recently, a guy asked me whether i saw him as a friend or something more. i confessed i that i had a crush on him. he said he adored me as his friend and liked me. he also said that i was his priority one and in college he liked hanging out with me the most.
the question: is he interested in going around with me in or not if no then why would he ask me that question in the first place... did i make a mistake by confessing
people please do help as i am really confused...
2007-12-03 04:00:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
okay, so for the next few days we became really good friends. i wanted to be his girlfriend and in my mind he was my guy. while having a conversation, he when i asked him if he could see me as his girlfriend he said " not exactly".. he also said that his feelings for me were same as before... this kind of broke my heart and i feel embarrased and stupid
Now tell me, did i make a mistake by confessing my crush on him.. if he wasnt interested why would he ask me that question.. i need to know so that this does not happen again in the future.
please help
2007-12-03 21:04:10 · update #1
You are kidding right?????? THAT is an open invitation to do whatever you want with him.
2007-12-03 04:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by shootit247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably asked the question to get an idea how you felt about him. He obviously likes you or probably wouldn't have asked. I would ask a question back like .. "You mentioned that you liked hanging out with me the most and I was your priority one. Do you still feel the same now"?
If he is interested, he will probably acknowledge it. I don't think you made a mistake by telling him you have a crush on him because now he has an idea how you feel about him and the ball is now in his court. If he is just interested in friends than he should let you know that is all he prefers.
Good Luck
2007-12-03 12:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bob A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you made a mistake by confessing. If thats how you really felt that there is nothing wrong in being honest. Seems like he has feelings for you. Just ask him over a friendly conversation why he asked you that because no one can tell you better then him.
2007-12-03 12:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Slim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes you .But he hasn't decided as yet to have serious relationship with you.He is observing all details of yours to break up his shackles and come to you wholeheartedly.He is innocent by nature.He doesn't want you to be cheated by him.I do appreciate his stand.You also should act more reserved and friendly in good manner .This should go on for some time. Very soon, I am sure , the guy will fall in line.Remain exactly what you are . Never act 'cheap"...ok?
God Bless
2007-12-03 12:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general sweetie, I would say that if he just wanted you as a friend, he would have asked, do you consider me as good afriend as I do you, or something like that. The fact that he added the "something more" means he is interested in that or being a guy, would have steered completely clear of that subject if that was not the case.; Just go to him and ask a simple question, something like.."Were you trying to suggest that we date when you asked me that question the other day? I think that will take care of it hon, and good luck to you..lainey
2007-12-03 12:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by lindalainey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and tell him you wish you had more. He could be confused or even in a dating relationship now. Ask him why he has not made a move on you. Good luck
2007-12-03 12:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he really likes you, but not yet sure if he truly loves you... you should stay cool and not worry about it because some guys take their time so as to be sure they are making the right decision....or if what the feel is really true.. All the best and stay blessed!!!
2007-12-03 12:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lila86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be he didn't want to lead you on and end up hurting you feelings. Or maybe he has feelings for you and would like to pursue these feelings, and just wanted to know how you felt so he would not get hurt himself.
Since you two are open and honest with each other.....why not ask him about this
2007-12-03 12:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by atti_cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking us? Ask him!! That's the problem with a lot of females, instead of talking to the horse, we want to talk to the gardner..someone who has no dealings with the horse. You go to the source first if he doesn't give you the answers you want, "THEN" come holla at ur girl. God Bless.
2007-12-03 12:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by calicolabri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU DIDNT MAKE A MISTAKE BY TELLIN HIM HOW YOU FEEL BECAUSE YOU KEPT IT REAL AND YOU GOT SOME HONESTY OUT OF HIM I SAY YOU JUST SUGGEST DINNER OR INVITE HIM OVER TO WATCH A MOVIE AND SEE HOW IT GOES. REMEMBER YOU CAN NEVER GO WRONG WHEN YOUR KEEPIN IT REAL. HIT ME UP IF YOU NEED MORE ADVICE OR IF YOUR CONFUSED
2007-12-03 12:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone told him that you were crushing on him and he just had to confirm it, which he wouldn't have bothered to do if he did't feel the same
he likes you, he wants to be more than friends.......needed to know you felt the same way
2007-12-03 12:04:21 · answer #11 · answered by dragonfirelady313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋