If you were a teen mother...?

Question

and you DID work
you DIDN'T recieve welfare(except Medicaid)
you DIDN'T drink or do drugs
you DID take full responsibility
you DIDN'T ever abuse or neglect your baby

why should you still have to live with people's assumptions that you live off the system and are a bad parent?
Why does this happen? Opinions?

ANd another thing, it's also not fair that guys seem to think that you're a sex atarved harlot just because you got pregnant. That irritated me so bad!

Answer 1

it happens because some girls use motherhood as a way not to have to go to work, and people lump all single mothers in the same class.

it's stupid i know to assume that all people do things for the same reason, but they do. I to worked, didn't get welfare, didn't do drink or drugs took responsibility and didn't abuse my son, and that was 25 years ago it was even harder then and peoples opinions were if anything worse. I had to deal with men who thought that as I was a single mum i must be desperate for sex.

people will think whatever they want, you know you are doing the right thing and thats all that really matters. don't let stupid people worry you. get on with raising your child

Answer 2

Unfortunately, I think this happens because too many people think of teenagers as irresponsible. I'm not a teen mother, and I do work, and I am responsible and don't do drugs and don't use welfare, and I still get the assumption that I'm a bad parent, and that I live off of the system. I guess it just depends on who you talk to.

Answer 3

My sister was a mom at 16....she stayed in school, got straight A's and went to the local community college (she even got on the Dean's List in college!) She had to deal with people's opinions all the time. Especially with family who are Catholic! She proved them all wrong needless to say. Her son, my nephew is now 8 yrs old. She and my bro in law - My nephew's father, got married last year and bought a house 2 yrs ago. I am so proud of her. But it took awhile for everyone to really see that she could do it.

Don't get discouraged. It will happen. It will take time. Look at Britney Spears for example. She gives all moms a bad name and she has/had all the money in the world but still can't take care of her boys. When people hear "teen parent" they expect the worst.

Answer 4

Because people always stereotype others.

"Teen mothers are 'bad' 'no good' people who have EBT cards and get all the Wics they want. They use their extra money to buy beer for their boyfriends and the baby is usually neglected and turns out to be a troubled child."

That's just a common stereotype. It's a common ERROR in the lives of judgemental Americans. Don't worry. It's not your fault that most of the world is shallow.

Answer 5

I have no idea I guess some people are just to close minded to ever believe a teen mother could be a great mother. I think anyone has potential to be a wonderful mother no matter the age!

Answer 6

unfortunately this is and will be the case forever and always...but as a responsible adult you must remain confident in yourself enough to know you don't have to prove anything to anyone except those that love and support you. people that have the nerve to "snoot" thier nose up at you without knowing the situation and even without caring to lend a helping hand should not hold power to your position in life. hold your head high and strong because there will always be someone with an opinion and in the end it is only yours that matters!

Answer 7

Sadly we always react to first impression. Just because the mother looks young we all jump to conclusion.

If this is you, or a friend, just shrug it off. People are going to think whatever they want to think. As long as you (or your friend) know the truth, who cares?

I've lived my life on the premise that as long as I know that what I'm doing is the right thing, let others think whatever they want. It's hard to totally ignore it, but just be reassured that those close to you and that love you, know the truth and that is all that matters.

Answer 8

hi!i was a teen mom myself,i had my first son when i was 15 years old,everybody has a image of us not being able to be a mother and not being able to support our kids because of our age,you there is no perfect age out there that could make you a good mom,you could be any age and be a good mom or a bad mom and it sucks that people think just because your young that you are unable to be a good mother,i remember how it feels like to be judged and that you feel that you have to make sure everything is perfect,because of my age i felt like people were watching how i would to things with my son,and that it wasen't ok for him to be sick or nothing,just do your thing,and don't worry about anybody else enjoy your time with your child(s)and don't let nobody tell you that your not a good mom,im sure your a great mom and want's the samething that a 40 year old mom would want for there kids,nobody is perfect at this,every mom makes mistakes age don't matter,don' feel bad if you have questions or if you feel like it mite be to much sometimes,trust me a older mom feels the same way but people think because there older that there perfect mothers,thats (crap) oh! one more thing being a mom dosen't meen that your life ends your allowed to still go out sometimes and have time to yourself,every mom needs to take time for themself,it doesen't make you a bad mom,your allowed to have drinks if you want to,and people who assume that your a bad parent is because there were bad parents,or wont admite that they made mistakes themselfs,mistakes is what you need to be a good mom,thats how every mother out there learns.just do your best and trust me on how many mistakes you feel you made or blame yourself for things you shouldn't or should of done,just spened alot of time with your kids,and help them grow and become good parents themselfs,It's not easy and it gets harder as they get older,both of you will learn along the way.don't give up,keep up your good work!!!!
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Answer 9

Because majority of teens who have children are on welfare.I don't know about the drugs or the neglect but alot of teens are also involved with childrens services.

Answer 10

I dont know i work for me and my baby i do not live of the government. I guess people just think that your too young and lazy to do anything which isnt true.