i have been married for 10 years very happily, i came home from work all my furniture was gone and the kids?

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were gone. i went to the back my bank account was wiped out i was left penliess. i could not track her down or the kids. the next day i got fired form my job as things could not get worse. i was forced to sell the house and move to an apartment. why would she do this to me i am still looking uts been 3 months?

Answer 1

she's gone mad! what have you done to her?

Answer 2

I guess she wasn't as happy as you. If she took more than half (you got the house), then you could hire a private investigator to find her. You probably want to anyways to see the kids. You can go to court to file for custody or joint custody. Talk to a lawyer about this & finding her.
Sorry you were hurt & it came as such a shock. I know it was a shock to my ex when I told him I wanted out, but it shouldn't have been as I told him many times I wasn't happy. I know a woman who had the same thing happen as you, but no kids involved, just an empty house. I guess some people are too afraid to confront the truth & just run.
Is it possible you were ignoring the signs?

P.S. You really do need some professional help. I read some of your previous questions (& there are a LOT of them) after the other person pointed it out (you stated previously that you had never been with a woman, then turned from hot to ugly, etc.) & you are just wasting people's time here & playing on their sympathies. Get a life!

Answer 3

Why would you be asking a question like that in HERE, when NO one in here knows anything more about the situation than what you've said above??? None of us know either you OR your wife. As far as any of us know, you could be an abuser who's been beating the crap out of her for the past 10 years, and she finally had enough and took the kids and split -- which NO one could blame her for.

Most people in situations like yours are ALWAYS looking to put THEMSELVES in the best light possible, and as the victims, and to put the person who left them in the WORST light possible, and as the "bad" one.

Do what most mature people do: either seek counseling or legal advice.

Edit: Ummm... WHY are so many of you immediately believing everything he's said, and taking his side, when you've only heard one SMALL part of what may -- OR MAY NOT BE -- the truth????? WOW!!! There are a LOT of gullible people here!!! What if THIS guy is an abuser??? What if he's a pedophile???

Answer 4

It must have not been too happily. Especially if she had to leave and you didn't see it coming. Things like this do not happen over night. I would suggest that you see a counselor to work through something this big. Just remember that God placed each of us in this crazy world for a reason. We are all broken people who are hurting and have hurt others @ one time or another. We are now approaching Christmas and it is the time of year when we celebrate His greatest gift to us all. The birth of His son Jesus so we can have an eternal life with Him. I am sorry for your loss and I really do not know what else to say. Please consider finding a local Jesus focused, bible based church. This is a difficult thing to go through and I just can't imagine your pain. God knows it, though. He can get you through it. Let Him be the reason for your celebration this Christmas. Hang in there. I will keep you in my prayers. May God bless you!

Answer 5

Apparently ur marraige wasn't as happy as u thought it was. Something does not sound right. There should have been signs that she was unhappy or perhaps seeing someone else. Think and think hard, what made her snap. To dry out ur bank account, take all the furniture and take the kids...WTF....Something is really, really not right here. If you really want to find her and the kids there are hundreds of ways but unfortunately I'm not going to help you because something does not sound right here. Good luck finding a new job.

Answer 6

I too had this same thing happen to me 22yrs. ago, except I wasn't "Fired" from my job, but all I had left when I came home from work, were the clothes on my back! The HARDEST thing that you can do, and THE BEST THING is DO NOT TRY to get an answer "TO WHY" she (wife) did it! Also FORGET about trying to "recoup" any or part of the money that she took, she will have spent all of it, by now! What you need to do IS FOCUS on your life for you and your kids sake! Go speak with an attorney at once, for your own PROTECTION! Remember that as long as you are married to her, YOU ARE LIABLE for 50% of her ACTIONS: Debts, Credit, and YOUR Kids!!! It is going to be "A FIGHT" of your life-future, and for your kids.... NOTHING IS EASY; BUT YOU AND YOUR KIDS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU HAVE, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS OR IS MORE IMPORTANT!!!
To this day, I still DON'T KNOW why she left me, but time has HEALED THAT WOUND! KNOW THIS AS FACT; It was BETTER to have found out and to START OVER (Healing Process, New Home, NEW LOVE) than to have to have been-in that so-called relationship, with her and her many problems that she CHOSE to run away from than to have stayed and only caused me EVEN MORE GRIEF, and HEARTACHE!!!!
I know that this IS NOT MUCH HELP; other than telling you that YOU and YOUR Kids are WORTH FIGHTING FOR, and only YOU CAN FIGHT THAT BATTLE; YOU and They ARE WORTH EVERY BIT OF IT!!!
Let go, on wanting to know WHY she left; It will only bring you MORE LIES and HEARTACHE, she (wife) would rather run away from ANY and ALL Problems that she has or will face in her life... That's On her, NOT ON YOU!!!
Good Luck...

Answer 7

WOW....................maybe you thought that you guys were happily married and she didnt............Did you see any signs of anything at all?any ideas where they might have gone? Could she have been cheating and you not know it? You have a right to see those kids because pretty soon she will get you for child support and all heck will break loose.........Has she filed for divorce yet it should say where she is at or at least what county she lives in .........and that will give you some idea...........GOOD LUCK......as to dm j answer your wife can not get theft charges on her as long as her name was on the acct.........my husband is and officer and works with the courts and if her name is on the acct. she has all rights and access to it just as much as you do...........

Answer 8

It sounds like you thought you were happily married, but that was not what she felt. There is a chance that she ran off with another man which will make it difficult to find her.

Were you physically or mentally abusive to her? This is something for you to think about, because this could be a real reason for her to leave you like this.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 9

how exactly are you looking? you need to go to the police and file a report also asking them for resources in order to track down your wife. what she done is abduction and concealment so report her for that, also explain that she wiped the entire account and they will go after her for theft (yes if a spouse wipes the entire account it is considered theft). sorry this happened good luck. if you have more questions feel free to email, you can do so by clicking on my account.

Answer 10

I'd call the police and contact a lawyer to go about finding my kids. She has made it painfully obvious, that she is not interested in making anything work and apparently has a bitterness issue with you. Seek a lawyers counsel and call the police, so that you can make sure you're kids are o.k Best wishes!

-Knowledge24

Answer 11

I would guess that the "married very happily" part wasn't the truth at all. If she emptied the house, the bank account, and took the kids, your marriage was in shambles, probably for years. I would suggest therapy for you. It will help you to cope with your current situation and perhaps learn what happened with your marriage.