Hi, I am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 17 years old. We've been going out since October 10th, 2006- So it's been a little over a year. And do my parents know about him? Yes, they both like him and I think that they know it's been over a year.
We used to live near each other (like a 10min walk), but we both moved. =/ So basically we have a long distance relationship now.
Anyway, the thing is... He's very verbally abusive and it hurts me so much and makes me scared. I cry alot, and whenever I try to call him to tell him how i'm feeling, he always says something like "you're crying about things that don't exist in your head. like how you think i'm cheating on you, or if i'm gonna break up with you." and he always says this " I used to care when you cry, but now I don't since you cheated on me (i cheated on him for a month. personal problem)." He always calls me a ***** and always brings up the past, when he should be happy that we've been together for so long.
2007-12-03 04:04:02 · 14 answers · asked by sakuya v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And his parents know that he's "mean" to me whenever we talk on the phone. When he told me that, he said
"my parents say that I need to stop being mean, and i'm like 'hah, yeah, they should know what you did (cheating). "
he also told me that his mom said
"Stop being so mean to her, she's so nice!" and yet he responds with a "so?"
btw, the only cheating i did was kiss a guy. =/
2007-12-03 04:05:41 · update #1
Dump HIM.
wat are u still doing in a relationshp wiv him???
2007-12-03 04:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing a guy is in fact cheating but that is beside the point. Were I you I would run not walk away from him as soon as is possible. I can think of absolutely no reason for a man to be verbally abusive to a woman. Verbal abuse can and frequently does advance to the physical stage and I can't imagine any gal who enjoys bruises.
2007-12-03 04:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, the way he is treating you is TOTALLY unacceptable. If he is not willing to forgive and move on, then you don't need to be in that relationship. Verbal abuse is still abuse and often it's more damaging, because the scars remain (in your mind). Not only that, but can and often does lead to other forms of abuse. Regardless of what you've done, you don't deserve to be continually badgered about it. That is not love. Get out before it gets any worse. This is about YOU loving YOURSELF enough to let him go. It may hurt, but it's what you need to do. You deserve better.
2007-12-03 04:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to go through that. Honey, do me a favor and yourself a favor and leave this guy alone. It could possibly lead to physical abuse. Men who abuse women have low self esteem and it's ugly. There is also mental abuse and emotional and it can scare you for life. Don't start off in bad relationships like this. It is unhealthy and you're not married to this guy, leave.
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2007-12-03 04:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Dymond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is been verbally abusive now, then is more then likely to get physical later down the road. If he forgave you for what you did in the past it should sty i the past and neve be brought up again, because it is goin to be problems, maybe you need to sit down and have a real talk with him, and let eachother know how you feel.
2007-12-03 04:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by evelyn j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with any one who verbally abused me.
Can you call a crisis center in your area? Can you talk to your mom or dad? I'm sorry but I would be afraid that since it is only verbal abuse now what would you do if he slapped you?
The bottom line is I would BREAK UP with him before I end up really hurt.(Lose the loser! Kick him to the curb! You deserve some guy who is going to treat you with respect.
Do yourself a favor and break up with him!
2007-12-03 04:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by book reader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship NOW! If he is verbally abusing you now, physical abuse will be next. I know that you already know that you need to end it. Move on with you life and find someone who will treat you like a queen!
2007-12-03 04:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by liza7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when guys are verbally abusive in the end it turn into something more.. i had the same problem, i stuck around for about 5 years.. soon enough he strated throwing swings at me, pushing, slapping me.. thats when i knew that wasn't the guy for me..
i have come to realize that a person who hurts you, does not care about your feellings wich probably means they dont care about you..
you're very young and at this point of your life you want to have fun, be happy because once you get older you regret taking life for granted.. because thats what your doing by staying with this guy.. think about it!
2007-12-03 04:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't supposed to hurt in that way. If he scares you then you should reconsider being with him. this will only get worse if you stay and let him continue to do it. You should find someone who treats you with respect and will not make you cry.
2007-12-03 04:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now before he becomes abusive in an entirely different nature.
2007-12-03 04:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave hima alone. he wants to have control over you, do not give him that power. Besides all you did was kiss a guy and even if it was more you do ot deserve treatment in that way. Your young, i'm sure your pretty and you seem like a sweet girl. Please break it off.
2007-12-03 04:08:29 · answer #11 · answered by g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋