hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious
2007-12-03 03:08:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This exact question was posted, word for word, last week.
Was it you (and this is a repeat because you didn't get an answer you liked) or is someone just trying to have fun?
Either way here you go. The Original reasons you were attracted to one another are still there... but so are the reasons you broke up unless one or both of you have changed in some respect. And you already know what's going on... you just aren't being honest with yourself if you haven't accepted it.
2007-12-03 03:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you all broke up because he worked too much doesn't mean he wasn't crazy about you. In fact I bet you broke it off with him. Which mean he still had feelings for you.
It's sometimes hard to just cut it off. And believe it or not he's still trying to spend time with you in hopes that maybe you all can work things out. I mean he obviously finds time to see you now. So he definetly still cares.
He either wants to be with you in a relationship still. Or he enjoys having you as a companion (friendship, kissing, just to hold someone other than some smut he might be bangin'). He could be having sex with someone else to hold him over but really cares about you and is willing to show that by spending time with you when he can (and not forcing a sex issue). Or he might not want to be with you and maybe the kissing is something you kinda start and he feels obligated to finish. I don't know too many guys that would play kissy face and not try to follow up with a little extended lovin'. lol.
But guess what...there's one easy way to answer all of this and it's something that every relationship is lacking.
COMMUNICATION!
Just ask him straight up what the deal is.
2007-12-03 11:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just ask him, no one here is going to know exactly what this guy is thinking or what his intentions are, you know him best so go with your gut feelings if it feels right than it's probably right, prepare yourself though it may turn out he is just passing the time, or he could be trying to rekindle your relationship but then you could find yourself in the same situation that broke you up to begin with, who knows your better off just asking him.
2007-12-03 11:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by robink71668 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since hes calling you and all after you guys broke,i am sure he took time to consider whats been going on and he figured that what hes done to you[ie,not spending enough time with ]is worng.and since hes been in touch eversince,hes wanting to rectify it.is seems to me he still wants u a s a part of his life.about the dating thing,maybe he never found any one as true and good to him as u were.thats what i think.after all ,the best way to find out,is to ask him yourself at a situation that you know he wont lie.good luck..
2007-12-03 11:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by crv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two years of being apart, you continue to allow him to see you. This really prevents you from being serious with anyone else. If you still want to be with him, be honest and tell him; however, it the situation has not changed, you will still not be happy.
My suggestion is to prevent him from coming to see you and really break it off. If there is really love, he will change his work habits to spend more time with you. You have allowed this to go on too long.
2007-12-03 11:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by VIVIA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you both like each other, this can be dangerous unless you guys sit together and figure out what you want to do otherwise one almost certainly one of you will get hurt.
2007-12-03 11:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by SMB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is keeping his options open. It sounds like that to me.
2007-12-03 11:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Dustin S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still loves you
2007-12-03 11:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋