Open up to me sexually, i ask her what she likes etc but she will not say anything. She is very shy and get embarrassed about the subject. Just courious ladies do you have sexual fantansies i think most women do my wife says she doesnt but think she is to shy to say. We have been togeather for six years woudl think one day she will open up to me... any help would be appreciated to get her to open up to me.
2007-12-03 03:24:01 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
welll first off, my bad saying the wife, i forget im online to critics... i treat MY WIFE like gold not a month goes by without flowers, she gets hot baths waiting for her after work followed by a foot rub. so chill people about the wife thing. I have shared my fantasies with her etc. just want her to open up to me didnt say i wanted someone to join us, just want her to let me know what she really likes, she feels sex is dirty was raised like that.
2007-12-03 03:52:34 · update #1
Buy her a pocket rocket or a jack rabbit. It will speak for you or she will be upset with you............................that is until you leave for work and runs through a pack of batteries!
2007-12-03 03:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Brightside 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't talk sex with her.
Wooo her with romance.
Don't expect a big change all at once .. she will be wary.
Do little things .. take your time.
Most women are ruled by emotions. Don't make it look or feel like .. just sex. Lots of women have sex due to the love they have for their men ... not because of the sex.
Woo your wife ;;; like you were dating her.
Romance can make it magic for her. Also - if she is made to feel that she is exclusively your one & only .. so say the right things.
Men & women really do have different thoughts. Some women who have a good sex life with their husbands may not have fantasies at all .. especially sexually sex-driven fantasies .. a woman's fantasy may contain more romantical incidents. Lots of women who have great sex lives - don't even look at other guys and wonder about them sexually. This is not to say all women are this way .. because they are not .. however, for the most part - most women are emotional driven.
Most men are not aware .. but lots of times when a man says, or does something to their wife, and there is a fight .. that the woman takes this to the bedroom with them - and it affects their love-making .. and the man is totaly unaware .. even in make-up sex. A woman may carry these things secretly in her for a very long time. Usually, the man is soooooo unaware.
2007-12-03 11:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was shy about telling my husband what I wanted. That was before we were married and just dating then. He was very supportive and after some time I felt comfortable to open up to him. Yes I have sexual fantansies and I share them with him. We have a great sex life and being open with each other has made it that much better. Maybe insted of asking her what she wants you should talk to her about not being embarressed about sex and that its ok to share with each other. No matter what she says don't make fun or get mad at anything she says. Start small and work your way up.
2007-12-03 12:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Girly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have fantasies, or maybe she doesn't want to share them. Sometimes telling them ruins them. Or maybe she would be more comfortable writing them out & letting you read them.
Try getting some written porn, like Penthouse Forum & let her read it, alone or together with you.
Some women like dirty talk but if she is that shy she may find it very offensive. Try it but work up to the crude talk.
Try different things with her, different positions, toys, outfits, etc but don't expect her to do anything she is uncomfortable with.
2007-12-03 11:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pogo peeps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it to her. Share your fantasies and ideas, start simply and work up. Maybe try some small new things in the bedroom and ask her if she likes them or if she has ideas on how to make it feel better to her. Maybe she'll get interested and open up.
2007-12-03 11:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Silver M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's sweet that you feel this way. I have always been shy also. My husband and I have been married for 6 yrs. now, and I have just now began to feel more comfortable exploring different things with him. We started out by playing with toys that we could use together. The more we both liked something, we would take it up a level. Let her know that you love her now and that you love your sex life the way it is now, but you want to please her in ways she hasn't experienced. Good luck.
2007-12-03 16:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't open up... That's how she will be.. Get her drunk and try different things, that will be your best bet. I'm not a toys, porn, talking, girl either but put a few good drinks in me and it's a different story.. (Not completley, but more willing)..
You should acept her for how she is, and I am sure you do..., and look at the bright side... your still getting some!!! :)
Some woman just aren't into the kinky things..
2007-12-03 11:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes , I have fantansies. I just wouldn't pressure her to much she will not open up! When she is ready and if she does have any fantansies she will know she can tell you if she wants too.
2007-12-03 11:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like that - didn't think you should talk about it. She needs some girlfriends to open up with. Then she will find out that not only is it good to talk but it is the norm.
2007-12-03 11:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by misselie1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be happy with what you got. don't let your fantasies become reality or else your marriage is doomed. my wife will not open up but I am still happy. all you need for a happy marriage is for her to switch up the positions every now and then. you should be fine.
and she is not "the" wife. She is YOUR wife. with this type of mentality, how could you be married in the first place.
2007-12-03 11:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dr S 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
wow 6 years and you still haven't drove her crazy yet where she'd open up? Maybe the aggressive way should work take her anyway you want and haven't done she might like that
2007-12-03 11:33:09 · answer #11 · answered by sally sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋