mind without the possible interruption and judgment of your mother to worry about. It is in my experience, good fathers wish to have a close and trusting relationship with their daughters, so I would not expect your dad to be any different.
If this idea does not work, perhaps a conversation with a grandparent, aunt, or uncle might help.
Whatever you do, do not let this issue go undiscussed. Keeping it bottled up will only serve to create more stress between you and your parents, and you may even begin to resent your brothers, and if you do, your resentment will begin to show in how your treat them. Don't let your brothers become the "scapegoats". They are innocent and should not be treated badly for the faults of others.
2007-12-03 06:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im curious , at your mother's residence, when you have loved ones in from out of the town in which do they sleep? Or when you have a nap over along with your peers.. in which do they sleep? sofa? a further room? my factor is you dont have disorders most likely if anybody else remains breifly for your room , however all of a sudden given that your father known as it a "visitor" room, your having a have compatibility.. right here u move.. Easy, if u have some thing to cover then dont preserve it for your room at your fathers, different smart u shouldnt care if anybody comes for your room .. till you develop up and pay your possess charges and feature your possess residence, u ought to do what your moms and dads say.. and if they are saying that anybody from out of the town has to make use of your room to stick in for per week each and every as soon as in a whilst , so be it.. they pay the charges.. you ought to move by means of their laws.. lifes no longer consistently reasonable, u can simply manage it, and appear at matters as part "complete" or you'll be able to come to a decision to make your teenage years a hassel and depressing by means of discovering fault in the whole lot ur moms and dads do.. (btw sheets will have to be washed or modified earlier than and after visitors anyhow, so dont fear you wont get visitor cooties lol)
2016-09-05 19:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that look, it may seem weird coming from a 14yr old but i have too much responsibilty. I need time to be with myself and figure some stuff out! I need some independence from my bros. Im feeling cramped and enclosed. Im 14 and telling you this. Wake up and listen lol. Im not a little girl anymore. or something along those lines
2007-12-03 05:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Try to approach mom sometime when she is in a godd mood. Try to stay calm when you're telling her because if you start yelling that would totally make things worse. Tell her that you feel like she dosn't give you enough space or freedom and how it makes you feel.
2007-12-03 06:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with them show them how mature you really are! and ask them! Tell them how you feel the way you just described it to us! Don't get in an argument or yell just stay calm the entire time!
2007-12-03 05:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by autum_mist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would sit your mom down and explain to her how you feel. Ask her how you can earn more privacy and respect! Good Luck!
2007-12-03 05:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen tell your parents to STOP this non-sense. They are treating you like 5.
2007-12-03 06:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋