why do people say sex is a main reason for divorce? I am a virgin so I don't know. i'm just curious. I'm NOT talking about cheating spouses, obviously that's a problem. I mean are there other sex problems in a marriage? Last question - is discussing your potential spouse's sexual habits (how much, how often, what acts) a good idea before marriage?
2007-12-03 03:13:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Actually finances is the leading cause of divorce among couples.
Sex can be a reason for some people, because some people go into marriage with the misguided concept that sex is going to remain the same it was before they got married.
However, once kids come along and other responsibilities sex slacks off. If a spouse is selfish then they may decide they're not getting what they duly deserve kind of thing. So they end up with scrabbles about it.
You can discuss your potential spouses sexual habits, but you need to MAINLY discuss whether or not they're mature enough to deal with the changes that will inevitably occur after marriage in that area. When you're apart all week then when people get together sex is the first thing they want while dating. However, once you get married, you'll see each other everyday and sex isn't going to happen every time you see each other obviously. Can they deal with not having sex 3 times a day everyday and enjoy the fact that marriages isn't JUST about sex, but about companionship, friendship, and family as well.
God bless!
2007-12-03 03:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The amount, to little or to much, usually is the issue. One spouse not getting enough from the other can bring feelings of not loved or what's wrong with me who is taking my place if not with me. On the other side the pressure of having to have sex can be great, feelings of inadequacy, un appreciated, low self esteem. Others can come from not being able to preform of just lack of immanency from busy lives.
Before marriage.... my suggestion is love each other and be patient and open for suggestions. No will stay the same throughout our lives and the pressures of raising a family will bring new challenges.
2007-12-03 03:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many people base their relationship on sex, which is a terrible idea, because sex fades. You have to LIKE the person. You have to be compatible in LIFE, not bed. I'm in a sexless marriage but I wouldn't trade my guy for anything! That is such a small part of our relationship, it doesn't even matter.
2007-12-03 03:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋