My niece is 13 yrs old. She is very pretty, bright but mostly she is a sweet, loving young lady. She is an only child. Since she has been in 8th grade, there are a couple of "mean" girls - girls that just don't like her for some unknown reason. I think they are jealous b/c that is usually what happens between girls. She doesn't get invited to parties that these girls are going to.
I think she is too nice and that's part of the problem. If she fought , I think they would back down. My sister-in-law wants her to be all nice-nice and act like it doesn't bother her that these girls are saying mean things. My niece is a "good girl" - she doesn't date and my brother & his wife made her cancel her myspace page b/c it was becoming an obsession with her.
Some of these mean girls are already having sex!!!
Is there any advice that I could give her to help with this situation? I hate to think of these girls being mean to such a sweet girl.
2007-12-03 01:29:24 · 6 answers · asked by asldfkjdfj 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's an awful thing, bullying between girls, and I think sometimes it can be much more malicious than with boys. Bullying in groups of girls is also usually quite subtle and much more difficult to detect and when it is brought to the attention of adults and teachers they often say there is nothing they can do about it even though there is no doubt that these girls are doing something wrong and harmful. The thing is sometimes they don't even realise they are bullying someone, they kid themselves and blame the victim instead. Unfortunately there's not much you can do about your niece not being invited to parties, forcing the other girls to do so would just make them resent her. I have no doubt that these girls are merely jealous of her, boy probably like her because she is nice, pretty and intelligent and boys probably prefer her much more than these "mean girls", if they are having sex at this age, it must be about being popular with boys. And of course to make them look good, they must make her look bad and therefore anyone who associates with her. Are these girls making your niece's life hell? If so, I would advise you to subtley alert a teacher. Yes she should ignore their bulliying but she should also, where appropriate, defend herself and not let them walk all over her. Her parents sound a little controlling not letting her have myspace, I know it's very wrong but at 13 years old, I think it best to conform slightly, and restricting her from having myspace etc will just make her seem more different from everyone else, singleing her out. It is unfortunate she is an only child because a sister or brother could support her more than anyone really. I suggest if this bullying is going to far, and making her very distressed, let someone know and do something about it. The only thing I can say to comfort you is that, 13 is usually the worst age and girls will usually grow out of it, mostly anyway, I'm now in sixth form and it's virtually nonexistent.
2007-12-03 02:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 23:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by ludlum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to hold her head up and rise above those second rate girls. They are jealous. If she looks for them, she will find more girls like her and they won't be so mean. She will be happier to be around like kind. And she doesn't deserve the ill treatment. Tell her to make a big joke of those girls and to act like she thinks their menace is as funny as they think it is. It won't continue if they lose the fun they're having and by doing that and laughing at their attempts to be mean. Soon they will see that they have lost the edge and go away.
2007-12-03 02:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before giving advice to her first grow her self confidence.I feel she is lacking in it.Give her good knowledge of sex and its after hindrance, about the society.Try to become a good friend of her.
2007-12-03 01:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jayanto M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa I'm her age. To tell you the truth she has to stick up for her self. Next time they say something be like whoa thats not cool or why would you say that........shut up............wow ur not nice.
you got to say SOMETHING!!
seriously thats the only way I make it through school.
Tell her to stick up for her self.
2007-12-03 01:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by xxprincessniaxx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one has to face the problems during the life, if one can face it he/she is successful.
2007-12-03 01:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋