Hi! im 28 years old and im in a 3 year relationship with a 23 year old,in the bigining there was lots of sex and i wanted some from him,now the last few months i don't want to have sex im not in the mood anymore,he is not happy with me and is wondering why? when he asks me about it the only thing i could tell him is that im not in the mood,and i really don't know why,can someone help me...thank you
miracle
2007-12-03 04:51:05 · 23 answers · asked by (MIRACLE) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems like your relationship is just based on sex, does not sound like you have any type of friendship or communication involved. Maybe you both need time to figure it out or need to talk about the issue together.
2007-12-03 05:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta find what works to get you in the mood. If you change the way you act, it will have direct impacts on how he feels and how he acts toward you. If you're just not in the mood anymore, don't lay down and accept it. Fight for your sexual glory. Take some suppliments. Go to the doctor. Dress up in sexy clothes and dance around in front of the mirror by yourself. Pull yourself out of this rutt and give that man some good lovin. Not just for a day or two. Find out what it takes to get yourself back into the swing of things. Not only will it make him happier, you will feel better emotionally AND physically. It's ok to backslide sometimes, but you gotta be able to pull yourself back up. You cannot give up completely.
2007-12-03 13:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a small if it just sex. After the thrill wears off because it was something new. You need to start "making love" not sex and it will be more or a thrill for you. You did the bait and switch things and he is now wondering what the heck is going on here now.
2007-12-03 12:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not really fair of you to just up and decide that you don't feel like it anymore. If you want this relationship to work, you've got to figure out what's going to turn you on again. Regular sex is necessary for men to feel close in a relationship, so by not having sex with him, you're alienating him.
Try roledplaying, sex counselor, watching porn together, whatever does it for you!
2007-12-03 13:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may not be anything wrong with you. maybe you are feeling stressed out do to other things in your life. have you recently changed a method of birth control? that can aggravate your hormones.
are you still happy in your relationship? its possible that deep down you aren't and that will keep you from wanting to sleep with him.
there are also possibilities of something medical being wrong...like hormone issues and what not...that would have to be checked out by a doctor.
it may just be that you have been with him for so long that the spark has temporarily fizzled out. try to have a date night and wear something that feels sexy. do something romantic and let him do intimate things to you that aren't sex itself...that should help you get into the mood! if that doesn't work i'd definately check into the other options. good luck!
2007-12-03 12:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Kitty Katt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that we, (women) go through different stages in our lives, and we really don't have answers for it! We are just different than men in oh so many different ways. If you feel there is a problem, maybe you should talk to your gyn about it or your family doctor. No question embarrasses doctors and no questions are 'stupid' when approaching a medical professional. That is what I would do first.
Linda
2007-12-03 12:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Linda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thrill is gone. The newness has worn off, it is as simple as that. When people first get together, hormones are raging. As time passes, there has to be more than just the physical act to keep you interested in someone.
2007-12-03 12:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you thought to yourself, maybe this guy is not the one for me? it takes about that long for a person to loose interest for another person.. unless you were in love.. ok let me make it more clear.. you know when you start dating a guy and in the begining everything is exciting and thrilling.. well it takes on average about 2-3 years to completely loose that interest in another person.. after that if its not love then you wont have nothing at all not even that spak you had in the begining.. think about it.. figure out how you really feel about this guy..
you are still too young to loose your sex drive..
2007-12-03 13:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out where you are in your cycle. Not your menstrual cycle but your bio rhythm cycle.....I am more active in winter and spring....but in the summer and fall.....I don't want to be touched....You need to realize that this is just a phase.
Every relationship goes through this.....it's called a rough patch....the thing is - Most BF/GF relationships don't make it.....one of them usually walks away.
2007-12-03 12:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your body chemistry is changing. It may or may not change back.
You can always consult a DR. If you're on Birth control pills, they can have adverse effects on your drive after a few years. I've known women that have said 'the pill' messed up their drive, and a DR switched them to something else that didn't mess them up.
2007-12-03 12:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by FlyingScooter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋