Any ideas on how to break my little one of having to fall asleep on me?

Question

My little girl is almost 3 months old and she has to fall asleep on me or she will throw a fit to the point of making her self sick if i just lay her in her crib. Help please!

to answer some questions, I would like to break this habit because i am a working mom i work 55 hrs a week and she does not take her last bottle untill 10:30 i have to be up at 5:00. Don't get me wrong i love holding her and letting her fall asleep on me but she also needs to learn to fall asleep on her own. I do not support co-sleeping sorry that is out of the question. I will not do it, bad things happen that way.

Answer 1

My son was real bad about that. I could never get him to fall asleep on his own. I finally had to break him at 10 months. I just made sure he was fed and changed, loved on him and sang him a song so he knows I am there for him, laid him down. He would cry for up to 30-45 minutes at first. But the time got less and less every day. Now he is broken of it and He only cries for less than a minute and falls asleep. You have an advantage b/c your little one is only 3 months. Its much easier to start now rather than later.

Answer 2

I breast feed our baby, rock her a bit and when she is drowsy I lay her in the crib to sleep. It takes some practice for the baby to get used to it. Try it tonight. She may cry for a few minutes. Go in and comfort her. Once she is calm leave again. It usually only takes two trips in or less before they are asleep. In the winter when it is colder we sometimes put a hot water bottle in her crib where she lays so that it is nice and warm and comfortable. Take the water bottle out before you put her in and it won't be such a shock to go from Mom's nice warm arms to a cold crib!

Answer 3

When my son was born he was the same way. He didn't like to be in the crib, I think it was the openness of the space. Just to get some peace and quiet I started having him sleep in his swing...but batteries wear out. I then started placing him in his car carrier. He always seems to enjoy the proximity of the car seat. I would then place the car carrier (on top of a baby blanket) in the crib, so that he would get used to the crib's surroundings. Eventually I was able to put him down in the crib without the car carrier.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

My son was the same way, but I didn't stop letting him fall asleep on me until he was much older. I think you should let it continue for now. I started to put my son down drowsy, but still awake when he was about nine/ten months. He cried at first, but has since learned that the crib means bed/nap time.

Answer 5

Let her fall asleep on you for about an hour to make sure she's in a deep sleep. Then try moving her into her crib.

Answer 6

Have you tried laying her in her crib, but keeping a hand on her until she falls asleep?

Answer 7

maximum sleep running shoes will say to no longer use their procedures till 6 months previous. Many infants ought to be parented to sleep. Parenting is a concern in case you have yet another time table, yet now this baby is your quantity one precedence. authentic now he desires specific issues to nod off- being swaddled and sucking to sleep are the techniques he needs to nod off. he will advance out of those issues. it may be great if he ought to easily bypass to sleep without being rocked and swaddled and a pacifier, yet that's no longer fact. some infants ought to be helped to sleep till 2 or 3. this is no longer spoiling, this is no longer coaching them undesirable sleep behavior, this is attachment parenting. in case you % to enable your baby cry it out and nod off that way, then you certainly could forget approximately relating to the baby till it happens.

Answer 8

This is very normal. Why not let her fall asleep on you?

Answer 9

Perhaps you could add more detail and explain why you need to "break" the habit? I promise she will not need you to do it on her honeymoon.

I think it's a really enjoyable sort of treat, having somebody love you so much that they think it's nice to fall asleep on you. It's a real luxury having somebody so helpless trust you so much.

(It is also completely understandable, given that you were holding her every time she fell asleep for nine-plus months.)

If it's keeping you up, try bringing her into bed with you. Google "safe co-sleeping" for some guidelines.

re. "I will not do it, bad things happen that way" -- that is not backed by research.

"Dr. James McKenna's research on co-sleeping clearly shows the dangers of solitary sleeping in young infants, who slip into abnormal patterns of very deep sleep from which it is very difficult for them to rouse themselves when they experience an episode of apnea (stop breathing). When co-sleeping, the mother is monitoring the baby's sleep and breathing patterns, even though she herself is asleep. When the baby has an episode of apnea, she rouses the baby by her movements and touch. This is thought to be the primary mechanism by which co-sleeping protects children from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In other words, many cases of SIDS in solitary sleeping children are thought to be due to them having learned to sleep for long stretches at a time at a very early age, so they find themselves in these deep troughs of sleep, then they may experience an episode of apnea, and no one is there to notice or rouse them from it, so they just never start breathing again. Co-sleeping also allows a mother to monitor the baby's temperature during the night, to be there if they spit up and start to choke, and just to provide the normal, safe environment that the baby/child has been designed to expect."

http://kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html

"Over the past few years, nearly a million dollars of government research money has been devoted to sleep-sharing research. These studies have all been done on mothers and infants ranging from two to five months in age. Here are the preliminary findings based on mother-infant pairs studied in the sleep-sharing arrangement versus the solitary-sleeping arrangement (Elias 1986, McKenna 1993, Fleming 1994; Mosko 1994):

1. Sleep-sharing pairs showed more synchronous arousals than when sleeping separately. When one member of the pair stirred, coughed, or changed sleeping stages, the other member also changed, often without awakening.

2. Each member of the pair tended to often, but not always, be in the same stage of sleep for longer periods if they slept together.

3. Sleep-sharing babies spent less time in each cycle of deep sleep. Lest mothers worry they will get less deep sleep; preliminary studies showed that sleep-sharing mothers didn't get less total deep sleep.

4. Sleep-sharing infants aroused more often and spent more time breastfeeding than solitary sleepers, yet the sleep-sharing mothers did not report awakening more frequently.

5. Sleep-sharing infants tended to sleep more often on their backs or sides and less often on their tummies, a factor that could itself lower the SIDS risk.

6. A lot of mutual touch and interaction occurs between the sleep-sharers. What one does affects the nighttime behavior of the other.

Even though these studies are being conducted in sleep laboratories instead of the natural home environment, it's likely that within a few years enough mother-infant pairs will be studied to scientifically validate what insightful mothers have long known: something good and healthful occurs when mothers and babies share sleep."

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp

"Why? Several well-designed research studies demonstrate that SIDS is actually reduced in babies cosleeping along with an aware, protective (non-smoking, non-drug-impaired) mother in a safe bed."

http://www.babyreference.com/Cosleeping&SIDSFactSheet.htm

Answer 10

try putting pillows on either side of her so that she feels like someone is there. or maybe make a recording of your voice so that she can hear it. good luck!