2007-12-03 04:13:06 · 14 answers · asked by Ann j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in this situation several yrs ago.Married 25 yrs my husband (now ex) had an affair.That is a long time and a lot of hard work put into a marriage.I wanted to try to work on the marriage.He didn't.So divorce was the result.It was his only affair,not an on going thing.
I feel that after that many yrs and it was a one time thing that it may be possible with a lot of hard work to my marriage back on track.It would have been hard and it may not have worked but I feel he should have at least tried.I think that is what hurt the most(him feeling that our marriage was not even worth trying to save).
But that was several yrs ago.I have moved on with my life and have married a wonderful man and I am very happy.
2007-12-03 04:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many marriages survive infidelity. Others come to an abrupt end. If your husband has been faithful for 25 years, and this is a fling (and not a serious relationship for him), you might consider working through this.
Whatever the case, he needs to end the affair immediately or leave.
2007-12-03 04:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by comixguru 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-25 09:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and be miserable always wondering if he is still cheating, or cheating with another person. You can leave and start a life alone, or with someone who will love you for you.
2007-12-03 04:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Determine whether or not you can live with this. If he's still cheating and refuses to stop, then your decision is clear--get a divorce. If he's remorseful; is willing to go to counseling, go to church and/or do WHATEVER it takes to make things right with you, then you can consider staying.
2007-12-03 05:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do the same thing you do if you had only been married 6 month -- YOU LEAVE! Get a divorce!
2007-12-03 06:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure as hell wouldn't stick around for another 25 years.
2007-12-03 04:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a Hillery or divorce the cheater>
2007-12-03 04:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 yrs is a long time to just give up. if you think you can forgive, and trust that it won't happen again, hang in there.
2007-12-03 04:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should drag another 10 years with him,it is better than living alone at this age
2007-12-03 04:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by nazia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋