What was your first pregnancy like?

Question

Your fears and your joys, your expectations. Getting over the 12 week hurdle? Please share your stories. Thanks x

Answer 1

I was terrified for most of my first pregnancy. A really thoughtless nurse at my OB's office told me I had low hcg levels in my urine, which could be a sign of impending miscarriage, so I spent the next 4 weeks convinced I was going to miscarry. I read all the books, registered on all the websites and pestered my mother and grandmother constantly.

I didn't get my first ultrasound until I was already 13 weeks. I didn't know how to deal with medical people and didn't know I could have insisted that I have my scan sooner. I was afraid to ask my doctor questions because I thought she'd think I was an idiot. I freaked out over every little cramp, twinge or change in my body. I cried every day from 18-21 weeks because I hadn't felt the baby move yet. I monitored fetal movements obsessively.

I bought all the useless, expensive baby stuff. I put us into $5000 credit card debt because we had to have the "best" travel system and the "best" crib bedding and the "best" baby swing. I nested fiercely, insisting that we buy all new furniture for the baby and for our bedroom... because the baby would be sleeping in there for the first few months. I was a crazy person. My family, friends and co-workers were befuddled by my moodswings, but were kind enough to forgive me later.

I'm almost 37 weeks with my 2nd baby and this time I've been much more reasonable. I think that, since I was able to look back and say, "wow, I was insane" about my first pregnancy, I've been able to avoid the same insanity this time.

Answer 2

Honestly I had a pretty easy pregnancy. I knew before I was even late on my period that I was pregnant ... I just knew somehow!

I had a little bit of morning sickness here and there but overall was really not too bad. I did not start to show until I was almost 7 months pregnant ... which was a bummer because I kept telling everyone and I would not get a belly! BUT once I popped out good lord did I pop out!
Thankfully I did not get any stretch marks which was very nice!!

I walked a lot and was only in labor for 2 hours. I did not feel a single contraction until the doctor broke my water. Let me tell you though as soon as I finally felt one ... oh my god! I wanted to cry! I went with a natural delivery though and I loved it!

Answer 3

my fears were every day i thought that i wouldn't be able to cope with being a mother and every time i mentioned it to anyone they would say aah you'll be fine it all comes to you and it does and that what if the baby doesn't like me sounds silly but i worried about it. my other fear was labour!! i was so scared about it until i actually went into labour and then it was weird i was very calm and rational i was in labour for 27 hours total and for the first 14 i was by myself at home as my hubby was working late then needed sleep i didnt tell him i was in labour until i wanted to go to the hospital. i was also adamant i was having an epidural yet when i was in labour i didn't have one (i am really proud that i only had pethidene). labour was nothing i expected. i cried a lot and i still do actually im a more emotional person now. the worst thing about being pregnant was the back ache it was hell!! and i was massive in the middle of summer so i was constantly hot!! the best things were going for the scans seeing my baby something i created growing inside me was miraculous and feeling my baby move was amazing.

then when you finally give birth the love you feel for that little person is all consuming its like nothing you can describe (i am tearing up just thinking about it!!) i loved it!! in fact i may try again pretty soon!! good luck x

Answer 4

My first pregancy ended in miscarriage at 15 weeks which was very traumatic.

My 2nd pregnancy, for the first 4 months I was terrified the same thing would happen, but after my 20 week scan i relaxed a little bit and started to enjoy it. The middle trimester was the best part, during the 3rd trimester I was just exhausted! Was sick for most of the pregnancy and gained 3 stones in weight!

The little bugger had me in hospital with 5 false labours before finally appearing 6 days late! what a delight. Couldn't have been all bad though cause I went on to have another one.

Answer 5

My first (and only) pregnancy was a tough one. I got pregnant while my husband was home for his R & R time during his tour in Iraq. So I was alone the first six months. I was immediately put on "high risk" status because of high blood pressure early in the pregnancy and also for irregular heart issues. I was put on a beta blocker to control both but I still had problems. My first trimester wasn't too bad. I had the every day morning sickness. I gagged everytime I brushed my teeth. I gagged the worst every morning and night when I took my prenantal pill. My boobs got pretty big (a big thing for a girl who doesn't have much upstairs in the first place). After the first trimester, things went pretty smoothly. I didn't get preeclamcia until the day that I delievered. I was monitored VERY closely throughout my whole pregnancy and at 38 weeks, they detected that I had mild preeclamcia and it was time to induce. Birth went very well, no problems at all.

Answer 6

Finding out i was pregnant was amazing, i screamed the test result down the phone to my husband! But i also remember lots of worry! I bled at 8 weeks and thought i'd miscarried, but it was all ok and nothing to do with the pregnancy! I slept for the early weeks, and drank so much water! I remember how i thoguht i was being attacked by Daleks in my sleep, but it was actuallly the baby kicking for the first time! I remember finding out my little bump was a little girl. I remember all that chocolate pudding i ate!!! The waiting was so hard, my little girl was 12 days over due!! But oh, the labour!!! I had contractions every five minutes for 50 hours!! I had midwives shouting at me for being hysterical! I had some drugs and all was well!!! Then there was the bearing down... pushing the little thing out, the screams were all over the hospital.

But what do i remember most, holding my little girl in my arms and feeling the best i have ever felt in my life... ten minutes later i was skipping down the corridors with joy.. all the pain gone and only love in my mind!

9 weeks on, she cries, pukes and poos... i love my little Evelyn!!!!

Congratulations, cherish every second of your pregnancy, and make the most of your partner, you won't get much time in six months time!!

Answer 7

My first pregnancy was great. I didn't have morning sickness and ate whatever I wanted and didn't feel bad at all. I went 10 days past my due date and was outside walking a few miles trying to get my labor started up until the point that I finally went into labor. The labor and delivery was intense, but as soon as your baby is born all of the pain is gone. I was in labor for 9 hours which isn't too bad for a first baby. I'm 11 weeks preggo with my second so obviously I did forget the labor and delivery pains! =) It'll be great, good luck!

Answer 8

I had a great pregnancy without complications. I was so excited to be pregnant because my husband and I were beginning to think we weren't able to have babies. Getting over that time when you are so tired is like a breath of fresh air. I think my biggest fear was that I wouldn't be a good mother or that I would not be able to handle motherhood. I know that may sound bad, but at some point I got so worried. I think I just had too much time on my hands. As soon as my little boy was born and I got to hold him and look into his eyes I knew everything was going to be ok- well, better than ok, really- and it has been absolutely wonderful. I can't wait to have another.

Answer 9

I so miss being pregnant...but I had a really easy pregnancy. A bit of nausea, but it was easily subsided by eating. A little swelling at the very end and a very nasty tear (won't be able to deliver vaginally again). Even the heartburn was well worth it. I loved having a big ole round belly, waddling around, the pregnancy hormones made me feel like everything was right. Even with my worries, I still felt that everything was going to be ok. I really miss that feeling and the pretty skin and pretty hair. I'd love to get PG again, though my second one probably won't go as smoothly, since I enjoyed my first one so much.

Answer 10

hiya my first pregnancy was a lot easier than my second pregnancy, but i worried alot throughout it, i keot praying that i would not loose my unborn and that everything would be fine, i also prayed that if god had to take a life that it would be mine as soon as the babay was born. i was in a very abusove rrelationship in my first pregnancy which didnt help but i got thorugh it, i was premamture and had my babay at 36weeks. i am now 9 months preganant and this has been the worse pregnancy that i have had to go through, i am constantly feeling ill and feeling down and tired. my partner to thids child is an alchoholic which doesnt hel[p as we argure all the time about his drinking and his behaviour, i am living at home with my parents too which is very stressful but i hope to be in my own home at the end of the week. the first 12 weeks in both pregnancy were very differnet from each othyer for example with my first pregnancy i did not know i was pregnant until i was 5 months gone, but before that i was very ill adn thnorwing up projhectoi;e vomit, plus i ran fevers. with this pregnancy i had morning sickness al thne time inm the morning and the afternoon and even in the night and evening time it was very stressful plus as i have had numerous miscarriages i was terrified that i would loose this child aswell as all the others that i have lost in my life, so the 12 weeks were very stressful this time around plus people were not being very supportive towards me saying i only got pregnant to get housed and also the fact i was on drugs when i got pregnant also did not help.the joys i had in my first pregnancy was feeling the baby move the first time hearing her little heartbeat on the sonarsound machine, ity was a miracle to me, to see her on the scanner monitor. i was also lucky with the labour as i was only in labour for 10 whooleminutes befreo she came into this world. she weighed 6lb 2oz. my little miracle. i hope this all helps you some how.