Just recently I was placed in a new department. I must "report" to a girl who has been with the company for just a few months. Although there isn't a considerable difference in level between us- she is the coordinator and she does train me.
Recently she has been giving me a really hard time. She has been so Meticulous when it come to doing my job. She will check on me every 20 minutes, She will send me an email every 20 mins just check on what I am doing. She will always comment on small details being incorrect. Last time she even asked me were I was when I had left the office for 2 mins to go to the toilet!!
Just yesterday- she took all my xmas decorations down and re-did them because she thought they were messsy!
I am going crazy- I feel like an idiot. I do know how to do my job after 2 years. I feel like I can't be trusted. I am going crazy! What do I do?
2007-12-03 02:03:57 · 13 answers · asked by emmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it really worth reporting? Won't my supervisor think I am being silly? They might just see it as her doing her job properly?
2007-12-03 02:12:52 · update #1
The best way to handle a situation like this is to have a meeting with her. You calmly sit down and discuss how you feel, being careful not to blame her. Here is what I might say, remembering that you don't want to have a full blown arguement with her and destroy your job:
Sally, I kinda feel like I am not doing a good enough job around here. I feel like alot of what I do is being re-done and I wanted to come to you to find out what I need to do to be a better employee? (this statement is not threatening and shows you have a desire to fix whatever is wrong, without pointing the finger at her)
I am very happy with my job and being a part of this team, and I want to be part of the solution to the problems we face and not a part of the problem. I admire your work and would like to know what I can do to be better. (at this point you let her resond and I assure you she will probably either tell you what she doesn't like about your work or she will do 15 minute speech on how much she likes you, either way you will then be talking)
The whole point is to open conversation with her about these things but to do it in a non-threatening way.
The other option is to just let it build up until you snap.
Yoda out
2007-12-03 02:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
I feel for you. I understand what you're going thru because at my work there are a couple crazy b's that just enjoy feeling like they have power and are better than everyone else. I have no idea why someone would like to make the work day miserable, because we are there for so much time out of our lives. Here's what I did, I learned that she liked it more when she could tell she was getting a rise out of me. So, I never let on that she was bothering me. I was just myself, nice and cordial. Even though inside my head I was calling her a couple expletive names. The thing is, you need her to get trained, which sucks, so you just have to be strong and get thru that. Once it is over, hopefully once she learns that she isn't accomplishing driving you crazy, she will move onto someone else or in the best scenario she will lighten up and learn that work doesn't have to be a war zone.
Good luck with your situation, the main part is to always remember and keep in the back of your mind, that you are the better person. You should not suffer because she is messed up. So don't let your job or your career history suffer because of one horribly mean chick.
2007-12-03 10:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by jval 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens, alot. My suggestion is to get a HR mediator and talk to her with the HR mediator there. Tell her that you want to grow with the company but with her micro-managing, it is difficult to be creative, inventive, or get any tasks done. That is she would like that you can do a email at the end of the day to update her on completed tasks that way she still feels in control of something.
2007-12-03 10:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dealt with a couple of those myself. The passive-aggressive attempts at over control are really difficult to deal with. I suggest going to your HR coordinator and explaining that you feel very uncomfortable with the situation and you would like some advice on how to deal with it because she is making it difficult for you to do YOUR job. Throw in the words 'hostile work enviroment' and they should jump to make sure its resolved. Good luck!
2007-12-03 10:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to set up a meeting with her and her boss. Also before you do that, keep a notebook and record all of this. She may be feeling like she can do her job, and is trying to over compensate. You need to tell her she is micro managing and you need space to do your job without being interrupted every 10 minutes.
2007-12-03 10:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she "always comment on small details being incorrect" then I think you are not doing your job well enough. Maybe your company placed you in that department for that very reason.
2007-12-03 10:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know what your job is and you know how to do it. Tell her you dont need her checking on you and if you need help you will seek her out. I would have reamed her a new a-ho for touching my decorations. I would also tell her that while you do have a work station..you are NOT chained to it and sometimes do and will leave it to take care of YOUR perosnal business. Hows that?
2007-12-03 10:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u try talking it out to her?Like what is it that she expects? to report to you even if u wanna pee??? Either she is so jeolous of your gorgeous body or she thinks you are after her job. ;)
Anyway, next time b4 she send you email to check on you, i think you shd send her an email first telling her what you're gonna do. Since she thinks she's so 'good', next time you wanna hang anything up or whatever, ask her first. if she wants to do it herself, even better. less work for you. make sure you have 'proof' like email confirmation to say she wanna do it herself.
One more thing, be nicer to HER boss..
2007-12-03 10:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ice Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her directly. She may not know she is making you feel like this. If that doesn't work, go to HR. They may be able to place you under someone who is not on a power trip.
I think this woman is just excited because she has a tiny bit of power.
2007-12-03 10:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Edub_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bake her some brownies...but don't forget to add a box of Ex Lax to the mix....and watch her run to the toilet every 5 minutes....
Have you talked to her boss about how she is treating you? Sounds to me like she is just wanting to throw her "power" around a bit.....
2007-12-03 10:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋