Okay, well..
I've been with this guy for over a year. and everything seems to be fine. well I noticed in my boyfriends phone that he has girls numbers in his contact list. I asked him about it and he said it's a girl from work. and i didnt ask anything beyond that.
is this something i should be potentially concerned about? or am I just looking too close into this situation?
2007-12-03 04:29:59 · 37 answers · asked by Gabriella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he was seeing someone else, do you really think he would be dumb enough to have her number in his phone?
I don't think you have anything to worry about.
You might want to work on your trust issues though.
2007-12-03 04:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be concerned, if he says it's just a girl from work, then you should trust him. If he was a good boyfriend to you, do you really think he would lie to you about something like this? No, you are definitley looking to close into this situation and need to calm down girl. I mean and I thought I worried too much about little things, yeesh, someone now tops my record with that haha. I mean only be concerned if you find out something was really happening between them like flirting or something. Or like if you watched the show called Kings and Queens, there is an example in one episode in that fat guy's wife having a work husband at work, someone stupid *** made up thing, but I guess you could be concerned with your bf if he is doing something like that lol.
2007-12-03 04:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Zick1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? How is he treating you recently? You might have doubts in some way with these two things if you are having problems or he seems distant. Since he said it was a girl's at work, I suppose give him the benefit of the doubt and then if you see something else that does not look right to you then talk to him again about it. I wish you the best and I hope it works out for you.
2007-12-04 01:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has the phone numbers for a lot girls stored in his phone. A lot of guys too. So do I. Does that mean we're cheating on each other? Of course not. A phone number is not, in and of itself, incriminating. Family, people from work, friends from before you started going out...those girls could be any one of a number of people to him. I trust my boyfriend and he trusts me.
Have you noticed any other behavior that goes along with this girl's phone number that might lead you to believe there's something else going on? Unless he's acting different or trying to hide things or gets caught in a lie you have no reason to worry. Sometimes, a phone number is just a phone number.
2007-12-03 10:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by QT_Pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think it's awesome that he will let you look at his phone, assuming he let you look. But really I wouldn't worry about it. I have woman that are in my contacts list, that I have dated in the past, and my girl knows about it. In addition to that I have contacts for work who are woman as well. Just because I have both contacts doesn't mean I hang out with them or for that matter even call them. I feel that if I was to hide them or get rid of them, that would show I was hiding something. So I keep them there because I may need to contact them in the future, so I would say don't look too deep into it, he is being honest and not hiding anything. Hope this helps.
-Ty
2007-12-03 04:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has girls numbers in his contact list.... he is a likable guy who many come to for help and advice. I don't worry, I trust him and I know he is faithful to me.
Not to mention he has me check his messages and I get the phone bill for the house... so I know there is nothing to worry about.
I think you are jumping the gun. Don't let your past interfer with your future. Trust him until he gives you are real reason not to and having a girls number in his contact list isn't solid proof of anything.
What is sad is that maybe your boyfriend has picked up on your jealousy and that is why he didn't tell you himself about who is in his contact list.
2007-12-03 04:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship for about a year and I still have all the guy's numbers in my phone I've always have. And about 95% of them are simply friends. Don't worry about it, especially since everything is going fine.
2007-12-03 04:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by ***~*** 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all everyone deserves to have their privacy, him and even yourself. Trust is a big part of a relationship. When you look for problems you will find them. Wait until they come slap you in the face before confronting things that may stay in the background if you don't pull them to the front stage. Don't bury your head in the sand. Just don't stir a pot that's cooking so well.
2007-12-03 04:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it one girl or multiple girls? Anyways, I think other red flags would be raised if he were messing around. If it's the phone number(s) that have you all worried, you really should have other reasons to think somethings going on. Jealousy will kill a relationship pretty quickly.
2007-12-03 04:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't given you reason not to trust him, then he's probably telling the truth. If you're concerned and can't shake the worry, then suggest inviting some friends over for dinner...her included. Then you can meet her without singling her out.
2007-12-03 04:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see your point... I am married and I have lots of men's numbers in my contact list (some of them are from my family, some from my job, some are friends)... I've never hidden them from my husband!
I don't think it is a problem... unless there are other things you may have not mentioned...
2007-12-03 04:36:45 · answer #11 · answered by Desir D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋