Breastfeeding?

Question

Why do women protest so much about breastfeeding in public?It really annoys me because they may feel they are doing a good job etc etc (heard it all before), but what they don't think about is what if parents haven't spoken to their young children about sex education and where baqbies come from yet this would distress a child to see this and force the parents into having to talk about it before their ready which just isnt fair. I think its all well and good that women breast feed if they choose to but is it absolutley necessary to actually get em out in public?Sometimes feel as though they do it because they feel in a way proud of it and want every one to see them do it and then winge if anyone remarks.i work in a shop at weekend where i fit childrens shoes,and it absolutley horrible when women come in and breastfeed because i have to be on my knees when i do fitting and theyr like in my face doing it its so unfair i jus dnt want to see that.Anyone agree?

Honestly its like they wait to come into our shop to do it theres 19 women who work in the shop and we ALL despise them doing it in front of us, it puts u off!I've even seen other adults walk out when they do it, cant they wait till they get home?or use a pump?Most of the time the babies arn't even crying with hunger?its so unreasonable and inconsiderate.

in reply to that question, ever heard of a breast pump.

Woman who asked how brestfeeding is to do with sex education: well erm you have to have sex to have a baby...you have to have a baby to breastfeed, i am not saying that i do not agree with breastfeeding just why? what the hell is wrong with bottling it, i am sorry but i dont want to see that when im at work, its like women think oh there all women in here it wont matter well it does were at work go home and do it for gods sake.And like i said most of the time the babies just lying there not screaming for food not crying and the mother just does it anyway.

Get an education?Exuse me im currently at university, thats why i do that job i dont reply on getting pregnant and letting the government pay for me. I dont think being a mother is a career like some people i get off my backside and work everyday of the week to get my career.Maybe you should get an education love.

"get an education woman": i need an education LINGERIE not lengerie.lol

C ouldn't agree more peach pie and mommamia

Good greif number SEVEN no wonder the government has no money to spend on on important thing like the NHS!

Looking for your nipple that is so gross

Answer 1

I've just read your other responses to the second time you posted this question, and your "apology?" for lashing out and your reasoning and I feel compelled to comment on some of the things I've seen and try to educate you a bit before you go on making such a fool of yourself.

1. Breast pumps are inefficient and some babies absolutely REFUSE to take a bottle. The method a baby uses to nurse is different from using a bottle, and it can cause confusion to switch from one to the other too young, which can cause all sorts of other problems.

2. I was a stay at home mom for ten years before going back to college. I now have four children (well supported by my husband who is father to all four, by the way) and I am graduating in May with a Bachelor of Science in Mathematics, which is no walk in the park. I've also held down full-time jobs WHILE raising my kids and going to school, and I have to say I am quite offended at your insinuation that full-time mothers do not work nearly as hard as you do at your classes and your piddly little weekend retail job. Your mother must have quite a laugh at that idea, as well.

Answer 2

As you become more mature you will learn to live and let live. You've got your panties in a bunch now, but you'll come to see that you were excited over nothing. It happens to everyone when we're kids.

If you educate yourself on breastfeeding and the risks of formula feeding, you'll start to understand. If you have a baby, you'll also understand that pumping and dragging around a bottle that has to be kept cool then warmed up is a pain. Moms are busy, and contrary to what you think, we work hard. I graduated from college and I can tell you that college (while holding two or three jobs) is nothing compared to the exhaustion of being on call 24 hours a day.

It's unfortunate that breastfeeding is not normal to you. I'm sad that you think it's some dirty behavior, when it's not only sterile and sanitary, breastfeeding is a loving and unique bond. Too bad you're not interested in having that someday.

Answer 3

Are you a mom?

Have you breastfed?

Do you know how taxing it is on a woman? Even just the having a child part is exhausting! And now you're telling me I can't leave my house? Wow... ( I mean, that's pretty much what you're saying - I should stay at home if I want to feed my child, and I'm most certainly not going to deny her food.)

As for the breast pump, sure, but have you seen the prices on those things? A good one? What new mom has cash like that to throw around when it's complete unnecessary?

All I have to say is... I commend those brave enough to feed in public. The more women do it... the more our society will get used to it and it won't be such a scandalous thing.

Just yesterday I was in a bathroom (in a department store) with a drape, and I had another lady ask me to use a stall... No offense but I think that's crazy.

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In the end... it really shouldn't matter what others think. I've learned that no matter what you do or how you do it, you'll offend someone. Whether that's breastfeeding, or not breastfeeding... someone's going to have a problem with it. I'll continue to do what's best for my child (whether I'm in public or not) and you can turn your head and do what's best for you.

Also... how old are you? You think rooting for a nipple is gross... some other posts said that you were pregnant, well, if you do end up going through with the pregnancy I think you'll come across things that are worse.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

This question is asked all over the place on message boards all the time and comes up with all the same rants by either side.

I chose to breast feed because it is BEST for babies. There is no reliable source that proves otherwise. Even the formula companies HAVE to say that breast milk is best.

Yes, some people choose to pump and feed from a bottle. However, pumping is less effective than a baby nursing and takes much longer to get the appropriate amount of milk. I would rather spend my time at home playing with my baby and taking care of her. As well, bottle feeding can lead to gas and ear infections if not done properly.

When I go out I always breast feed my baby. No one "whips out" their breasts to feed their baby. Honestly, I have been in a lot of nursing rooms, where it is private and still have yet to see someone "whip out" a breast. I have NEVER seen that in public for sure. 99% of women are very discreet about it. If you do see some breast it is more than likely because of the baby moving, rather than the mother choosing to show off her breasts to you. My daughter refuses to nurse with a cover or blanket over her. So I have figured out a way to arrange my shirts so that there is really nothing to see while she feeds, which is more for my comfort, than anyone else's.

As for breast feeding women forcing other parents to teach Sex-Ed to their children early ... well they really shouldn't have to. All they have to do is explain that Moms make milk for their babies to drink. Hopefully those parents breast fed their child and can tell them they were fed the same way when they were young. It will not be traumatizing to the child, I guarantee.

As for your comments about someone spelling lingerie wrong ... well you had a huge amount of typos in your rant as well and some "inventive" spelling ... there is a spell checker on this, you should definitely use it before bragging about your education.

Answer 5

I usually try to feed my 2 1/2 m/o son before I go out anywhere, but sometimes I just don't make it back in time, or I just can't get home yet, so I usually have to feed him where I am. I always cover with a blanket though because I just don't fee; comfortable exposing my self in public. Most of the time I try to do it in the car, but sometimes he's just so hngry that I try to find a quiet and the most unpopulated area to feed him. When you breastfeed it's really hard not to feed in public sometimes, and I really try to stay away from bottle feeding when I am with him. Plus a lot of times I am just not in an area where I can go and defrost the frozen milk. Trust me I def. don't do it for attention, I do it because it the most natural and best thing I can privde for my son. oh and I decided to stay home with my son for the first few years because my husband and I talked about it and it would fit best to our family life style. I will try to go back to school once he is older and I've weaned him from breastfeeding. Most women don't stay home because they are lazy, it is a full time job to raise a baby. It's definitely harder than it was for me to actually go to work. Plus day care these days is so expensive, I'd be giving most of my pay check just so some one else can watch him for me. I'd rather be with my baby and take care of him and not have to pay someone else to do it.

Answer 6

Feeding a baby wether it be by breast or bottle is perfectly natural.

And if you're offended by it...then you're the one with the problem...not me.

And frankly...about discussing it with your children...we're doing you a favor...perhaps if your child sees a breastfeeding woman, they'll grow up to be a little more openminded than his mother.

There's nothing wrong with breastfeeding...it's what we were meant to do.

Cheers

Answer 7

they don't bottle it because of nipple confusion.
not to mention the extra steps, the extra time, the extra money, the extra things to carry, the extra products to buy, the extra things to sterilize

if women can feed their babies via an 'unnatural' bottle, then why not the natural way?

Answer 8

I can see where you're coming from, because I'm sure some of the huge breastfeeding fanatics DO whip it out in public for appraisal, but that's not the case most of the time. We just have to feed our babies! When I eat in public, I don't put a blanket over my head, so I don't see why I'd have to do that to my daughter. Granted, I DO pump bottles before I go out if I know I'll need to feed her in that time, so I rarely breastfeed in public, but I would if I had to and I don't see anythign wrong with it. Those women that went nuts on the Applebee's had a point, but the woman who started it reportedly was HUGE and had HUGE boobs to go along with it, which in my opinion probably should have been a little covered up while people were eating. So all in all, I see what you mean, but feeding a baby a bottle in public should be seen the same as breastfeeding. No matter the method, they're both getting fed.

Answer 9

Aww, come on people! It's the most natural thing in the world, and certainly more comfortable for mom and baby if mom is sitting down during the process. Most moms use a diaper or light cloth to cover as much as possible for modesty. Many movie stars, singers, and young women on the street and in bars show as much, in the way they are dressed.
How do the guys feel about this?

Answer 10

I'm going to try and answer this without getting angry. It is unbelievable to me that people find breastfeeding in public as something offensive. Have any of you people who find it offensive ever tried making a hungry baby wait? Sure I could do that but I really don't think it's fair to let my child scream because you can't handle seeing a breast being used for what God and nature intended it for. As for pumping it's a nice thought but not every baby will take a bottle (mine won't) and not every woman can pump or even afford a pump for that matter. The problem is that people keep equating the breast with something sexual and it's not, and is far as I'm concerned I'm not going to force YOUR issues on MY baby. As far as your children are concerned you'd be surprised at how accepting they are....It's simple when a mommy has a baby her body makes milk for her baby to eat. What do you tell them at a petting zoo when they see baby animals nursing? Honestly people, I've nursed three children and I've never yet walked topless through Walmart but if my baby is hungry and i need to feed her and you see a little flash of something for God's sakes get over it!