We just found out my son's gf is pregnant and she has Fibromyalgia she is only 16 what does is mean for her?

Question

Needless to say my husband and I were shocked to find out my son's gf is Pregnant. Then to find out she has other issues that she was embarassed to tell anyone. What exactly can happen . Her mom, don't seem to want to talk to us to give us the true story on this. I feel like we are being left out in the cold on most of this and our lawyer said we can't do anything about it because of privacy laws.

from what I understand if her mom is telling us the truth it has something to do with her ammune system.

Answer 1

I have fibromyalgia and I've only just turned 17. It's hard enough dealing with myself, with alot of help from my parents and doctors, let alone with a baby too. There's also the issue with any medication she's on. I'm on very strong painkillers and soon might be moving up to morphine based medicine. She'd have to discuss very carefully with her doctors any effects the medicines might have on a pregnancy, and if she has to come off medicines it often makes the illness suddenly worse.
Fibromyalgia gives you aches and pains everywhere, so the added strain on her back on the pregnancy might become very painful. Sleep is also an issue with fibromyalgia, mainly a lack of DEEP sleep, and so fatigue can be a big problem. She has to think how much sleep she's going to get if a baby comes along!
I'm sorry to be so negative but I've had fibromyalgia for over 3 years now and it really is tough on your own body, a baby is going to be hard work.
Please email me/message me if you want some more information on fibromyalgia, I'll be happy to answer any questions that your son's girlfriend finds too hard to discuss so you can get a better idea of how she's feeling.
I'm also a member of the forum below which is for FM sufferers, their friends and family. Everybody's really friendly and I'm sure there's someone who's been in a similar situation. It's a UK website but I'm sure they won't mind you joining the forum if you're from somewhere else.

Answer 2

Many doctors are adamant that women with fibromyalgia can have healthy pregnancies. The most important things a pregnant woman with fibromyalgia can do is limit activities, take the proper medication and get support. Doctors who treat fibromyalgic patients actually argue that pregnancy helps to lessen and even eliminate the symptoms caused by fibromyalgia. Many pregnant women say that, after their initial nausea and morning sickness pass, they actually feel better than they did before they were pregnant. It is theorized that this could be due to the ovarian hormone relaxin. During pregnancy, the amount of relaxin in a woman’s body increases up to 10 fold. It has also been found that relaxin supplements help to ease symptoms in many women with fibromyalgia.

Here are a few links on her condition with pregnancy, I hope they help. I'm sure she will be fine. There are a lot of contradictions on how it affects pregnant women. Some say pregnancy makes the symptoms worse and others say it helps the symptoms dramatically. Good Luck, I hope you find out all you need to know and will soon have a healthy grandbaby to hold in your arms.

Answer 3

Fibromyalgia is a chronic pain and fatigue condition; I would be concerned about any pain or other medication she takes on a regular basis that could harm the baby. Other than that, it shouldn't affect the pregnancy, it is not degenerative and the care she should be taking of herself while pregnant in terms of exercise, sleep, diet and vitamins, is what she should be doing for her FMS anyway.

I have been diagnosed with FMS over 12 years ago; currently I do not take any medications for it as I have learned to manage it via lifestyle choices. Many people do not believe this is a real condition and think sufferers are hypochondriacs.

She does seem young to be diagnosed with FMS as this typically does not show up until the teenage years and normally is not quickly diagnosed. If she has been recently treated, then she may be suffering from major depression, which is very typical the first 1-2 years as individuals learn to adapt to life changes required to deal with it.

Answer 4

Fibromyalgia is a chronic inflammation and pain in joins, bones, muscles everything. I have mild problems with it myself. I also had difficult pregnancies( with pregnancy hypertension) long time ago, and the stress of being very ill and pregnant are huge. Being pregnant and ill is very difficult and the best thing for you to do is not to bring about any discord in this girl's life. She needs love and support. And since you guys aren't her parents you're not privileged to know her health status. Her parents probably don't really trust you guys either. They maybe scared that because of her health issues u might try and say she's unfit and try to take the baby. Basically just back off and try and help make her as comfortable as possible and when they're ready they will tell u all u need to know.

Answer 5

Fibro is not an immune system disease, not is it a made up name for people with pain. It is a neurological condition that causes the brain to be overstimulated by painful sensation. Because Serotonin is involved people with Fibro may have depression, migraines, and sleep problems.

However, women with Fibro can and do have babies and some of them find that their discomforts will ease off during the pregnancy. The thing to be concerned about is if the mother is taking medication. Some medications are not good for a developing fetus.

While Fibro is not strictly a hereditary disease, there is a tendency for it to run in families.

Since this girl is a minor any decisions and choices will be made by her and her parents. If they choose to keep you out of it that is their right. Don't go sic a lawyer on them now. She has enough going on in her life. After they get adjusted to the situation they may be more inclined to include you in the matter.

Answer 6

You can google this or call a local OBGYN and speak to them about what the case would be for pregnancy! All it is really is the Central Nervous System becomes very sensitive and can cause a lot of pain. Also...maybe speak with the GF and stress that you are concerned but are there for her no matter what. Show support and maybe she will come around, the mother is a different story. Good luck! I know grandchildren are just as important as your own!!!!!

Answer 7

She is very much an "at risk" child (If it isn't already obvious from her being pregnant).

She is almost certainly destined for a psychiatric diagnosis and/or substance abuse.

Fibromyalgia is a condition in this age group that can easily and accurately be interpreted to mean she has a boarderline personality disorder and/or extremely poor introspection and social support.

(And the above doesn't preclude other physical and/or psychiatric problems).

Answer 8

this shouldnt harm the baby or make alot of difference Fibromyalgia has symtoms such as bone pain muscle pain and spasems. you should just ask her becuase if she is going to become a member of your family you need to find out how you can do your best to help her. Fibromyalgia can, but does not always, start as a result of some trauma such as a traffic accident, major surgery, or disease.

hope everything goes wel good luck x

Answer 9

Fibromyalgia (FM or FMS) is a chronic syndrome (constellation of signs and symptoms) characterized by diffuse or specific muscle, joint, or bone pain, fatigue, and a wide range of other symptoms. It is not contagious, it affects more females than males.

The disease is not directly life-threatening. The degree of symptoms may vary greatly from day to day with periods of flares (severe worsening of symptoms) or remission; however, the syndrome is generally perceived as non-progressive.

Fibromyalgia can affect every aspect of a person's life. While neither degenerative nor fatal, the chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia is pervasive and persistent. FMS can severely curtail social activity and recreation, and as many as 30% of those diagnosed with fibromyalgia are unable to maintain full-time employment. Like others with disabilities, individuals with FMS often need accommodations to fully participate in their education or remain active in their careers.

Answer 10

are there grandparent laws in your state?

i'm sure that when the girl needs lots of medical care, her family will come around for money and support, then they'll be open with you.

LJ4Bama, according to the commercial, fibromyalgia is REAL. lol. It's hard for me to think about a lot of doctors getting together and thinking of a name for symptoms that millions of people claim to have. This is not the first time I've heard that fibromy is a 'fake' disease for paranoid people, though.