My ex got married 8 months ago to another guy. We have a VERY complicated history, we were together 4 years, but each time we were to get married or plan it, or whatever, I got scared and told her to wait. She broke up with me last Dec. 2006 and told me she was tired of waiting, that she wanted to have a baby IMMEDIATELY, and be married. She reconnected with some guy and got married 4 months later. She told me she couldnt trust my false promises anymore. I have and am still devastated, cursing myself, depressed for not marrying her before, I LOVE HERthe complicated thing is that she lives in Spain,I live in the U.S. (she is Spanish). She has told me many times over the past months that she probably made a mistake and loves me so much,but cant risk getting a divorce for me, as she cant trust me as I am so far away.She said I could move there for a period to show her how I feel, but still there would be NO guarantees that this would work or that she would get divorced. What can I do?
2007-12-03 04:19:45 · 13 answers · asked by mano 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really loved her you'd let her go. If she loves you as much as you love her, she'll come back to the US to tell you in person.
2007-12-03 04:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jennield 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is love. If you had any inkling of how much you loved her, and if you truly did love her, you would not have continuosly postponed the wedding. I'm sorry to say that it is your loss. And I feel there is some sort of control issue. She doesn't trust you because you pulled out of marriage so many times. I cna't blame her. But, I can't say that you did it for no good reason, either. Maybe intuition was telling you something wasn't right about her. Take the risk if you want. If you truly love her, then it wouldn't even be questioned. But like she said, there are no promises. She stated that clearly enough. I just hope that she loves her husband enough to be as upfront with him as she is with you. Good luck!
2007-12-03 04:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If she was really the one for you, you would have wanted to get married and you wouldn't have this complicated history. Let her go, respect her marriage, stay out of it.
2007-12-03 04:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HA HA yeah be a sucker and go move to Spain to sleep with a married woman that will break your heart.
2007-12-03 04:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If four years with a hot babe didn't get you to want to marry her, then how will a trip to Spain do it? It's in your best interest to be honest with yourself---you're just a non-committed guy who wants to date. Accept yourself, be honest with yourself and move on.
2007-12-03 05:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is married.....do not move to Spain...if she is serious about loving you and getting a divorce...she will do just that and find you....
2007-12-03 04:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just leave it alone, if it is a mistake, as she has tried to make it seem, their relationship will not work out, and she can move back to the U.S.
2007-12-03 04:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if you REALLLLY wanted her back, go to Spain and GET HER...
It could blow up in your face so be prepared... hey, if it dosen't work out, at least you know it wasen't meant to be.
2007-12-03 04:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Latin G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say if you love something so much let it go, if it's meant to be then it'll fly baack to YOU>
2007-12-03 04:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lost your chance with her. Time's up. Move on.
2007-12-03 04:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by Naamoku 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋